Pants On Fire?

Question

Is there anyone in your family or friends, who you love, but just cannot trust?
TIA!

Answer 1

Of course. One of my best friends. Let's call him "Greg". I love Greg like a brother. We hang out all the time. He's awesome.

However, I can't trust Greg but I can trust Greg to be Greg.

Answer 2

Trust is a very broad notion. In that I believe that simply being a human and functioning in todays world actually requires a certain level of fraudulence and liberties with the truth I would say yes. I trust everyone I love to the extent that they can trust me and that is no way near one-hundred percent. I do not need that level of expectation for love. On more "essential" issues - say- do I trust my friend not to strangle me when I turn my back or not to set my house on fire-- yes, my trust for the large issues is complete with all friends and family.

Answer 3

This is a fairly common thing... always one bad apple in the barrel... I was an only child, with no father, and lived with my grandparents on and off, however, due to health problems, that became impossible when I was about 11. There was no one I could trust... It took me a good many years to find someone I thought I could trust... I was mistaken... It cost me some of the best years of my life and some serious regrets. I chose my friends very carefully now...

Answer 4

Used to be my younger brother. I used to have quite a few old coins I had been collecting for over 45 years. One day I went through my coins to check them out and found some missing. No one else in the house, could only be one person. So I rigged an alarm and flour and dye to go off if anyone but me tampered with the cabinet, I had them in. Sure enough, came home from work and found my brother trying like hell to get the orange dye off his arms and chest. He already got most of the flour off. I then took my coins and gave them to my older brother to put in his safe. They are still there today. The only coins I regret I wasn't able to save were two Walking Liberty Dollars I bought from the U.S. Mint for $19.95 each in 1995. They had a W mint mark and were the first coins minted at West Point in two hundred years. They were worth (because there were only 50,000 minted) $4000,00 each. Little brother probably bought chewing gum with them or some other crap. That's when I moved out of my own (well rental for 25 years) house and let him and his ditzy girlfriend have it.

Answer 5

As is the case in most families, there is someone I cannot trust to always tell the truth; nor to return money lent...but even with that, the person is one of the sweetest, big hearted people you'd ever want to know...I try to take the good with the bad and realize that none of us are perfect, and forewarned is forearmed and just to use good plain common sense when dealing with most people.

Answer 6

Yep. What I've learned about that is that no one's perfect, and it's wonderful to keep even people we don't trust in our lives if they are dear to us. No one is perfect and it's very acceptable to take bits and pieces of people who aren't to get what we need as a whole. The trick is to "not go there" if it's not safe for me to do so. For instance, if someone can't be trusted with money, I just don't let them borrow or have any of mine and steer away from conversations about money. If they can't be trusted to not abuse me or others, well, that's where I draw the line and they become ex-friends or family I'm not currently in contact with.

Answer 7

My 12 year old grandson WILL NOT tell the truth. Even about stupid little things....

He is enamored of lying. And won't understand that every lie he tells me, makes me trust him just that little bit less...I tried telling him that his lying about little things like this will only mean that I won't trust what he says about the big things...but he's not "getting" that either.

And I had to bring his Mom back home this morning to give him hell because he swore AND growled at me after I told him to go back upstairs and get dressed properly before coming back down (there is a rule that NO ONE walks around half naked in this house).

Today is obviously NOT going to be a good day!

Answer 8

There's a person in my family who absolutely cannot keep a secret and, additionally, has no "edit function" in her brain and, therefore, in her speech. That's not all bad, however. If you know the character defects of someone you love and accept them with those defects, you just deal with them a bit differently. In fact, sometimes you can make it work to your advantage. If I want some information to circulate, I know just the person to tell! Also, she spreads nice things I say about others as well as negative things. So, I never tell her anything negative about others and always spread compliments though her. I don't expect my family and friends to be perfect. I have to accept them they way they are and treat them differently in light of their personalities.

Answer 9

Yes. My husbands sister, husband and two of her boys. They have visited our home and when our backs are turned they will steal cash left in the open (like change in a dish) and sometimes drugs from the medicine chest. They don't visit often, but when they do we move all medicine out of the medicine chest and hide any cash or anything small of potential value. They have even stolen DVDs.

Answer 10

Sure! All liars have family. Reminds me of a cartoon I saw and haven't forgotten. Drawn as if from the stage, a lone man is sitting on a back row of an empty auditorium, with a banner on the back wall saying WELCOME FUNCTIONAL FAMILIES!

Love her, yes. Trust her, no.

Answer 11

Yes, my sister. She once broke a huge trust based on some private conversations between us and it will affect my trust in her forever. I love her; but deep down will never trust her with confidential information again.