How many days a week does your spouse come straight home after work?

Question

Would it make you mad if 3 out of 5 days he didn't come home after work? Plus every Sunday was gone & works Saturdays?

No excuses, he just stops by the bar w/ co-workers or friends and every Sunday shoots pool on a league for hours. I'm tired of not knowing what days he's going to come home after work & tired of being alone & honestly, we can't afford it! Just wondering if this was a normal guy thing or if it's okay for me to be a little upset?

I have told him that I miss him & want him home more but apparently he doesn't care! I think it's very rude because we only have one car right now & one cash card & he usually has both! Plus I'm stuck at home w/ 2 kids! And he's not answering his cell phone! Urgh! Now I'm just ranting because I'm f'ing heated!

Answer 1

Yeah thats inconsiderate. He should be home every night after work. Aren't you home after work? Maybe one night a week he can go somewhere else, but gheesh. What works for us is we both come home from work every night except occasionally. Friday nights are our date night (once or twice a month) Saturdays we get our "me time" to be apart. And Sunday is family day. Your hubby is tripping.

Answer 2

Unless there's some legitimate reason he isn't coming home, then yes I'd be pretty mad. And the weekends, unless it's work-related, I consider that family time. I guess the main question I have is: do you know where he is or what he's doing with that time?

If you do, and you believe him, then maybe you just need to be straight up and honest with him. Tell him that you want him home more and that you miss him. And that you want time with him - you need to open the lines of communication, because unless you stand up and say "look, I'm not happy" then he isn't going to know it. Unfortunately for us ladies, men are not psychic... nor can they read our minds - even though that would sometimes make life easier!

I guess I'm pretty lucky - my hubby is home after work all the time - he can't wait to get home! :) I always get texts about how he misses me and our little kiddies.... I don't take that for granted though. I'm good to him... he deserves it :)

Best of luck =)

Answer 3

I won't answer your question because you will add to the stress of the matter by really using all of these opinions. This is a question you have already answered. Every marriage is different. You should decide how you want to feel about the real problem and talk to him. If your normal approach for discussion doesn' t work, then try something different. I found out that too many opinions about your situation can sometimes hurt a relationship.

Answer 4

My husband comes home after work every day. If he gets invited out anywhere, he calls me and asks if I would like to join them and if I opt not to, he usually comes right home anyway. Sounds like he needs to get his priorities in order. Having time away from each other is important.... but this seems to be a one way street and it happens way too often! I would talk to him about it. Perhaps plan some fun things to do when he gets home...maybe dinner and a movie (just at home...or out on the town). Keep the romance alive at home and maybe it will prevent him from not coming home in a timely manner. Best of luck!

Answer 5

My husband comes home straight after work just about every day. When he does go out with friends, I enjoy my "time off".

But if he was gone every night and all weekend, I would be pissed, and would probably eventually move out... I mean, if my husband is never around - why have a husband at all? The whole point of marriage for me is to have the companionship of my partner.

Answer 6

Oh yeah defiantely. My man comes home every day after work, first no matter what. That is not cool. You need to talk to him and let him know that you understand that he needs some personal time to go out, but he needs to limit it, because it is effecting your relationship, and you don't feel you are getting adequate time with him. Is he spending time with his friends, at a bar, or is he having an affair. I sure your mind is already wondering. I feel for you sister and I have been in your shoes, however that is no longer acceptable behavior from my husband, and he needs to realize there are boundaries and respect necessary to hold a marriage together. Talk to him, or if necessary get into marriage counseling. Good luck to you and God bless

Answer 7

Is there any reason that your husband doesn't like to be at home with you? I come directly home from work to my wife every day. I work 5 and a half days a week but I do love coming home to my wife. That's why I married her, so I could be with her. Maybe you need to take a look at your home situation and see if there is a reason why your husband doesn't go home after work. He may be unhappy and you might have to ask him why and work things out so he is happy and wants to come home. It's just a thought and idea to try to help. (smile)

Answer 8

You sound as if u are between a rock and hard spot..

Your head is telling u one thing...
but
your heart is telling u another.... !!!

Most men.. that are faithful, loving ,,, and GENUINE.are in a hurry to get home.. to be with the family.. for
they are the love of his life..
U really need to take off the rose colored glasses..!!!

U need to get a plan.. and talk to a counselor before u go into depression.. .. God bless and help u..
good luck!

Answer 9

My husband comes home every day directly from work...although there's usually one day a week where he stops to pick up Krispy Kreme's first.

But yes I think it's odd that your husband does this and I would definitely ask him why and where he is going.

Answer 10

yes extremely - especially if there was no rhyme or reason for it!

what are his excuses?...

my fiance works 12 hour shifts most week days, and also works on the weekends... but he always comes right home afterwards.

We have a 6 month old son - I'd be furious if he never came home...

Goodluck sweetie!