im a 30 year old borderline personality disorder sufferer...its been like this alot of my life and ive never built up any friendships.....or ive never had a relationship either.....i have major low self esteem. i get clingy with people.....latch on to them.....lean to heavy on them.....feel dependant, reliant.......want intimacy at an early stage.........then they get scent of this and normally leave or reject me.
most times i meet new people which is mostly over the internet, which is my main contact with people....im stuck for anything to say.....feel remote from other people....everything is forced.....strained from me......like its an effort to converse with them.
ive had a really bad traumatic life.....i have major low self esteem issues...i feel that bad about myself....ive never accomplished anything.
never been employed...gained qualifications...live in a one bedroom apartment on social security.
its like i feel i have nothing to give..totally worthless,unworthy of others
2007-11-07 00:54:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all, recognize that you are not worthless and shouldn't feel worthless. Be patient with yourself-assess yourself objectively. A little self examination can help allot. I'm very certain that you have many good qualities, recognize those good qualities and capitalize on them. We all have faults-we're simply not perfect. I suffer from PTSD due to experiences during wartime(unfortunately the most recent one). I am aware of my problems and do my best to live with them. Its not easy but you have a choice; Wake in the morning, promise yourself a good day, work hard through your issues and trust in God. Or........roll over and waste away! Which is it for you? I see a doctor weekly, I take medication but I also know the rest is up to me.
You have a friend here- I see the good qualities and their potentials in how you write.
Good luck to you.
2007-11-07 01:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by knight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Air supply: Until you learn to love yourself and be your Friend, you cannot expect people to essentially love you. If you have no idea who you are, how can I?
You need to change your mental thoughts- try and make them positive. Do the things that are important to you, if it's to get qualifications or to be employed, go and do this. You struggle to communicate because you feel like everyone has a common ground to build friendships, and you don't. This kind of thinking will not help you. The Internet is not exactly the best place to make true friends- you feel remote from people because a computer does not omit any emotions. Try and get out more.
A lot of people have had bad traumatic life's. It's up to the individual to rise above circumstances and make life how you would like it to be. You can accept your 'misfortunes,' learn from them and be stronger for it, or you can live in the past and wallow in self pity. The choice is yours.
2007-11-07 01:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get outside that room and do something, maybe somekind of volunteer work or go to church. Start believing in yourself, start believing you can make a difference, choose to be an overcomer. There is nothing wrong with asking for help neither, take one step forward and I know for a fact the good Lord will take two for you. He did for me. And remember building friendships is about caring for others and forgetting about yourself, to truely love is to forget about self. So get out of that room, and start smiling about life, choose to just do it. And see if you don't start feeling better! Maybe just stand in one spot and say Hi or Hello to everyone who walks by, you might be surprised by some of the reactions you will get!!!
2007-11-08 05:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest wit u i kno how u feel cuz at times(which is a lot) i feel that i am and i mean nothing to even the most ejected person in the world. i feel that the only reason people deal wit me is becuse they feel sorry for me. nobody will listen to me and everyone acts like they don't even see me. and the killin part is that i don't just deal wit it at school. i deal wit it at home and in the streets as well. don't feel like ur alone because ur not i kno exactly how u feel. u can always talk to me my e-mail irenealways313@yahoo.com. keep in touch.
2007-11-07 01:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by black beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idky - i wanna be ur friend.
I think u would get more answers to ur quest. if u didnt start out with all the background info. in every quest. Ppl dnt like to reach long lengthy things. Just get to the quest. without all the history.
2007-11-07 00:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not worthless or unworthy to me. and i'm not going to be like the people who reject u , i will be there if u need me. these people just don't understand u and your problem , or they just using u. but i don't do that , i'm a real friend to anyone , no matter what problem they have. just be yourself and i will be sure someone will notice who unique and brave person u are. and please stop doubting yourself.
2007-11-07 04:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. I have lived with panic disorder & social phobia most of my life, but reading your comments leads me to say........you listed everything you dont like about yourself but nothing about what you do like about yourself.
Everyone has some goodness in them. You just need to find yours. Good luck
2007-11-07 01:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋