My husband has told his mother (his parents have money) that we would like a treadmill for Christmas. I told him it would be nice to have one months and months ago. Mind you, we are broker than a joke, we have BILLS! I'm pregnant due december 30th, and we have very little for the new baby. I'm most likely going to have a repeat c-section. We have an 1100 square foot townhouse with no real room for a treadmill. Is it just me or is he basically asking his mother to buy him a really expensive gift and pretending that I want it? seeing as I won't even be able to use it for months after my baby is born?
It may even sound like I'm selfishly whining about not getting somethin I want from my husbands parents, but my real concern is that he wants to put this particular one on layaway, and put $200 of our dollars on it. We're about 8 and 1/2 months behind on all that we owe right now. what the hell? is he just totally in denial, or headed into some kind of early midlife crisis?
2007-11-07 01:17:43 · 10 answers · asked by tenpointsgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell them , and him that your really worried about your bills,
And pretend you know nothing about the request for a treadmill, put it out of your head,
and at Thanksgiving Dinner, Tell everyone your worried about the BILLS, and when she asks what you need for the baby, Say, I don't want anything for the baby, but maybe you could Pay the light bill, it 250 dollars this month,or cable or the phone we're behind.
Honestly, tell her your worried about it,
and that would make you feel a bit better.
If she mentions the treadmill, say, yeah those are such a waste of money, especially when we're in arrears with the Gas and electric for 8.5 months
When your MIL offers you leftovers, Say, OH thank you,this will do for the WHOLE week, and save us 50 dollars on groceries.
THIS WAY she will know what your real Christmas wish is,
If you husband said you need the treadmill, to loose weight,
Say,I can walk with the baby up the street to the park for FREE
why would i need a treadmill,
plus a gym membership is only 10 buck a month at planet fitness
Don't stress, everyting will be ok trust me,
Just tell your INlaws how very worried you are about the mounting bills, and Believe me they will either get on his BUTT to get his act together, OR help you financially,
As far as the baby goes, Tell them, your gonna get stuff from the second hand store, or www.freecycle.org
or she can wear her brothers clothes ( Don't worry you will get gifts for the baby too)
You just want to put you point accross, make them worry as much as your worrying, OK
Good luck
Meg
( been there, )
2007-11-07 01:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should NOT put one on layaway. Buying a treadmill while you are behind on the bills is a bad idea. Asking the parents for one at Christmas is fine though. ( I doubt he is comfy with asking for $$ from his parents as a Christmas gift. )
2007-11-07 02:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the possibility that he took it to heart when you expressed your wish to have the treadmill months ago , realized that he was not in a position to buy it , and sees that the opportunity to get it for you ( so that you can regain your level of finess after the baby comes ) is gone unless his parents get it for you ?
Why should his parents be expected to pay the bills that you and he have accumulated ?
2007-11-07 01:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by gillemhor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol he is denial!! Are you close to his mom and dad?I would call mom and say I think its wonderful idea but not this yr we have a new baby coming and really need other top priority items.Besides I do not have the room for it with all the baby items that need set up swings,jumpers,walkers etc.
who has layaway anymore?walmart did away with it!!they were the only ones i knew still had it.
Just explain to her you would apprecite new baby items more so..explain to hubby you would love one next yr so you can get back into shape after the baby but not this yr ...;)
2007-11-07 01:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by hugsandhissyfits 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No he's slowly putting you guys in the poor house. I'd be concerned about your financial stability. No need for a treadmill when you can get out and walk! BABIES come first!
You guys need to prioritize!
2007-11-07 01:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is being very selfish right now. To think about a gift like that while you are hurting financially is childish. Tell him you do not want it that you would rather have something for the baby. If he does not like it to bad. Do you really want to spend time with someone that is that shelfish?
2007-11-07 01:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Babe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell his parents, "Hey, you wana hear something really funny?" Then go into detail about your husband asking for a treadmill.
2007-11-07 01:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Do you know how many people are willing to give away exercise equipment -- hardly used?
2007-11-07 01:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is free to walk outside
2007-11-07 01:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your husband is being selfish
2007-11-07 01:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋