My teenage son seems to have some problems.
When he was born, he lacked the willingness to live. My wife and I had to force-feed and make him sleep because all he would do was cry all day long. His health has improved and he is alive. However, we have always been confused about him. Although he smiles and laughs sometimes, there has always been this feeling of death that seems to come out of him. His personality isn't clear and we are still uncertain of what kind of person he really is. He lacks motivation and will power.
We decided to accept him because we believed that it was just part of his personality. But, since he is the most talented and intelligent child in our family, we feel like it would be a waste for him to have this sort of dead attitude. We sometimes scold him for this and tell him how ashamed we are that even though he was born with all these gifts and talents, he doesn't seem have the driving power to make him succeed. Recently, his younger brother told us that
2007-11-07 02:39:48 · 8 answers · asked by coolguy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
our "dead-like" son has had about ten suicide attempts behind our backs, all of which were unsuccessful because his younger brother stopped him each time.
We, as parents, are becoming increasingly worried and we would like to know what would be a possible diagnosis (if any) for our son. Reading parenting books, we have never found anything about children like our son.
If there would be a solution, what would it be?
2007-11-07 02:44:28 · update #1
He has depression, how do you not realize that? Definitely saying you're ashamed of him won't do anything but make it worse. I would get him on medication and reward instead of punish. When he doesn't something good reward him, don't worry about the punishment. I'm a very depressed teenager prety much all I can get happy/excited about is sex or food, and I know when my mom punishes me it doesn't do anything because I already feel worthless and like crap all the time so the punishement is like nothing. It's like how do you hurt something that's dead?
2007-11-07 02:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Derek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm hoping that you are misrepresenting yourself here. There is so much here that is negative! Children need to absorb and feel unconditional love, confidence, respect, tollerance, pride, praise...
You have said:
you both are confused about him, he is alive, feeling of death that comes out of him, uncertain of what kind of person he really is, lacks motivation and will power, you decided to accept him, dead attitude, how ashamed we are,he hides things from you both, suicide attempts.
Positive things:
improved health, smiles and laughs at times, most talented and intelligent child, he has gifts and talents.
PLEASE.... please take your whole family and find a REALLY GOOD doctor and get PROFESSIONAL HELP!
These problems are not with just your son. Quite frankly with parents who feel and radiate these type of emotions and thoughts it's not suprising that all of you are having problems. You may not even be aware this is happening, but I can assure you it's very powerful and needs to be dealt with.
My son was premature, four pounds, also lethargic... I too, had to force feed him. He couldn't clear his own throat until he was 3 months old... I never put him down, he slept on my bare chest... I loved him... alive... I would hum to him constantly, he could hum before he could cry. I will never forget the first time he hummed... he had to struggle so hard and he was so very tiny. It was a wonderful moment, I will never forget it! Not once did I associate him with feelings of death. Not once did I have to decide to accept him!
2007-11-07 03:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help urgently. And never ever tell him stuff like "when i was your age" or "i am ashamed of you". I am sure his goal in life is NOT to go against everything you want of him.
2007-11-07 03:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by concerneddd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a lack of faith in your son. Whether it be a faith in god, a faith in humanity, a faith in life or even a faith in himself. Human beings tend to trudge forward in life drawn by their faith in something.
Your son needs to find a reason to rejoice, some reason that is more welcoming then just the finality of death. Everyone has a purpose, he needs to find his.
2007-11-07 02:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by theCATALYST 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um a sort of intrinsic severe depressive disorder...the best guess i got is major depressive disorder... treated with SSRIs (anti-depressants).. and of course psychotherapy..but u cant just stand there and watch anymore. Your job as a parent is to take action.
2007-11-07 02:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by delco714 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ALL need counseling. If you honestly believe a newborn baby wanted to die, then you're just as sick as the kid is and probably why he's sick now.
You refer to him as the "dead-like" son his entire life then wonder why he wants to kill himself?? Golly gee...
2007-11-07 02:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jaybe you're putting too much preasure on him. Sounds like his spirit is dead. Give him a bible.
2007-11-07 03:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow..seek professional help..must be some misswiring in his brain
2007-11-07 02:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋