Help 13yr old girl..need HELP!!!?

Question

As i said im 13 and female, ive got my period...ive got hair, and most other pubity things, but my question is can someone please tell me anything i need or would want to know about my teen years, and puberty! anything at all that could be a help??
(by the way it is in womens health because there was no other relative topic)
Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

to all the people who told her to ask an adult, maybe she doesnt have someone she feels comfortable with to ask, dont be so arsey! shes a child....
now, your periods could take a couple of years to be regular and dont believe the boys who say you cant get pregnant the first time, you can! everyone develops at a different pace so dont compare yourself to whats going on with your friends. good luck x

Answer 2

You might find you have some mood swings as although you have reached puberty, it will take another few years before the hormones settle down. You may find that your periods are a little irregular for a couple of years, or you may not. You can now get pregnant, so don't have sex. You might find that you gain some weight, commonly known as puppy fat. This will go in time. On the subject of boy friends, be sensible. Listen to your parents if they disapprove of one. They only want what's best for you. If you disagree, then calm discussion will work better for you than rows. Also, parents vary greatly as to how much freedom they give their children at your age. So if you get less freedom in some ways, don't be resentful, just look for a way in which you get more freedom. There will probably be one. For example, we still make my son sit in a booster seat in the car, but if he feels silly about it, we just remind him that he is allowed to go into town by himself, while his friend is not. (my son will be 13 next month). Work hard at school, but don't allow it to become a stress. Don't worry if you are shorter, have smaller breasts or are later to have a boyfriend than your classmates. Often the last girl to have a boyfriend is the first to find a permanent partner and get married or take up permanent residence together. There is no rush. If you go through a spell of feeling you don't have any friends, don't worry. Lots of people have times like that. It passes. Life doesn't stay the same for long. Finally, don't feel bad if adults keep telling you your schooldays are the best of your life. Your teenage years are like any other part of your life - you have good times and bad. It can put you under pressure if you think you ought to be happy all the time. Jacqueline Wilson has written some good books about teenage angst. Well worth reading if you haven't already.

Hope some of this helps. I'm sorry you've had a rude response from another answerer.

Answer 3

Hi,

Puberty is the time when the body changes from that of a child to that of an adult. These changes are brought about by chemicals in the body called hormones.

Puberty is the time when a girl becomes physically able to have babies. Puberty generally happens earlier in a girl than it does in a boy, commonly between 9 and 13 years of age. This is the reason why girls may be taller and may act more mature than boys for a few years until the boys catch up. The following changes take place in the body:

Breasts: The breasts start to develop, and small, tender lumps appear under one or both nipples that get bigger over the next few years. It is common for one breast to be larger than the other initially. Later they even out as they reach their final size and shape. Girls, therefore, need to wear a bra, an experience that may be exciting as well as embarrassing in the beginning.

Hair: Soft, curly hair grow in the pubic area, the area between the legs. Hair also appear under the arms and on the legs.

Body shape: Hips become wider and the body begins to deposit fat on the stomach, buttocks, and the legs. This gives the woman's body a more curvaceous shape.

Skin: The skin may get more oily and sweats more. Pimples may appear and are called acne.

Menstruation: Menstrual "periods" begin in most girls between 9 and 16 years of age. During the menstrual period a blood-like fluid flows out of the vagina. This is a monthly discharge and requires a girl to wear some kind of sanitary pad or tampon to absorb this fluid and keep it from soiling the clothes. Pads have adhesive strips and are worn inside the panties. Tampons are placed inside the vagina.

In the beginning the periods are irregular and scanty or heavy. Later they become regular. Most periods last from 3 to 7 days. After the period, there may be a day or two of light bleeding, called spotting. This is normal.

If bleeding occurs regularly between periods, the doctor must be consulted. Menstrual periods do not necessarily limit ones activities like swimming, sports, riding, or gym classes. Exercises help get rid of other discomforts that may be present during the periods. These include:


cramps

bloating

soreness or swelling in the breasts

headaches

sudden mood changes or irritability

depression

Emotional changes during puberty

Besides the many physical changes that occur during puberty, many emotional changes take place as well. Relationships with others may begin to change. Children begin to separate more from parents and identify with other children of the same age. Children begin to feel self-conscious about their bodies and the way they look. Comparisons begin with self and other children. One must remember that everyone goes through puberty at a different pace and eventually, everyone catches up. During this time, children also become more aware of their sexuality.


Touching or playing with one’s sex organs for sexual pleasure is called masturbation. It is a normal activity and does not cause any harm. Not all boys and girls masturbate. The frequency of masturbation or for how long one has been masturbating has no bearing on ones ultimate sexual potential. It is perfectly natural to be interested in sex. The sexual urges that one feels during puberty can be very powerful. It is important to stay in control of these feelings and not let them lead one astray.

Enjoy Life

Answer 4

Hygene is more important than ever during puberty. Make sure you wash properly and use deodorant every day.
Sometimes your hair gets dirty more quickly, so you might have to wash your hair more often. Be prepared for a few breakouts of spots/pimples, and oily skin. If you do get these, don't squeeze them, just make sure you wash your face twice a day with warm water and a mild soap.

Your hormones will be unbalanced for a while, so be prepared for mood swings, and growth spurts (you'll grow out of clothes and shoes very quickly, so try not to get too attached). You'll need to be fitted for a bra a few times in the next few years, and making sure you're fitted properly, and don't just guess your size, can be a big help. Sometimes one breasts grows more quickly than the other, so if they're a little uneven for a while, don't worry about it. The other will catch up.

As for mood swings, they can be difficult to deal with. Try to remember that a lot of the time you'll tend to overreact, and things probably aren't as horrible as they might seem at the minute.

You should probably get to know more about your menstrual cycle, to stop you worrying in future. A lot of teenagers worry about strange discharge. This site will help you recognise when there's a problem - http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html

You'll be more interested in sex, too, in your later teens. I can't give much advise because different families have a lot of different views on sex, so you should try not to be embarrassed and talk to your parents about this.

Answer 5

Firstly try not to worry bout it, happens to everyone. Secondly dont take any notice of the RUDE people that say ' Ask your fecking mother' Its hard 4 every1 to talk about this. They went though it to! You should look it up in a libary or something and try and talk to a auntie or someone you feel more open with as i know tellin your parents must seem embrassing but just remeber everyone has gone though it. Obvouisly not these childish people who are being rude to u havent quite got there yet! dont worry there just jealous :P . I dont think you shoulda posted a question like this on here as u might get loads of men try n prev on ya!
take care and smile!
xx

Answer 6

Sweety, shouldnt u be asking ur mom? shes the one u should turn to now not the internet plus all that stuff is way to personal and wont be approperiate online to be answered. Go read book, ask ur mom, ur friends, relatives but dont ask that on the net. If u mom doesnt know u hav ur period u better tell her and don keep it a secret and shy away, u need to know stuff all girls should, go now and learn what u should but not out in the open.

Answer 7

I just want to say that if you can't or feel that you can't speak to your mother then please don't feel bad with everyone instantly telling you to talk to her. But if there's anyone, inside or outside of your family, who you might be able to talk to then it's always a good idea to have support near by.

The only advice I can think of right now is try not to get to caught up with pressure/criticisms from your friends. I used to shrug my shoulders and disbelieve that I would ever be so silly to let myself be influenced soley on what people thought of me. Truth is: I did.

Just try to be as true to what you think is right and remember that there is nothing wrong in making mistakes. Failure and mistakes can be one of the best ways to learn.

Answer 8

you might wanna take better care of your skin. acne or pimples tend to come out a lot at this time. same with body odor. your hips grow wider, voice becomes higher pitched maybe, breasts start developing. you start to have crushes, too :P Teen years are awkward but otherwise fun. I should know, im a few years from adulthood because im turning 16 next month. im a guy fyi

Answer 9

You should talk to your Mom. She is the best person to talk to about these things because you are a girl. I'm sure she will be more than happy to answer your questions. My son is also 13, and I asked his Dad to talk to him about things a boy his age should know.

Answer 10

Get to know your body well especially when it comes to pain so that if something does go wrong you can let your mom and your doctor know what the intensity of the pain is and what other symptoms you have if you notice them.

Also, if you ever notice that something is wrong please don't be embarrassed to let your mom know what's going on so that she can try to help you keep an eye on the situation.

If you would ever like to talk one on one please feel free to e-mail or IM me off site any time.