my little brother gf is pregnant and she goin to have an abortion and my brother dont want her to i dont what to say to her its not really any of my business but my brothers been really depressed n been crying down the phone to me what can i do??
2007-11-07 00:37:56 · 15 answers · asked by stacy g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There isn't much you can do hunni, Be there for him and support him, If she has set her mind on having an abortion then im afraid he has no rights to tell her not to. The way the law works is that its the women's choice and has nothing to do with the men. Has he told her he wants to keep the baby? Maybe he needs to sit down and talk to her about it or even wright her a letter if he can't bring him self to confront her.
I Wish you so much luck and i hope all works out for you!
Your doing a great job just listening to him and being there for him!
2007-11-07 00:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how little your brother is? I mean age wise. Does he work? Go to school? Also how young is the girl? Right now your brother and the girlfriend have to settle this between themselves and you're right it isn't any of your business because you didn't make the baby they did.
If your brother really wants her to have the baby than he needs to reassure his girlfriend of that and tell her what he's feeling about abortion and so on. But he has to make SURE that he'll be able to handle a baby and a girlfriend to support. You need to tell your brother to sit and discuss everything with his girlfriend if she still wants an abortion than he has to be there for her support her decision and figure that maybe she did the right thing.
It is her body and it is her choice because she will be the one carrying the baby for 9 months and going thru labor and feedings and illnesses and so on.
2007-11-07 01:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law on paternal vetoes has been settled since 1976, when Planned Parenthood v. Danforth invalidated a Missouri statute requiring that a woman provide the written consent of her spouse before being allowed to undergo an abortion. Roe v. Wade had legalized abortion three years earlier. The intent of the Missouri statute was not to keep women down or reify the patriarchy; it was to preserve the principle that couples jointly make the important decisions for a family. A noble goal, said the court, but, as Justice Potter Stewart wrote in his concurrence, when push comes to shove, "we are called upon to choose between these competing rights" of husband and wife. In situations where one parent was being given a veto—have the baby or don't—the court determined that it could not give fathers veto power the state itself did not posses. The court found that a woman's relationship with her own body is simply too intimate for the state to interfere.
Sorry theres is nothing he can do about the decision, it sucks but just be with him.
2007-11-07 00:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joesph B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 12:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should support your brother in every way possible at this time, and commend him for trying to save his baby's life.
It's tough for a father to override the decision of the mother, but you could look into the laws in your state and see if he has any recourse.
Maybe you could see if your brother's girlfriend will talk to you about the whole thing. Maybe you could convince her to put the baby up for adoption.
Pray hard!
And whatever you do, if the mother decides to abort anyway, do NOT encourage your brother to take her to the clinic or have any part of the abortion. If he is truly against it, he needs to have no part in it.
Driving a woman to an abortion clinic is NOT supporting her decision. It is being an accessory to the murder of the baby.
2007-11-07 00:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The laws of the United States do not acknowledge the rights of a father to stop the abortion of his own child, but rather place that act solely within the decision of the mother.......
(THIS IS SO STUPID!!!!!!!!!IF HE WANTS THE CHILD HE SHOULD HAVE A SAY IN THE ACT!!!!!!!!!)
Everybody emphases pro-choice and rights, but what about the father's choice...if he is going to take care and love the baby he should have just as much say as the mother....(STUPID GOVERNMENT LAWS!!!!!!!!YOUR QUESTION MAKES ME WANT TO BECOME A POLITICIAN!!!!!!!)
my prayers are with you and your brother...the only chance you really have is to fight............
I've looked up some stuff on line and really began to like this website...you should check it out. http://www.priestsforlife.org/postabortion/casestudyproject/casestudy768.htm....
i wish you the best of luck and please let me know how everything turns out...
remember stay strong (both you and your brother)...hang in there and fight...
the best bet is to sit down and talk with the mother....work something out....
2007-11-07 01:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by I'm Living the Life I Wanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wonder if he can talk to a lawyer. It is his baby too. You may be able to get a court order stopping her from getting an abortion. Not sure though.
But truthfully, it is her body and if she doesn't want to carry a baby for 10 months then that's her decision. I hate to see it happen that way though. I feel bad for your brother.
2007-11-07 00:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by GMC1003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he can get any sort of injunction. All he can do is talk to her. She's the one who it will affect the most (ie 9 months inside + the rest of it's life).
And that is a rather selfish thing to say (person above me). Someone getting an abortion needs all of the support they can get, especially if they're in their teens without parent or any other support. Abortions can lead to depression.
2007-11-07 00:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the girl's underage, she can't legally do that. Contacting her parents would save the child but probably ruin his relationship.
I would contact an agency that deals with abortion and abortion rights, especially for the father.
It also depends how far along she is. If she's too far along, they don't do it.
2007-11-07 00:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are being great with talking to him. Maybe he can talk to her and see if she will carry the baby then give it to him, she can always sign her rights away. Is he sure that it is his? Maybe there's a chance it couldn't be and she doesn't want to tell him that. There are lots of variables to be figured out before you can know what to do. Good luck and God Bless
2007-11-07 00:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋