I work with 3 other girls as au pairs and we usually have a schedule tellings us who does what and on what days. Last week, I switch with one of the girls who wanted to go out shopping with her mom. And a couple of weeks ago, I switched with someone who wanted to go to a concert. This Friday my boyfriend is back town but only for a couple of days then he has to leave again to go on another flight. I have to work but I asked one of them to switch with me and they said no! I was really pissed off, and I overheard them this morning saying I was just a spoiled brat who always calls and whines to her boyfriend. Yes, I do call him when I'm upset and tell him about it but who doesn't call the person they love when they need comforting? I don't get it what their problem is. Wouldn't it only be fair if they do me one small favor?
2007-11-07 02:35:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thats the world girl.......wat favours u do for others makes u feel gud........but they dnt even realize it........ppl r reallly mean in this world.......
so if u keep doin favours to others they r reallly gonna take it for granted.......
i know v dnt remind ppl of favours v do coz its bad......but call em out n remind em wat u had done for em........let em think u r mean........as if they werent.......
atleast u will hav sum gud time wid ur love..........
2007-11-07 03:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by crazyash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be nice if people could do in kind what was done for them...but not all do.
Don't do things for others expecting the same in return, do things because it makes you feel good and you want to do those things. Then if someone does something for you it feels great and if they don't you are not angry or upset. Doing things for others with "strings" attached is usually a recipe for disappointment.
Next time they want to switch and you want the favor returned, state that condition up front so there is no misunderstandings or assumptions, thus no hard feelings. If you can always predetermine the switch times upfront. So If asked simply say "Let me check and get back to you." Then call boyfriend and see if you can pre-plan time together. Then arrange the switch with your co-worker.
Good Luck.
2007-11-07 10:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair? Regardless of what they should do, a favor is just that. You are doing something to help someone else out. There shouldn't be any expectation of returning it. You might want to look at your aproach.
They said you are whiny, and the sound of the post says you are expecting things of them. Maybe you should think about what they would be giving up to fulfill your obligations if they do work for you and re-ask them with a grateful attitude for their sacrifices.
I'm not saying they shouldn't do it, but maybe there are other reasons why they aren't. Plus you said you asked one of them. What about the other one? Go in with the attitude of thanking them for their sacrifice so you can have what you want and you might get better results. Of course that applies to everything in life...
2007-11-07 10:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..it would be common courtesy for one of them to return the favor to you! Just take this as a lesson learned and remember this the next time they ask you to switch with them! I've been burned by this before as well! Ya know how the saying goes..."you find out who your friends are". Sounds like they are not friends...just co-workers who only ask for your help when it's beneficial to them! Just take this as a lesson learned!
2007-11-07 10:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, they would have switched shifts with you but alas we are not in such a world. There will always be selfish people like them and there will always be selfless people like you. I hope it's a lesson learned that these girls are not your friends...they're just co-workers and you don't have to be so nice to them. So next time one of them wants to switch with you, just tell them "Sorry, I can't." Don't even give them an excuse. If you want to attempt to switch with them sometime later, don't mention why...just say you have some personal matters to attend to.
Also, sounds like they may be jealous of you having a boyfriend and are just being spiteful so you can't go see him Like I said, they're not your friends...don't trust them as far as you can throw them.
2007-11-07 10:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by koiboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call those self-centered skanks out immediately. Tell them don't EVER ask for another favor again.
2007-11-07 10:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you are right a favor for a favor . but if they don't want to help you don't help them anymore
2007-11-07 10:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by holly s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋