Should I postpone a graduation trip now that my best friend isn't graduating (I'm still graduating)?

Question

It has taken me a very long time (9 years) to graduate from college, due to health and financial problems. I am a first-generation college student, so it's a big deal for me and my family. For the last few years, my best friend and I have talked about going to Ireland after we both graduate at the same time (August) to celebrate. She told me this week that she won't be graduating in August because she is not doing well in one of her classes and will have to graduate in Dec. In addition, she doesn't have the funds. We haven't made any payments, and I am torn over whether to wait. If I go, I'll miss having her there and she will likely be resentful. Then again, I know she'll be jealous just because I graduate first (she's v. competitive). If I wait, I won't be able to go in December when she graduates, since I'll only have been working for a few months and won't have vacation time yet. If I wait for vacation time to accumulate, it wouldn't be a "graduation celebration." Should I not go?

Answer 1

I think you should go but maybe somewhere different since you planned to go to ireland with her that should be yours and her's special trip you planned together.

Answer 2

You have worked for 9 years to go and do this. It is to bad that your friend didn't graduate, but you don't even know if she will , so don't put your life on hold waiting for someone else to move forward. Ask your self, if it was the other way around, would she postpone her trip for you? Go and have fun, bring back alot of pictures.