My boyfriend and I have been fighting lately. I feel like he always gets his way.. I felt like he got his way when I got pregnant. Even though I played a part in it, I felt more like he would be depressed if I wasn't pregnant and when I finally was he got his way. I've always wanted a little girl since I only have brothers and all my cousins are boys.My boyfriend would always tell me that I'm having a boy and it would piss me off but once again, I feel like he is getting his way b/c today the ultrasound confirmed that I am having a boy. I am very happy that the baby is healthy and that I am having one but I am very sad that it is not a girl. When I left the office and told my mom I was actually crying because it's a boy. With the stress my boyfriend has put me thru,I used to pray to GOD let it be a girl b/c I could not handle my boyfriend and a mini version of him.I would like to know if I will ever be happy w/ having a boy because right now I feel depressed.i wanted a girl .
2007-11-06 14:46:38 · 24 answers · asked by m_harvery 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Everything happens for a reason, you have to trust that. What's meant to be will be and I'm sure you'll go on to have your little girl. I know exactly how you feel, I was disappointed when my 1st was a boy because I didn't know anything about boys and when I found out my 2nd was a boy as well I couldn't help but cry but finally with #3 I'm having a little girl! Looking back I was very upset when I found out that my babies were boys but I love them with all of my heart and I wouldn't change any of it for the world now. It's hard but you have to trust that god knows what he's doing
2007-11-06 14:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The legal age is 16 in Canada, so that takes away the problem of statutory rape. I'm 14 years older than my partner, but then I'm in my mid 50s and he's in his early 40s which gives us a lot more life experience in common. If anything, he's the "brake" on my impetuosity, and when I'm all gung-ho to go skydiving from a plane he's the one who will remind me I had my knee replaced just six months ago and is skydiving REALLY such a good idea! If I were going to make a suggestion: work on becoming friends -- and very good friends, at that -- before even considering introducing sex into the relationship. You already have a good deal of life experience which he doesn't; and one thing which is common among gay and straight guys is that our first real romantic and sexual experience is really intense and it's real easy for us to get our hearts broken. He may be gorgeous, and look and act like an adult, but he is still 16 years old. I'm not saying that you shouldn't have a relationship with him at some point, but I don't think you want to risk breaking his heart, especially while the two of you are sharing a lease -- so my suggestion would be to GO SLOW.
2016-05-28 05:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww you remind me of me when I found out I was having a boy. I was in tears I cried and cried for month . But when I first seen my baby boy the day he was born I was the most happy lil mommy I couldn't ask for more. I was just so happy and the love that I had for that lil guy has grown so much as the days and months went by. Now my lil man is 17 months old and makes me so happy. I never thought I could raise a boy but its the best feeling to be a mother of a little boy. I have a little girl that is 4 and there is a different feeling that I have for each of my children. I love them both very much and God wanted me to have a little boy and I wouldn't want him to change that at all. I am now trying for my number 3 and I am praying to god to give me a girl if I do get pregnant again but if I end up with a boy that's how god wanted it to be. Congrats and I promise you that you will be very happy that god blessed you with your baby boy. =) You will see what I mean when the days and months go by and how much joy and happiness he will bring to you.
2007-11-06 15:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend at my daughters school has twin boys and is 32 weeks with another boy. she was so devasted for 3 days after she found out she didn't get her daughter that she stayed in bed and cried the whole time. She says she still has moments when she wishes it was a girl, but in the end she realises that we are all dished out exactly what we can handle and your plan in life is meant to include a little son. I think over time you will start to adjust to the idea but you need time to process the information. Its okay to be upset about it, at least your honest. Most people say 'as long as its healthy' but everyone always has a preference for one sex over the other. Its completely natural and okay.
If you have time and money, start shopping for your little boy! Check out all the gorgeous little outfits and bedding you can get and eventually you will be thrilled too. Every new life is a blessing next time I'm sure you'll get your little princess!
P.S. my SIL has 3 boys and in the beginning she was upset about it but loves the fact that she has all boys.
2007-11-06 14:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be depressed, just be glad that the baby is ok! Don't let your boyfriend get you down. I wanted a boy and my boyfriend wanted a girl, but he got his way! We are having a girl in 9 weeks and we both are excited. Maybe next time you will have a girl. Don't get stressed out on this. It'll be alright. Good luck!! ;o)
2007-11-06 14:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your situation is normal to be stressed. I'm sure that the reason you felt so bad that it's a boy. Actually I had hoped I was having a boy when I was pregnant. It took me a few days to get used to the fact that I had a daughter.
So don't worry about it. It's ok to feel bad here and there. Once you have your child you will learn to love him. Trust me, its easier to love your own baby than anyone else in the world. ^-^
2007-11-06 14:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww. I can totally see where you're coming from. I broke it off with my boyfriend before I knew I was pregnant, and I despise him to this day because this is something that he wanted but now he wants nothing to do with it--HE GOT HIS WAY!
Yes, some of this is hormonal. Most of it seems to be that you are unhappy with your boyfriend. If you want to be with him forever, I suggest going to counseling...if you don't, leave. You will be on your own, and you will be scared...but women do it alllllll the time on their own. I feel for you sweetie.
(by the way, I want a boy just because my entire generation in my family is all female...but I do hope that if I have a boy, he's nothing like his father!)
2007-11-06 14:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Gage's Mommy :-) 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i felt the same way when i got my ultrasound results but now my son is almost a year old and the light of my life, myfriend got a girl and i think that they are alot harder to raise and more of a pain, so if this is your first then a boy is perfect! dont worry aobut the other stuff, it will get better and those feeling will fade.
2007-11-06 15:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by taylor m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will fall in love as soon as you see him don't worry about that.
Another thing you are experienceing right now is a hormone surge. Things that bothered you a little before will seem insumountable now but you will get through it. Just rely on your support system of your mom & friends & try to enjoy your pregnancy because it goes so fast.
Everything will be o-kay. good luck.
2007-11-06 14:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh...at the risk of sounding harsh, get over it. You're getting a baby boy...I'm getting my third about a month from now, and I couldn't be happier. I've always wanted three kids, not three of any certain gender. You get what you get. You think this is your boyfriend getting his way? Wow. Step back and look at the big picture. Healthy baby. That's what matters, not boy or girl.
2007-11-06 14:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋