He read my personal notes on my computer, started yelling at me and pushing me. He is big and strong and has done poorly in school and been in some trouble. What can I do?
2007-11-06 15:57:25 · 13 answers · asked by Texas Cowboy 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
umm kick him out. hes old enough to be on his on. tell him that he needs to treat you with some respect or he can leave. or call the police, its against the law to push people around and since hes your son its called domestic violence. and what kind of personal notes do you have on ur computer that he would get mad about
2007-11-06 16:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by megleg88 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY is your son still at home with you? He needs to get off his duff, get a job, and get a place of his own. At 21, he is more than old enough to be on his own- indeed, he should have been on his own a long time ago !!! If your son engages in this kind of behavior again, call the cops and report him- you have a right to be safe in your own home, and your report that he's pushing you makes me concerned that he's about to become a batterer. He clearly has some impulse control and anger management issues to work through, so a trip to a counselor is not out of order for BOTH of you. Otherwise, it's just a matter of making it clear to your son that if he wants to be around you, he needs to abide by your rules and respect your privacy and personal space.
I hope this helps.
2007-11-07 01:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Starlight 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 21 there isn't much you can do. At that age advice or threats are useless. Your son is past adolescence and is now a young adult. He should be treated as such in every way. He has to take responsibility for his own actions. If you are paying for his schooling and he fails, then refuse to pay his tuition in the future. If he is not working, do not give him spending money. If he physically threatens you in some way, have him removed forcibly if necessary. (Sounds cruel, I know, but he should never put his hands on you.)
Oh, and lock your computer.
Mom of 5----been there, done that
2007-11-07 01:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by CarolSandyToes1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the son has no accountability for his movements. He does not could get a role nor help himself as all his needs are dealt with. His father is his slave, looking after his each and every whim. Why could the son flow away, he has each and every thing he needs without accountability, and no possibility, as he knows his father won't do something. there's a diverse between wanting the suitable on your toddler, and preserving them from the stories of life. the toughest component mom and dad could come to grips with is allowing their little ones to fail, and study from their stories. he's a 21 twelve months previous grown guy, he's able to looking after himself.....in spite of if he's not accustom to it, he is going to have some tough situations, and fail lots, yet his father needs to be enterprise, and permit him to flow at it on his very own, if he does not he would be speaking care of him his finished life.......and whilst he gets older, he son would be ill-equiped to guard the getting previous father as he will have had a sheltered life.
2016-09-28 12:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 21 yrs old, he must already have this pattern of treating you badly I would presume. He should know at this point how to treat people with respect and apparently he isn't. Its all about the tough love. Tell him that he is disrespecting you and your boundaries within your home and if he does it again that he will have to find a place to live on his own. As long as you communicate how you feel you should not feel bad to act accordingly. You do not deserve to be treated badly, and it is sad that he seems to be taking advantage of you. You must be consistent with your discipline. If you tell him he will have to leave if he further disrespects you, make sure that you act on it if he does. It will be beneficial to the both of you in the end.
2007-11-06 17:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by SkaRox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did the notes say?
well i would tell him if he is gonna act like that there is a the door there is no reason at all to hit your parents (unless in self defence) but i would def sit him down and talk to him about what he did and how he wants to be respected he needs to respect others...im scared to wonder if its just the age and kinda being lost because i know how my bf and his mom are he never pushed her but he gets weried w/ her some times too
2007-11-07 02:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok my son is only 5 right now but if he dares lay a hand on me I'd whoop his butt for him. Let him get out and get a JOB. Support himself. What is he doing going through your things.
2007-11-06 16:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by WWJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to do, and easy to say, its time to have the young man, which he is now, removed from your home. Then change the locks. Keep the communication lines open, but demand the respect that you are due as his parent.
Good luck!!!
2007-11-06 16:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by mom4_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him that your still the father and you have the authority, if still didn't work try to cut his allowance to 50%.
2007-11-07 04:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by androids_17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police
2007-11-06 16:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋