What can I do as a parent about racist remarks made against my child?

Question

My daughter is 14. She is Spanish, Italian and Pueblo Indian from her dad's side. Northern European from my side. Ever since she was little, people have thought that she was mixed with Mexican or African American. The problem? She is called a lot of racist, derogatory names. Tonight I came home and someone had wrote racist, derogatory words on every window and screen of our home. The police said that they would "beef up" patrol. And since we are 99% sure of who did this, the police said that they would talk to the girl and at least put some fear into her. I am afraid that this matter is not going to be resolved and it will just continue. What else can we do to prevent this from happening again. Aren't there laws to protect one from this? I will be taking pictures of the writings to document this.

Answer 1

If your home gets vandlized, try putting up a spy cam to video tape the offenders. As for the racist remarks teach your child to not retailiate physically because once he/she contributes to violence he/she then shares the blame. Instead, teach your child to tell offenders, "Stop there, if you are going to be mean to me, stop." Inform aurthorities of the behavior so that both school and police can be aware of bullies, gang activity and escalating offenders. Note time and what was said. If this person is offending others, your descrition may connect this offense to others. Also make sure your child does not walk alone, and assess ways to prevent harm.
I feel bad for you and pray things get better. Your child raising above ignorant behavior will ultimately make him/her a better person, but in the mean time it is hurtful. Make sure your child knows how much you love him/her and that ignorant people do not matter. Find positive friendships for your child to build on.

Answer 2

This might not be the answer you are looking for. Over the years I found the best thing to do is to gather the parents and educate them about who you are and how then need learn more about who you are. Over the years I found talking to parents and anyone is to educate and show them the information they have is wrong and stop making the lie the turth. If the parents are able to understand who you are then maybe bring the children into the picture. There is not mcuh you can do to this child as long as the parents or who ever is telling starting this child off in the wrong direction. I once told someone what are you going to do when you apply for job and you are face to face wiith that person who does not give you that job. Also I told someone lets say you are hurt in some sort of accident and that person looking down at you who is about to save your life.is the that person you made those racist Remarks?

Answer 3

I'm sorry you and your family has to go through this. The only thing I can think to do is go to the police -- which you've already done. Maybe get some home security that can capture such future attacks so you can press charges. It's a shame that we still have such mean-spirited and ignorant people living among us, but there's not too much we can do about it. Try talking to the girl, if you know who did it -- just let her know that that will not be tolerated. I know as a mother you want to protect your family, but you and your family will have to grow some thick skin in order to weather this kind of behavior. I wish you the best...

Answer 4

Documenting everything is definitely the best way to start. Keep notes of every remark and incident with dates, times, and individuals involved. Having a paper trail with police involvement will help down the road.

Catching the perpetrator in the act and pressing charges at that time is the best outcome.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

yes. there should be laws against this. what you should do is discuss with your child that she should not be let down by such events because the people who do such things are just letting everyone that they are insecure.
find others in your community if possible and rally them together to make a stand. if racist indidviduals see such unity then they will think twice because numbers always make a difference.
dont solely depend on the law to do something about it because lots of times they just dont care and thats the truth.

Answer 6

thats very sad. first,of coarse,remind your daughter that we live in a society with 99% ignoant faceless heartless bigots. im sorry to say theres no help im not sure wher you live,but im in hawaii,oppiset situation,white people are called haulis,the boys(white boys) have it worse than girls,but we get no help especially from police.they are all related,and do ANYTHING to protect their own kind.find the CRAZIEST person you know point out the culprits and... dont beleave that line 2 wrongs dont make it right whoever wrote it is not thinking right ok 1st wrong do nothing 1st wrong leaves snickering..1st wrong does something stuped again isnt prepared for 2nd wrong learns a lesson we would never get help from law enforcment goodluck

Answer 7

I don't know if you have the means to do this, but you may want to think about moving to a more tolerable neighborhood.
It's so sad your current neighborhood seems to have some true to the bone cowards. I hope your daughter isn't too traumatized.

Answer 8

Hate crime. Put her sorry *** in juvenile, especially since the parents can't control their kid.

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Champ:

"Consider strongly getting a restraining order against her... This means absolutely no contact at all. If she violates the order, she is open season to get beat down, shot, or threatened for the sake of saving your life ..." -

::she is OPEN SEASON to get beat down, SHOT, or threatened FOR THE SAKE OF SAVING YOUR LIFE:::

Roflmao!

Answer 9

People can be so disgusting first my dear let me commend you for wanting to protect your child. I can't even begin to imagine the hurt this must be causing her. Second let me share with you two beautiful words:

Restraining Order

Answer 10

The only thing people understand is when the same thing is done to them. Plan carefully and do not let the secret out of the bag to "anyone". There are many ways to pay people back for behaving like not only bigot filth, but who vandalize and victimize innocent people for no reason.

You can send their mail to timbucktoo wearing gloves when you fill out the move form; you can send them chocolately cupcakes loaded with ex-lax. Be sure to get paper liners and use gloves when you make the cakes so no traces of you or your fingerprints are detected. When you buy the cupcake paper liners, pay with cash and get them at a dollar store that's full of people that day. Buy them with other dollar items so no one can say "Oh, yeah I remember her. She only bought cupcake papercup liners".

You can also contact your local newspaper and plaster her name all thru it being careful to say "We believe so and so did this" instead of saying "She did it". This covers you in any case of her trying to make you liable for defamation, etc. Also, TAKE MANY PICTURES for the media and for your own records.

Send her letters that contain graphic pictures of the kkk in full drag. Wear gloves remember and when you seal the envelope use water to do so. Spread her name and family's name around everywhere you can so they will put pressure on her.

Put up surveillance cameras as you can buy these on eBay, a nice little system for pretty good price. Put them up when there is little activity in your neighborhood so no one knows that you're putting in cameras. This will catch the slobs in the act. Finally, do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. I guess she missed this part, so she wants you to treat her the same way she's done to you.

Consider strongly getting a restraining order against her, her family, and this is important to include "Any third parties related directly or indirectly to her" in the restraining order. This means absolutely no contact at all. If she violates the order, she is open season to get beat down, shot, or threatened for the sake of saving your life because she's violated the order in some way. This way she cannot get her friends, family, etc., to do her dirty work. That's what third parties mean on the restraining order.
There are so many other ways to pay back losers for victimizing because turning the other cheek simply does not work; I don't think it really has. Send letters around the neighborhood to some degree exposing her for what she did. Remember to use gloves and water to seal the envelopes and put her own address as the return address. You can print at the library or somewhere else if you feel the cops would check your computer to match ink samples. Be careful when loading paper into your computer to use gloves so no prints are on the printer paper.

There are so many ways to bust up on someone who is abusing you and your family. Also, another suggestion would be to check with your state's Secretary of State Office online and look up her family's name. They might have a business and you can sue against them, their assets, their business for their "malicious mischief, hate crimes, trespassing, criminal harassment, public disorder, menacing mischief", and possibly more.

Write to me if you want, but throughout my life I've learned that what my parents taught me in turning the other cheek has never work, esp. with bigot filth. The more they are taken out or exposed the less prominent the problem. Most people don't take action so this kind of crap goes on and on without much needed action against it.

Hope this has helped and don't think bad of me, but think about all of my suggestions, ok? I wish I could "get them all" for anyone who is victimized by racism. They know it's wrong, but they're so evil that they need to be taught extreme lessons.