crazy mom gave her son 6+ cold and allergy med?????????????

Question

This lady at the daycare brought her 7 month old in today as I was dropping off my son, and I over heard her talking about how is is being spacey andnot feeling well with a fever an stuff. She said to give the medicine in the bag and never told the caregiver the amount, so I said I will look at it (after the lady left), cause my son is the same weight, just to make an estimate, well, it was cold and allergy medicine for ages 6+, I told the caregiver NOT to give that t the little boy and she agreed with me, but she took the little boystemp and it was 102; so she called her to come ge him. The thing is, why on earth would someone give their infant that medcineand not go to the doctor? I am so upset about this I don't even know what to do.

She doesn;t even get him out of the carseat or say bye or anything either, like in and out, really fast, and it makes me so upset, she even did this on his firstday of care a couple weeks ago.

I don't know what to do?

BETH:
The mother said that she didn;t take him to the doc.
She told the caregiver, he doens;t have a temp, but she took it just in case and he did.
I told her her best bet is to no give him the med, since the mother didn't say how much AND it wasn' made for infants with a dose, so what she just guesseS????

Answer 1

Since you witnessed what happened with the medicine incident, you can talk to the owner/director of the center and tell her your concerns. And make sure that someone addressed this issue about the medicine, the child could get really sick or die from getting too much medicine. But they could have had it from a previous day, and she could have grabbed the wrong medicine, maybe she has other kids at home that are older. Hopefully the daycare addressed the medicine incident with her, and told her about it being for 6+.
Parents do different things when they drop their kids off, and she may do something different than you that you don't agree with, but maybe shes always in a hurry or something like along those lines o rmaybe she feels guilty about having to even bring her kid to daycare, it is hard to tell what is going on here. This is nothing to wory about or to be concerned about, this says nothing about the parent.

As an added note: The daycare should have had a form stating to give him the medicine, signed by the parent. if they didn't have that, they shouldn't be administering the medicine. You should address this issue with the day care or call your appopriate department in your state for child care.
Sometimes parents will do anything to drop their kids off at daycare even when they are that sick. Ive seen it over and over again. I think you need to think more about this daycare you have your child in and trusting them. You shouldnt of had to be the one, realizing that its not the right medicine. Although, you dont know if they woudl have actually of given it to him or not.

Answer 2

You could call social services and tell them and ask their advice. However if you do this they will take your info and due to privacy issues they will not tell you anything about their follow up. Also if you tell them about the daycare they will probably involve the daycare so I would talk to the daycare lady first.

I think ultimately it would come down to the daycare lady doing something about it. Personally, if I had a daycare and this happened to me I would ask the person not to come back. What if the mom gave the medicine before coming to daycare and the baby died while at daycare??? Even if it wasn't the daycare's fault there would be investigations and the reputation of the daycare would be called into question until cleared and the stigma would still linger.

Also, if the baby dies while at daycare, what's going to happen to your son? Is he old enough to be aware of what's going on? Of course the care that he is receiving will be compromised and what happens to a daycare when the authorities are called because a child died there? Do you get a call at work saying that you should come pick up you child at social services or the sherrifs office? After all, they don't really know yet how this kid died, maybe it was from abuse or something the daycare did, but you can always ask them to find out what would happen. If it's a big center the consequences might be different than if it was a home daycare, and then again maybe nothing would happen.

I would put some pressure on the daycare lady to do the right thing here and either cut the family loose or call social services etc.

Answer 3

I hate to burst your bubble, but it wasn't your place to tell the caregiver NOT to give that child the medication. If you were genuinely concerned, you could have called the authorities. Not to mention, you should be rather concerned that you are taking your child to a place that would allow another child to be dropped off with a fever. If it was 102 when the caregiver took it, and he had all of the symptoms you described, he obviously had a temperature when she dropped him off.... It's very difficult to take your side and rant and rave when all of the details aren't present. In other words... I wasn't there! Sorry. It sound horrible, but I just don't know.

TORY... it's not up to you to do what's best for that woman's baby. IF you were TRULY concerned that there may be a lack of parenting (neglect, abuse) happening...you should have contacted the proper authorities. To take the matter into your own hands was the wrong approach. I am a mom of two - ages 11 & 12. It's difficult to see and hear this stuff, but at the same time, you don't live in that person's home, nor do you have 100% of the facts. You have no idea what was truly in that bottle, and no daycare worth it's name would ever administer medication by what the bottle states. It has to be on paper signed by the parent.

Perhaps you should find a new daycare facility. If you are having to do their job for them, why are you leaving your own child with 'em?

Answer 4

Yeah, it's hard when you see people who don't take care of their kids. You might try talking with the daycare center about it. If the temperature is 102 or higher, the baby should have gone to the doctor. And they make Children's Motrin for 6 months and up if the babies have fevers. I am a mother, so it's upsetting to me to read that there are mothers out there who treat their babies this way. But maybe she is a struggling mother and she leaves quickly because it's hurtful for her to drop him off. I hope he was taken to the doctor. Pray for him.

Answer 5

well I give my 4 month old child's tylonel for teething. I called the health link (not a doctor, a registered nurse). They calculated the amount as they no longer recommend ora gel. So my baby gets the same Tylonel my 7 year old gets. But it sounds like that is not hwat is bothering you. The mothers attitude towards her child doesn't appear that warm

Answer 6

Do you think he would be better off in foster care?
Please think the question over very carefully before making your decision. Is it possible that she accidentally grabbed the wrong medication? Is it possible that she is a single mom with 2 jobs who is doing the best that she can and is in a hurry to drop him off? Not all people have the easiest time of it as parents. Maybe you should aproach her with your concerns, talk to her as one mom to another. Invite her on a playdate. If after talking to her you still have the same concerns, by all means please contact social services. In most cases however, some new moms just need a hand in the right direction. Don't accuse. Assess.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. She'll tell you to mind your own business. If you think the child is being gravely mistreated you certainly can call Child Services but be prepared for a big back lash if it's unfounded.

I appreciate your being upset by this situation, it's nice to know that you've noticed it.

Answer 8

wow. she sounds really irresponsible. I worked at a preschool last year and if that happened there more than once, I think that they would have politely asked them to find another daycare center. Maybe you should talk to her next time and say something like "hows your son feeling? he was so sick yesterday. You know when my kids get that sick i give them..." and subtly give her some parenting advice.
but most importantly, look out for the safety of the kid. Dont focus on how stupid the mom is. focus on her child.

Answer 9

1st off, how do you know if she didn't take her son to the Dr.?
I don't know, some people just jump to conclusions when they don't have their facts straight.
That child should not have been at the daycare in the first place with a fever that high.
I wouldn't do anything about it, let the daycare handle it.

Answer 10

Whats really sad is that theres not much you can do unless you can prove that she gave the wrong meds to the child. I'm assuming this is her first child from the sounds of it. Mabie the only possibility may be talking to who rund the daycare and see if they can talk her into taking some parenting classes.