my husband and long haul trucking?

Question

my husband moved our family to ingersoll ontario last year and i have no friends and he just recently got laid off and now he is working his other job but he is not making enough money to pay our morgage and he is thinking about going back to long haul trucking and i have no one here that i can hang out with and i have no licence and i have three kids i have a 5 year old and a 15 month old and a 4 month old and all my family is up north and he wants me to stay down here while he goes long haul trucking i just don't think i could do it i will be lonley and bored what would you do if you were in my situwation i want to move back up north by my parents where i can have help

Answer 1

I don't think it's too much to ask of your husband to move back by your parents if he's going to be doing 'long haul' trucking.

Would he rather you hang with your family or be left alone or even worse hanging with some strangers.

Sit him down and explain to him what you need.....hopefully he'll see that it's the best solution for all. Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Explain to him that you're going to be lonely without a support network. You won't have him around, so you might as well be close to family and your old friends. Since he's trucking, he shouldn't really mind, not to mention you can rent out your current house to help pay towards the mortgage. Hopefully you won't have to pay rent if you move back in with your parents, so that would save even more money.

He's probably just upset that you would have to move back home when he should be providing for you, but don't look at it as a defeat on his part, but as a move you're making to help save money, too. Maybe offer this to him as a temporary arrangement. Give it six months to a year, and see how it works out.

Good luck!

Answer 3

No. I have been there. When my husband got out of the military he ended up driving a truck. It didn't work for us. I spent five years rarely seeing him with the Army. Driving a truck was just as bad. He was better off in the military. However, I met several girlfriends and wives of truckers during this experience. The lifestyle worked well for them. They were very independent and were either going to school or had very long hours themselves. I also met several couples that team drove. They seemed to enjoy it a lot. The women were happy to see the country and spend time with their hubbies.

Answer 4

Never ever allow someone to be you sole support. Not mentally, emotionally, or financially. One day that person may not be here. I'm not saying do not love your husband. What I'm saying is - get a job... Every aspect of work is self rewarding. You gain friends, through friends you gain a social life. You have extra income. I'm aware that you have small children. There are Mother's Day out programs at local churches. It isn't up to your family or your husband to "make" you happy. It's up to you! Realizing this will turn your life around. The internet is a wonderful way to get a business started! Look at the young girl who has the page layouts for myspace. Advertisers have rushed to place their ads on her site. She is a millionaire @ 17yrs old! Don't give up! Stand up & find your way!!!

Answer 5

Go out and get your license and get a car to do for yourself. How do you get around and do things if the husband isn't there? You have to be able to take care of yourself, because whether or not your husband is a long haul driver you have to be able to stand on your own. Get a job if you have to and let the kids stay with someone or put them in daycare. This will allow you to make friends and get out and meet people along with earn a little extra money.

Answer 6

Both of you go out and buy a laptop at most truck stop nowadays have wifi connections so you can stay in touch buy each other cams so you can see each other to so he can talk with the children so they know he is still apart of there live and working like this to keep a roof over your head , have to go where the work is .. If its a sex issue both go to aq shop and find toys for each ohter , toys are better then cheating

Answer 7

You have to understand that he MUST do what he can to support you and your kids. He must make the sacrafices necessary to provide for the family, and so must you. That means, if he has to drive truck to make a living, that's the way it is; you have to support it. Otherwise, you've got nothing.
Now, there are things you can do to make it easier on yourself. I suggest you join a church. Take the kids. They probably have activities that the kids can participate in while you get to know some of the other people in your new town. Your kids will make friends too.
If church is not your thing, find some other group activity where your kids can make friends and YOU can make friends. It's what YOU can do while your husband is out trying to make a living; help to make your household a happy, healthy place for your kids to grow up.
Try to remain positive. Your kids will reflect your attitude and will respond to the situation the way you do.
Things will work out. Have faith in your abilities as a woman and a mom, just as you have faith in your husband's abilities to provide for you financially.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I'd go back north, although I thought the only thing north of Ingersoll was the Pole.

Answer 9

Get your license! Get out and make friends with other mothers of small children near you. They will make a great support system. My husband trucked and while he was gone, I cranked the stereo up and whipped the house into shape and put away fruits and vegetables for the winter. I tried new recipes on the kids, took them to the park and had time to sew and crochet. Then when he was home, I had time to spend with him.

Answer 10

if he is going to be a truck driver why does that matter were you are located? id say speak to him and find out, he should be understanding that you have nothing around. then again you can make friends around there