you can't close the door --there is pocket changeand trash mixed up w/the dirty stuff--i don't do his laundry --but this is an eyesore in our bedroom sanctuary !!! help !!!
2007-11-06 16:31:34 · 14 answers · asked by rn 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
do whatever u have to do AND then close the door
much cheaper than a divorce
GL
2007-11-06 16:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Man of Ideas 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a lot going on that's all. The people that your talking to about this doesn't understand how serious this Is between the two of you, they are not on the phone when she Is talking to you. I'm sure It feels like your in between a rock and a hard place. It's very hard to get along with someone that can't respect you for who you are,she seems like when there Is no drama In her life she has to make It. I go through more than this with my fiance's ex wife and they have children together and listen when I tell you, she's not planning on making your life easy anytime soon. It's very hard but you got to find some way of Ignoring her because If every time you go somewhere and she shows up and you leave you are going to be running for a long time. Seems like she can't stand competition even If It's his ex. She seriously needs some counseling but for protection you need to be very aware of these physical threats and the law Is very much going to be on your side.....stay blessed
2016-04-02 21:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a chore you'd like to tackle, you could offer to organize the closet for your husband and see what he thinks.
If he thinks his closet is fine as it is, accept it. Let him know that the sight bothers you, but you'd be happy if you could just close the door. Put that way, he'd probably not object to pushing things back further in order to close the door.
My husband never seemed to find the time or the will to put his clothes away. I was already putting away mine and our 2 youngest children's plus the household laundry. Our older 2 put their own away.
Since he didn't mind his clothes being in a basket, I gave him a clothes basket (and later a 2nd clothes basket) on his side of the bed tucked in an out-of-the-way place. That's where I put all of his clean clothes.
He lived out of those baskets for about 2 years. It didn't bother him one bit, especially after he asked some male friends if their wives put their clothes away. They thought he was nuts! I let go. It didn't bother me as long as the towering baskets of clothes weren't the first thing I saw upon entering our room.
Now my workload has changed with 3 children off to school. I happily put my husband's clothes away for him. He noticed and appreciates it.
Should I ever need it again, I still have his 2 baskets!! :)
2007-11-06 16:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by inmyopinion 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well your first problem is that you are asking this question to a random bunch of people instead of asking your own husband how to solve this problem. Where I come from we talk to our husband about things he does that bug us and try not to bring other people into it.
But if you really can not talk to your own husband about this, there are obviously some deeper issues. I have a friend that went through something similar. I would try a marriage counselor or a church counseling session so you can work on your communication skills.
2007-11-06 16:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Juniata P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think doing his laundry and closet when needed is part of house keeping. Maybe you need to put a small trashcan,clothes hamper and a container for his pocket change in there.
2007-11-06 17:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by koi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really want to do it , then do it. Also buy one of those mesh pop up hampers, and put it in a corner, and tell him to put his dirty close in there, he can also use it to bring down to the laundry and use it again to bring them up. But remember if you do it, he might expect you to do it all the time. Maybe that's why its a mess, hoping you will do it. Because he knows how it bothers you.
2007-11-06 17:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I put all dirty clothes I find in the hamper even if they are on the floor other then a jacket because it can be hang up by the person who left it there.
2007-11-06 17:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by rosabearr ") 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang a curtain or a large sheet over the door so you dont have to see it.
Or
pick up the pocketchange and throw everything else in a garbage bag and leave it in his car.
2007-11-07 16:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friendly advise would be not to take the risk of finding some thing in his closet that might effect your relationship. Secondly, let him do his own chores.
2007-11-06 16:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Male Muse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him it bugs you. There's no reason to make it such a big deal! It's a closet, it's gets on your nerves, he probably doesn't even know that it gets to you! Just talk to him.
2007-11-06 16:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋