I have a feeling my mom doesn't want me to grow up?

Question

like a few days ago i told her i got my eyebrows done and she got all mad at me. ( trusy me it needed it, lol) i like to write storys and poems on love and stuff. she gets mad and says im too young to be thinking about that. (i'll be 15 in 2 days btw) i like to read things that are like young adult and like romance books..she gets mad and yells at me. i seriously dont know what her problem is?

Answer 1

Why don't you be thankful that your mom is even talking to you because you know something my mom is laid up in the icu and she can't talk to me or the rest of my family because she had a blood clot removed from her brain.
She is doing better but why don't you be thankful instead of whining about that your mom cares.
Some moms could care less so be thankful your mom does.

Answer 2

As a mom I can tell you its hard to watch our children growing up, and being a female is even harder on the mom. I bet the problem is the poems and story's your writing is just reminding her that you are becoming a woman. Just assure her that all this romance that you write and read about all only entertainment and your not doing anything wrong{ are you??}one day you will make some man a wonderful wife with your romantic self!!! JUST make sure its not too soon.. Tell mom to trust you and that your not doing what your reading... Good Luck!!

Answer 3

You are dealing with TWO problems.

First, Yes, you are growing up too fast for your mother, and she knows it but still doesn't like it.


Second: growing up unfortunately doesn't automatically mean you're getting more capable of making good decisions.

The answer is in between. You need to discuss growing up with your mother. Yes, this is not easy because often a teen doesn't feel anything their parents did have anything to do with their lives now.

But take the time and listen to how it was when she was young. Don't get caught up in the "uphill both ways" aspect of the difference between then and now but listen instead for how things have changed for her and think about how things will change in your life.

Listen to the mistakes she feels she made because she wants to protect you from them.

Good luck.

And you are too young to be thinking about that mushy stuff ALL the time. A little goes a long ways.

Answer 4

Your mom is just being over-protective! She wants you to enjoy your youth while you still can, (you're a long time as an adult, but only 18 years as a child!).
She doesn't want you to grow up too quickly!
Try talking to your mom about this.
Tell her she needs to trust you a bit more, and you aren't going to be acting out any of the adult content of the things you read!
Behave in a mature, responsible way, and she will eventually realise that you are growing up and accept it!
Just remember to keep your cool, and have a happy 15th birthday in two days!

Answer 5

Your Mom loves you and wants to keep you in the place she still controls. She'll grow with you if you don't hide things too much. But if your Mom thinks the stories you read are too old for you maybe they are. I think getting your eyebrows done or things like that should be talked about. Why rock a boat when you know she wouldn't like that? I won't mention that you'll be a better person for waiting but what if?

Answer 6

No mother wants to think of her little girl has grown up. The important thing is to show her how responsible you are and that she can trust you. I think it's a little silly that she would get mad at you for expressing yourself through your writing, however, maybe she's worried that there are things going on in your life that she doesn't know about (like, for instance, you having sex). Understand that she will always worry about you because she loves you. BTW I'm 23 and my mom still gets on to me for getting my eyebrows done.

Answer 7

first of all what's so wrong with getting you're eyebrows done i'm 13 and i got them done for the first time like 6 months ago you're mom is a little strange and there's nothing wrong with reading books about romance and yes she's scared that her little girl won't be her little girl anyomre my mom said the same thing when i told her i wanted to get my eyebrows done but now she's over it give her some time she'll realize you're not a child anymore

Answer 8

Your mom might be having a problem with her 'baby' growing up. Try including her with girl talk, and things involving picking out books (ask her opinion without getting upset), or even makeup or hair opinion questions. Relate to her in an adult way, and she will eventually come around and realize her baby is now a young lady.

Answer 9

Salam

Her problem as you state as in many mothers is that they did hold your body for 9 said months and cherrished you when your growing. Did you forget about that? Why don't you remind everyone that is your age and yourself that your worth more to mom than the whole world can offer you? What did you loose along the way to realize her love for you is unconditional and not worth throwing away for something you want to call growing up. Are you willing to throw away the relationship for growing up and find yourself alone without her, is it better to be without her then? What is your choice, did you make one or you just complaining about the natural order of things. You may be a mom one day too, did you ever think of that, you and your friends did you guys ever think of any of those things?

Answer 10

I hate to brake it to you, but no matter how old you or your Mom is she will ALWAYS want you to stay a little girl.

My Mom's Dad who is 73 worries and checks up on my Mom (who is 42) when she's out with friends. There was one night he called at home here over 3 times and even called my Mom on her cell a couple times too!!

Parents never stop worrying or trying to keep you as their little baby, some parents do seems to hold on a bit too tight. But maybe just ask for some space a bit. And do things with her so she still knows that deep down you still are her little girl.

Answer 11

Shes been in the world longer than you, she knows with you dolling yourself up and thinking about love you're going to get deeply, deeply hurt. Because honestly, this world pretty much sucks, if i were your concerned mother, i would be LESS concerned if i caught you with a box of condoms than a romance book, atleast I'd know you're being safe and less likely to get your fragile heart utterly crushed by some jerk who only wants you for that luke-warm spot between your legs

save love till you're out of highschool, please.

No, this isn't a troll post, its the sad sad truth of the way our society is.

Edit -- Ohh, by the way, i'd show this question to your mom after a day or 2, to see what she thinks.