my son is 8months,don't know if he's spoiled. i think he is! In his Play yard he stays not more than 5minutes,refuses to sit in the high chair and bouncer!! i'm reading a book " bringing up boys" that says we shouldn't ignore when they cry ,but then i carry him around all the time whatever i do, my back hurts already! what can i do?
thanks
2007-11-07 00:23:10 · 5 answers · asked by supercat1987 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I agree with amosunkn!
2007-11-07 01:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
LOL!
If the rules of parenting were in books this world would be a better place already... lololol.
You dont have to ignore him, but picking him up is not the answer. He thinks something horrific and terrible is happening when you put him down. He's unhappy, and he thinks the only way to be happy is by your constant entertainment. By picking him up is saying "you're perfectly right, you're fears and concerns are well founded, this is the only way things are okay".
If you dont want him to freak out because you put him down, you're gong to have to let him cry for a while.
Keep him in the room where you are, give him some toys, and leave him. Stay busy doing something, encourage him with some fun words or a song, go over and show him a certain toy, and go back to your work in the room.
Dont pick him up until he's calmed down a little. Little by little over the course of a few days or a week or so he'll get used to entertaining himself.
And for God's sake, have some common sense, parenting by the book is never a good idea. Did your kid come with a book? No. Because no one knows your kid like you do. Books are great for giving you ideas on situations, but you have to use common sense implementing them into your particular situation.
2007-11-07 08:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some babies require more attention than others. Try investing in a sling or another baby carrier.
My oldest was the same he simply was not content unless he was in my arms. And I struggled because I didn't want to spoil him. Then I realized I could either carry him and get some things done and not be as stressed. Or listen to his crying until I eventually caved in and comforted him.
Once he was able to crawl and get around I didnt have to carry him nearly as much.
I do however have some suggestions if you really dont want to carry him that also helped me some before I started carrying him.
Try getting on the floor with him and playing, or taking him out for walks in weather premits.
2007-11-07 10:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by sjchristian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not crawling yet? My daughter went through a phase like before she started to crawl. She could sit, but wanted to be able to move and get things, but wasn't quite able. She seemed to get frustrated a lot more easily and her attention span was pretty short. I think that was around the time that the exersaucer wouldn't entertain for very long either, and she wanted me around all the time. For me it was my wrists hurting from carrying her!
I think it's just a phase. I found my daughter was more encouraged to crawling from a sitting position. Putting toys around her and she would stretch and scoot until she finally did it at around 8.5 months. As soon as she could, she didn't get as frustrated and restless and she was more independent as she wanted to explore.
If I misunderstood and he is crawling, I would say that it might be a bit of separation anxiety cropping up. That's probably a phase too, but you still shouldn't let him cry endlessly. You should just try to encourage him to spend some time apart from you and by assuring him you are nearby.
Good luck!
2007-11-07 09:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by josi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join an attachment parenting support group. Attachment parenting (AP) is a style of parenting where you are connected/bonding with your child in a way that can't be explained...it has to be experienced. Your son trusts you to make things right in his world. His cries are real and should not be ignored.
Here is a link on attachment parenting to get you started. There are also many yahoo groups based on attachment parenting. http://www.attachmentparenting.org/
Also, invest in a good sling/pouch. Not one of those "backpack style" carriers. I'm talking about something like this: http://mayawrap.com/ or http://wallababy.com/
2007-11-07 09:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Green Is Sexxxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋