Sexual Assult?

Question

This is really hard for me to talk about, nobody really knows about it except for a few close friends and my fiance.

I was sexually assualted 3 years ago by a very close friend of mine. We were at a small party (yes, we were drinking and using drugs) and after everyone fell asleep I woke up to him touching me. I know this is stupid, but I was too scared to say or do anything. I was drunk and high and I didn't know what I would say to him or how he would react, like if it would make things worse. So I layed there and pretended to be asleep while he went on doing it and touching himself. He was my best friend, it's still hard for me to even believe it happened.

Anyway, here I am three years later really regretting my decision not to report him. He has serious problems and I have no doubt he will probably do it again. Right after it happened, mutual friends of ours found child pornography on his laptop, along with a file dedicated to pictures of me that I did not even know he had.

In the state I live in, there is no statue of limitations when it comes to sexual assualt. So I could still report him. The thing is, I'm afraid of what people would say, even my fiance. It's been three years and I'm scared people will say I should just drop it, but it's not that easy. I live with this everyday, he probably doesn't give two craps. How would it even work if he was reported? What would happen?

How could you say I could have prevented it if I was sober?!? There's no telling he wouldn't have done it even if I was. Of course, it wasn't the right choice to be doing drugs, but that doesn't make it my fault.

Answer 1

I guarantee he will do it again.You should report him.But I don't think anything will happen to him since there is no proof that he did it.But report him anyway,that way the cops will know to keep an eye on him.I know its f***ed up for the cops to wait for him to do it again but that's all that can be done.You could also post flier's all over town with his picture on it and have a message on that flier telling everyone about the child porn found in his laptop.That way you can tell the whole town about him and remain anonymous at the same time,and the cops can't do anything to you for it either because it would violate your freedom of speech.I know its a little late to be saying this but if you are ever in that position again you should scratch,bite and scream at the top of your lungs.The cops can then extract DNA evidence from your teeth and under your fingernails.You might also want to report to the cops that he has child porn in his computer.Possesion of child porn is also illegal.Just report him and don't care about violating his rights because he sure didn't give a damn about violating yours.

Answer 2

I do not feel asking to signal an arm is sexual attack. A fourth grade boy touching your leg is irrelevant and he will have to were punished for it. But, truthfully it isn't sexual attack. He's only a fourth grade child with a few essential social issues. Panning him off as a rapist is not going to aid him both. If you mentioned "no" and he listened, then there is not anything to ***** approximately. If you label him instantly as a rapist or a few style of underage intercourse wrongdoer you're simply going to screw him up. If he hasn't performed some thing in view that the leg contact, go away him be and forget about him.

Answer 3

The decision about reporting this needs to be about you and not what others may say. It will not be an easy road. It really comes down to your word against his and while the statute of limitations is not an issue the fact that you waited 3 years will come up.

Regardless of if you report this or not you should get counseling to help you with the issues.

Answer 4

You should've taken care of it then. If you didn't stop him while you were awake, that's your problem. I'm sorry this happened to you, but you could've prevented this by being sober and not leaving yourself vulnerable.
If you really feel the need to report it, do so. I don't agree with waiting so long though.

Answer 5

if u dont report it u wil not only be hurting urself but him also
hes got seroius problems and he needs help like a therapist or rehab
its good that u r able to talk about it though
you should defintly report him
that way you will now that he is not going to be able to hurt anyone else
and besides if u dont put a limit on it now u dont know wat he will extend to

Answer 6

legally you should report him.

morally, for yourself, to free you from this burden
to stop potential rapes in the future
and get help for the both of you

good luck....................