Why because i'm 19 and dont have a job or know what i want to do with the rest of my life am i made to feel...

Question

like the dregs of society by everyone?

Thumbs down to anyone who didnt judge, typical YA crowd, sad old ppl with nothing better to do than thumbs down, idiots.

Why dont you get a life bert, level 6 how sad lol

Answer 1

I'm 36 and still don't know what I want to do with my life. Okay, that's not completely true - I've known since I was 7 that I want to be a writer. I've been writing creatively since then and really, REALLY enjoy it. The whole time I was growing up, except for my Grandma (God rest her soul), I was constantly being put down by my parents about how I was being stupid - I couldn't possibly make a living writing...that I needed to get a REAL job, blah, blah, blah. My parents almost completely crushed my dreams. Now I'm 36, currently unemployed due to layoff (thanks Washington Mutual...GRRR!!!), am running out of $, and I need to find work, but haven't had any luck yet. If I'd had the support of my parents, I'd be writing for a living now. I come from a family of medical people and I was the black sheep because I was the only creative one - they didn't get me. Never mind I was a good obedient kid - my parents treated me like I was a freak. I hate to tell you that it might not get easier to figure it out when you get older, either. There's just so much to choose from in today's world, it's hard to know what to pick. My advice, follow whatever passion you have. If I hadn't been such an obedient girl, I would've told my parents to kiss off and followed my dream. DON'T let this happen to you if you can help it - PLEASE! Me, bitter?? NAH!

Answer 2

I am still aimless at 29 and I'm currently in a job that doesn't exactly make me happy as I just needed a job. You can always attempt further education at any time in your life, but there is always a few hours a week at your local supermarket so that you can learn job skills and show you're employable. When you do make a decision, you'll have a CV and references which could make a difference.

Make an appointment to see your local Connexions office ( http://www.connexions-direct.com ) to see if they can help you find a direction, also have a look at volunteering to find out what you might like to do. Look at your hobbies and see if there's something that you'd be happy doing for money every day. Unfortuantely everyone has to work in the end really. Good luck.

Answer 3

Thumbs down to anyone who didn't judge, typical YA crowd, sad old ppl with nothing better to do than thumbs down, idiots.

I don't understand why you have said this or what you mean? Did you mix your words up?

Seems a bit mean of you to post a question THEN insult the people who bothered to reply. Sad old people with nothing better to do. How do you know people are sad? How do you know they are old? How do you know what people have to do?

You have said thumbs down to anyone who DIDN'T judge you. Does that mean you WANTED to be judged? Did you want people to empathise or chastise?

People could say stop wallowing and feeling sorry for yourself. Get off your backside and go do something... what you do doesn't matter, just go and do something. Or go to college and learn a trade. Find some voluntary work. No one else can tell you what to do with your life, its up to you. No one else is going to come and knock on your door offering you opportunity's. You have to get out there and go bang on some doors yourself. Make things happen, they won't come to you.

Answer 4

does everyone actually think that of you or are you projecting how you think of yourself onto everyone else? like the people that wrongly think they're really ugly sincerely believe that everyone is looking at them wherever they go.

but if people are judging you it's because they're not happy. you say you're not working and don't know what you want to do. that suggests to me that you're holding out for the perfect vocational calling, which is in itself no bad thing. but because most people just do sh1t jobs to make ends meet and resent it, they resent anyone who doesn't follow suit. it's almost like you feel you are better than them because you won't do a crap job too.

also, you're a grown up now and i assume you're depending financially upon others to live. that is pretty unfair on the people supporting you.

the best ideas come when you're active, even it's a boring kind of active. i only found out what i wanted to do when i worked as an office monkey for six months. it was the longest 6 months of my life but it made me realise what i want and don't want from my life. so i would recommend signing up for some mindless work so you can feel independent and maybe get a bit of inspiration.

good luck.

Answer 5

I think society puts too many rules on us. In fact, I commend you for not going to college. It's a waste of money, especially if you don't really want to go, but feel like it's the "thing to do." In terms of not having a job, well... hey, if you can get away with it, more power to you. Eventually you'll have to start taking care of yourself financially, but it can be s meaningless job while you figure it all out. It doesn't have to be your new career nor define you.
I've been there. Heck, I'm still not sure if I know what I want to do, and I'm older than you.

Answer 6

Try to get involved in some sort of work, even if it's volountary. If you get into a rut, it's really difficult to get out of. Some people who have not worked for a good lenghth of time ,for whatever reason, are made to feel inferior and lazy. It's difficult to know what you want to do in life, I tried a few different college courses until I found something that I was really good at and enjoyed. " Ye'd never catch me working in an office" I said when I was sixteen. Been doing office work since I was seventeen and love every day of it. Thank's tae a wee spell at college. Good luck.....

Answer 7

You have to be honest with yourself, and ask the question am I blaming the lack of employment for the way people react to me,or,could there be other reasons,a great many people are unemployed there is no stigma attached to forced unemployment, this may sound hard to you but you need to get a grip on life no-one will do this for you we all have hard times, you can bet your bottom dollar there are many many folks in this world far worse off than you.

Answer 8

Oh dear. That is awful. And of course you know that your peers are only fooling themselves because they are scared shitless of admitting that they don't have a life plan .... so they pretend and hope it will all work out.

You're only 19, so just go off and get some bit of a job to keep yourself going (and possibly pick up a few useful skills along the way), and keep your eyes open for something that interests you, keep reading, watching television, films, etc. Don't spend your evenings on the gargle just because you have to money to do so ... that's for those who have day jobs that they 'plan' on staying in for the next 55 years (for 'plan' read 'be trapped in') and who are trying to forget that their lives are over because they are afraid to live.

Hurray for you! Having the courage to admit something that everyone else is afraid to look in the eye.

It took me a few years to realise I wanted to be an artist, then another couple of years to get that I already was (am) an artist, and now I'm realising that I can investigate all kinds of interesting avenues ....

Answer 9

Society as a whole puts ridiculously high standards on everybody. People expect everyone to mature at the exact same rate, by the exact same standard, and god forbid if you don't. If you are confused, they spit upon you. This is because people think that society should basically plan out one's life to the point that it goes something like this...

When I grow up, I will go to college and become a doctor/lawyer/etc and join a fraternity or some sort of Christian club that would make my parents proud.

If you don't fit the mold, society as a whole doesn't have a label for you aside from being the dregs of society.

Answer 10

It doesnt matter if you dont know what you want to do. Some people go all the way through life without ever knowing.
What I would suggest is to get yourself a little part time job in a shop or something to start getting a bit of money behind you.
Also, talk to learndirect. They will give you options.
The trick is is to find something that gets you fired up.