2007-11-07 00:19:59 · 12 answers · asked by John M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I'm sure I would freak out at first. I honestly don't think I would divorce her, but I would encourage her to sign over physical custody of the baby to its father when it was born. If he didn't want it, I would ask her to put it up for adoption. Bottom line, the reason I had a vasectomy was because I knew for certain that I didn't want to raise any more babies, and her pregnancy by another man wouldn't change my decision.
2007-11-07 00:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Darn...how I wish for having a dollar for each time this happens in the world...
So yes, wives cheat too...unfortunately, their mistakes are more obvious if getting pregnant...
Divorce, abortion and are not answers and certainly is this not included in the marital vows...
It is not a husband's position to forgive as forgiving changes nothing...it's just a word...!
It is all about love and how much you can put into it. To deal with the problem at hand is to remain calm and rational together and consider the pros and cons of having the child together but do so several times before making a final decision...the important thing is that it is a decision to be made together for the benefit of remaining together as a family with love and not with resentment...
When a final decision is made then it would be time to find out why the wife was cheating in the first place as it could well be her husband's lack of caring for her that drove her to it... It would seem both have a problem that needs fixing then, right...?
We all make mistakes thru our lives and some much worse than others...live with it...! Running away from our mistakes with divorce is not solving anything...neither is abortion...
If the circumstances are such that both cannot handle it then the child deserves a chance at life with adopted parents that will provide the love needed...
Don't give up on a wife for her making a poor choice...she is only human as is her husband...!
2007-11-07 08:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by farplaces 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, depending on if your 100% sure or not and are you? Could this be your child? Were you having problems in your marriage at the time ? Was this an affair or a one night issue? Its really hard to pass judgement on this if you don't know all the facts. In a situation like this its hard to really give the right advice unless you have been there. This child reguardless of whos it is going to need to be loved and did not ask for any of this. First, do you love your wife and your marriage? Do you feel in your heart that you love her and your marriage enough to raise this child as your own day after day and wil be able to love it as yours? Are you both willing to go to therapy and rebuild your marriage? Is this other man still an issue and does he know? If you and your wife can rebuild your marriage and are able to move foward without throwing this in each others face over and over then I feel any marriage is worth fighting for if you both want it bad enough. Just really think about it, talk about, and seek therapy you have a tough issue to solve but, remember be sure of everything its not just you or her any more there is an innocent childs life at risk and I hope it all turns out good for all of you! Good Luck!
2007-11-07 09:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd throw her out and let her handle the situation herself. Women want "the right to choose." So she should choose to take care of herself by working to support the child, give the child up for adoption, get an abortion, etc. No way should the husband or father (who was probably TRICKED into getting her pregnant) pay for her slutty ways.
2007-11-07 08:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact a attorney get legal advise>Before the child is born>
2007-11-07 09:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is ask yourself what you think you should do about the situation,If you love her and if you will be able to love the baby.You need to talk to your wife about this and see how she feel's about this other guy.
2007-11-07 08:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would file for divorce today and kick her cheating *** to the curb.
2007-11-07 08:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me ? This relationship would be so........over, immediately ! Go straight to divorce court, do not pass go, go directly to DIVORCE..........
2007-11-07 08:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gone baby gone.
2007-11-07 08:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I shall divorce her
2007-11-07 08:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by Niel 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋