take advantage of their wives so bad? My husband seems to treat me like a piece of furniture i swear. Doesn't know im there till he needs to use me. Im really tired of it. I do not do this to him. If anything i go out of my way to make him know i need him and want him.
2007-11-06 10:38:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of course not all husbands are like this, and yes i have told him about how i feel and still, he sits. so YES. maybe it is my fault, but since i have been married to him 14 years i LOVE him i would like to figure out what to do. And yes ive suggested counseling. That didnt work either.
2007-11-06 10:53:24 · update #1
Yes we have 2 kids. 7 & 10
2007-11-06 10:54:49 · update #2
You didnt mention children. If you have none, take off for a while. Let him see what hes missing.
By the way, it happens to men too.
2007-11-06 10:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason that he does this is because you have not told him that you don't like it. You have to communicate your feelings to him and let him know that you are feeling unappreciated and used. At the same time give him some ideas as to what you would like and how you would like to be treated. His way of fixing things may be totally different than what you have going on in your head. When you tell him this you need to ask him how he is feeling and if there is anything different that you can do for him also. He is totally unaware of how you feel unless you tell him. Talk to him soon before your feelings get worse and you end up yelling in frustration. If you start the conversation with him and his needs it will help your situation out greatly and he will be more apt to listen when you get to what you need.
2007-11-06 10:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any question that starts with "why do husbands..." or "why do wives..." is sort of pointless. All husbands don't do what you describe. The problem is that YOUR husband does this. Talk to him, get some help to try to work it out, and analyze your own behavior in the relationship. It always takes two - he may be treating you poorly, but you're telling him how much you need him instead of telling him that you deserve to be treated better.
2007-11-06 10:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by pecosee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, they do this cause wives allow them to. Just like anyone else, people will take advantage of you if you let them.
Communication is the key, when that doesnt work, do something that gets the point across, like the other girl said, dont do the laundry or dont cook!
2007-11-06 10:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by 70sVirgo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe that is the problem, you are too needy and dependent on him. Maybe you need to make him appreciate you. Try not cooking for a week, or only washing your laundry and leaving his. Go out of your way to let him see and appreciate all the little things you do.
2007-11-06 10:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why do you allow him to walk all over you? Funny that, my husband doesn't take advantage of me... maybe it's because if he did, he wouldn't be my husband at all? If you're willing to settle, you *will* find someone who's going to exploit you. Raise your expectations.
2007-11-06 10:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear me,
i think its high time that u realize that u need to move on! i know love is a hard thing to go thru. I know, believe me! But its time that u turn it around and start doing the same to him! or else, it will never end! He will continue to treat u like a peace of meat until u wisen up and treat him the same way. bottom line, leave the son of a b****!.
kevin
2007-11-06 10:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
my hubby doesn't take advantage of me (unless i let him!!) but if it is out of control, tell him and if he acts stupid, just clean up after yourself, do your own laundry, just do your stuff and see how much he needs you as opposed to taking advantage, tell him that a thank you once in awhile would be nice!
2007-11-06 10:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does this to you because you let him. We teach people how to treat us. You have tried teaching him by your example of being nice to him but that doesn't work with him, so now you need to use his own language to teach him.
2007-11-06 10:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by April First 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the first time, shame on him. the second, third and fourth time, shame on you. stop doing everything for him and let him get his lazy #$@ up! handle it now before he gets old, because you won't be able to teach an old dog new tricks!
2007-11-06 10:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by cuban_wahine 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋