do you think its rude and bad manners?

Question

for a child yo call his/her parents by their first name..i have children ranging from 26 to 3..my youngest has started to call her dad and i by our first names...not all the time only when the mood takes.my mother who is 79 years young was shocked at this and said she will grow up with no respect lol.. when i was a child we all called our neighbours and my mams friends by mr/mrs whatever. we were never allowed to use their first names..i still call her friends by their full title..can anyone tell me the reason behind this..was it respect or just plain old fashioned x

sorry to call his/her

Answer 1

I cant see anything wrong with it. It is just the way you were brought up. You respect someone for what they are not for what you call them

Answer 2

Personally I don't like it, but it makes not one iota of difference to a childs behaviour or to how he/she is cared for or raised. Old fashioned yes it is I suppose, for me not to like it, but I don't like it either when kids are condemned just because of this kind of minor thing. I knew some real b...ches and b...rds as a youngster, and yet I resented it when we were all supposed to be bad, when the adults who should have been setting the examples for us to follow were busy shoving past us in shops making it difficult to get home without being told off, literally pushing us out of the way to get on buses and trains or into shops. That still goes on today. That has nothing to do with what they call their parents or with lack of respect, perhaps you will realise how petty and silly a remark that is one day, I hope so.

Answer 3

It is usually a phase some children go through, I did, and I am 59 so it was a while ago.
There is the respect issue and many older people are set in their ways so it is good to go with the flow and not upset anyone.
I wouldn't be worried about your Daughter, learning to respect others is something she will grow up to take as normal as long as you show her the way.

Answer 4

I think whatever the family approves of is OK. I have friends that have always referred to their parents by their first name but when speaking, refer to them as Mom and Dad.

It really isn't anyone else's business, I think. The family will decide those issues.

Answer 5

my sons are now 26 and 23, and have always called me MUM, but until about 12yrs ago, they called my husband (their father) by his first name. My mum thought it was terrible, because she said people would think he's not the father.

I don't think it's bad or rude. Does it really matter, if everyone gets on well and BEHAVES with respect for each other?

Answer 6

I agree with the person who said "monkey see, monkey do".

She is still too young to be doing it on purpose, just correct her whenever she does it and she will stop once she realises you don't like it.

Where I come from, nobody ever says "Mr" or "Mrs" - we even called some of our teachers by their first names, and I would always call my friends' parents, or my parents' friends by their first names.

The first time I met them, I would say Mr or Mrs, but they always laughed at me and said it made them uncomfortable.

I think real respect is doing what the person involved wants you to do, so if you want your daughter to say Mum, that's what she should say.

If you and your partner refer to each other as Mum or Dad in front of your daughter, this will help her learn - my parents always did this, and it would never occur to me to call them anything else.

You should be pleased your daughter is clever enough to work this out - I don't think I knew my parents' names by the time I was three! Correct her gently, with that in mind.

Answer 7

This little girl is playing "monkey see-monkey do."She hears all these people calling dad by his first name and her
little brain says "i'm a people too so I'll just call my daddy ______! then she'll stop just as quickly.
Perhaps have him tell her he loves it when she calls him" Daddy"
She has no idea what respect or disrespect is. Children don't understand concepts until about 5 yrs old..She's still a baby.

I learned to choose my battles with my children because there will be many and you don't want to critique and change each ATTEMPT to experience and learn from their own mistakes. Let them learn without your input unless they are hurting themselves or others....and they'll learn with pleasure.
God bless you for caring so much about raising your child with manners. She'll watch and learn from you!
Juju

Answer 8

My grandson used to call me by my first name when he was very small and he was corrected often. To be fair to the little ones Christian(first names if you must) are used all the time in society and it is natural for children to do the same. It is not a sign of disrespect although socially it is frowned upon. The respect or disrespect is shown in how they speak to you when they are using your first name

Answer 9

I remember turning out to be up that my family individuals individuals have been like this - consistently provided nutrition and drink. they are American yet of Lebanese descent. i think of it somewhat is a Mediterranean component via fact my Italian and Greek buddies - their families do the comparable component. If it is making you uncomfortable then i think of it would be entering into in the territory of undesirable manners. Manners are meant to be approximately attention and putting others comfortable. that's what i presumed besides. i might in simple terms proceed to with courtesy refuse and to tell them that i'm in simple terms no longer hungry or thirsty. I savor their hospitality very lots. i might ask them if it would be ok if I enable them to be attentive to if i replace into hungry or thirsty - might that be ok? they might proceed to invite via fact they do no longer elect their travellers or travelers to be uncomfortable. i might never ask for something if i'm a customer. i will in simple terms go through in silence if choose be.

Answer 10

Plain and simple, it was carried over from past generations.
Children were taught to be 'seen and not heard'. We were not
supposed to interupt an adult conversation to make ourselves
heard. And we were to speak only when spoken to, when
company was present. And in some homes back at the turn
of the century, even at home with parents only present. Some
parents were strickter than others with the rules. Each family
was also different in the level of punishment for disobeying
the rules. It was never acceptible when I grew up to call any
adult by his first name.It was always, Miss, or Mrs, or Mister. Or Aunt or Uncle so and so. I still called any elderly adult in the family by their family placement and then their first name. But my favorite aunt, I started calling by her first name only not many years before she died. Old habits die hard. And it sure proved I was made to respect my elders, as the saying goes.
The change came I think with our children generation. I remember a friend of ours son only used his parents first names for the longest time. It wasn't until he
was in grammar school that he finally started calling them
by Mommy and Daddy. I never did ask what brought about
the change. And by then, it sounded so strange to hear him
talk correctly. He was slow to talk period and would point
at things he wanted and say, "da da". And his mother would
get it for him. I finally told her he'd never talk until she stopped
getting everything when he'd point and say "da da". I think she resented my interference. But at three, he seemed retarded and he wasn't. Just lazy.
Although I don't feel it's necessary to teach children to add-
ress all adults formally, I do twinge when a strangers small child addresses me by my first name. They don't know any different, but I still feel that strangeness inside that they are too familiar, since even our children weren't allowed to be. . It showed a sign of being respectful. It was acceptible for them call the younger relatives by only their first names, even if they
were aunts or my adult cousins. In a way, I'm glad that things
have relaxed for society to now be informal and I think every-
one enjoys interacting more. But you know, I still am called,
"Ma'am" by strangers sometimes. And that makes me feel
old as the hills. LOL.

Answer 11

Yep, it's rude, bad manners, and shows a flaw in rearing.