I believe on Sundays the wife should take the kids and go out for the day and leave the man alone to watch the games in peace or with his friends. Is this wrong?
other details: spend lots of other time with my family and my wife durring the week and on sat.
2007-11-07 01:45:15 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When NFL is on, I'm going nowhere except to the kitchen for more snacks and drinks for everyone. We make a party of every Sunday. It's unreasonable of your wife to expect you to give up football on Sundays. Does she want a husband or a puppy?
2007-11-07 02:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
In answer to your original ? the answer is no, not according to the Bible. Biblical grounds include infidelity, abandonment, and possibly abuse. (nagging doesn't constitute abuse.)
I will ask you a couple of questions to see if I can help you get at the real root cause of this dilemma.
* Did she know this about you before she married you, or has this habit escalated since then?
* What exactly is it she wants you to do on Sunday instead of watch football--is it something that is on a schedule, such as attending church with her? (If that's it, have you ever heard of TiVo?)
* Define "lots" of other time--are you taking a turn with the kids by yourself and giving her a break on Saturdays or other times during the week?
* Are there "honey-dos" and DIY chores that are piling up un-tended-to that she feels are your responsibility? Can you address these earlier in the week or hire them done to give yourself more free time on Sunday?
* Is there any way to include your family in "game day"--many families enjoy doing this together--is it really the football-watching she objects to, or are you using this as an excuse to leave home & go out drinking with the guys?
Mull over this list and analyze the situation as best you can to see where the exact point of conflict lies. Sit down with her calmly at a time other than game day and take the iniative on working out a compromise. Figure out a way to give a little somewhere as well as laying out what your expectations are and see if you can come to some sort of agreement.
For example, you are allowed to watch X number of games per week without interruption. In exchange she can do (fill in the blank) on Saturday while you watch the kids (or other chore as agreed to). Maybe you could even have something like a "football jar". You have to pay so much to the jar for each game you watch, and she has to pay so much for every time she nags you about it. When the jar is full, you can use the $$ for a special family outing, etc.
If your marriage is good otherwise, something like this may work. If it isn't, this conflict is just a symptom of a larger problem. Try to see it from her side if you can, and be willing to give to get. Good luck!
2007-11-07 02:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's put it this way. Do you take the kids out for the day on Saturday so your wife can relax in a nice bubblebath and watch television for the day? Somehow I doubt it. Nagging is not grounds for divorce, although if I were her I'd wonder if you considering yourself "the man" who deserves time alone is grounds for divorce. You think way to highly of yourself from what I can tell and you need to realize that you married and you had children and sometimes we don't get what we want all the time. Life isn't fair, get used to it. TIVO the game, spend time with your family and watch the game later. Or, ever so often, go to a friends to see the game and you leave the house. Your family shouldn't have to displace themselves just because you want them out. They're your family, deal with it.
2007-11-07 01:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wishful thinking if you think a bit of nagging gives you grounds for divorce; guess you can't have it all. When you signed up for having kids, you signed up for life. Sorry, but that's the truth. When your kids are older and at the stage of having their own social lives, yes, you can start to re-claim what you feel you lost. You know, my best memories of my own dad are from Sundays, when he would loosen up the tie, and run around the garden with us playing hide-and-seek. My own kids happy memories are all of their dad and me playing games with them on a Sunday.
They won't be small forever - and believe me, you will deeply regret time lost. You are a family man; put the footie and the mates on the back burner. Or, if you want to compromise, start taking the kids to football matches yourself!
2007-11-07 01:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never understand why it is a woman gets so upset when her husband wants to watch sports on TV. I do not understand the logic behind it. My husband is a fanactic when it comes to sports and I do not see anything wrong with it. It is something he enjoys. If a man is balancing his time between sports and family then why should it be wrong? Some women are just selfish and want all the time from their husbands to themselves. I would advise any man going through this to reverse this on his wife, spend every waking minute with her, do not give her time for her girlfreinds and do not let her enjoy all the things she likes to do. She will get the message real quick. Come on wives, give your man a little slack and let him watch his sports. Trust me, he will reward and appreciate you even more so!
2007-11-07 02:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People in relationships have to learn to give and take. If you guys are hanging out and having family time or watching Lifetime television and everything is cool, thats great. But if 30 minutes later your watching the game and now all of a sudden the garage needs to be cleaned then thats just her being a nag. Tell her to shut it!
2007-11-07 02:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jason M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for you because you are just looking for a reason to get a divorce. if these are your problems you should be happy. now i feel sorry for your wife because she has to deal with you every day. who cares how much time you spend with them she shouldn't have to leave her house in order to make you more comfortable. don't be selfish, how many times have you taken the kids out of her hair, so she could get some down time. remember who you married and for what reasons. yes you are wrong.
2007-11-07 01:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by 1monkey2butterflies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their r ways to tape the games dude. I am a sports nut as well But my wife and kids come first. They r only young once.You better get involved with them or you will be at the short end of the stick and it will be costly!!!!!
2007-11-07 04:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by mcconnellukcatfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not grounds for divorce. Why don't you just talk to her and let her know that you would like some time for yourself to just watch football. If what you say is true and that you spend time with your family during the week and on Sat. I don't think there should be a problem.
2007-11-07 01:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by why ask 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
to your wife, a yes.
to you, a don't know, and that's why you ask.
to the lawyers, yes, (wow, got business now.)
to me, nonsense.
the problem I look at it is all about your preferred life style and the gap with her version.
why not have a good talk over this, or go for a counselling.
also it is not all being physically be with your family but let them feel you, feel that you are there caring, loving them, standby them at all times......
to your wife, a yes, a yes to wake you up, an alternative to tell you that she is unhappy with the "football".
2007-11-07 01:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋