Adultery!!?

Question

My wife left a month ago to live in an adulterous relationship with a guy she met online. My question is then; Is adultry still considered a sin in todays liberalised society???
How long should I be prepared to give her before I attempt to pick up the pieces of my life and move on??? Considering I still love her greatly!!!

Answer 1

the longer u wait the worse u will feel, when she doesn't come back when u think she should. when a relationship ends it is painful, especially for the one who was left. begin to pick up the pieces now, and if she doesn't come back u won't feel as if u were the fool for waiting. but had she loved u she would have stayed and worked on whatever it was that made her go. she would have considered your feelings instead of her own. even though u love her she may not be capable of being emotionally responsible and worthy of your love. loosing a loved one this way undermines our ego and self worth causing us the worst possible pain there is. and if not resolved it can interfere with future relationships. adultery is not looked upon as the same in today's society as it was in past times, but as far as gods law it is still a sin and theres no other way to look at it. its a total disregard for u or the marriage, and her behavior speaks volumes about where her heart is.

Answer 2

First of all I am very sorry your wife left you.
Adultery is no sin but it is a serious fault in a marriage. Marriages are supposed to be monogamous so anytime one of the partner is unfaithful he or she undermines the very structure of the relationship. It is a sad thing and one that is very difficult to forget, forgive and return to a marriage.
Of course there exist some "open" marriages where both partners give each other absolute freedom to have sexual encounters with other individuals, but mostly an adultery is a turning point in a marriage.
You must put all there is in a balance and decide if your wife is worth it, to wait for her and if she decides to come back, that you are strong enough to accept her faux pas.

I personally would be very disappointed and heart broken and could never accept an infidelity from my husband. But that's me and I would never judge another person for the way they feel.
So search in your heart and mind and be truthful to yourself. Can and would you forgive? Is she still worth it? Do you see her in a different light after the treason? If you think there is nothing left to save... move on my friend and I am sure you're better off than expecting the worse time after time living with a liar.
good luck

Answer 3

Would you really want her back after this???? Do you have kids??? I think adultery is still considered a sin but some people have different ideas of what adultery is. I think this is adultery since she has been living with him and assuming they are having sex. In most states the courts don't care about adultery. I think I would try now to pick up the pieces and move on. Your life is different now, it will never be the same, it will be better! GOOD LUCK my friend.

Answer 4

whether or not you consider it a sin doesn't matter b/c it's still a sin. if you're trying to move on with your life and find someone else, you need to get a divorce. if you don't divorce your living just as much of an adulterous life as she is. if you still think there's something worth salvaging, it has to work both ways...not just you wanting it, but her too.
i wish you nothing but the best.
blessings and luck to you and your future

Answer 5

She left you start picking it up know it is still I sin I do not care what anyone says it is a sin she will get hers when time comes and you do not deserve a women like this move on look for someone that value you she did not I know you love her but it is time to get her off your mind and move on be happy do it for you. Go to singles clubs have fun your young free. DO IT U DO NOT NEED HER.

Answer 6

It sounds like your wife was quite brazen in her behavior.She is sending a strong message that she either has absolutely no consideration for you and/or the institution of marriage.
You should seriously consider divorce as much as it may hurt but you have a long life in front of you.
You sound like a decent chap and I'm sure a wonderful woman will be in your future.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

Adultery is still sin, despite how widespread it is. Your wife is blinded by Satan. You need to put God first in your life and He will restore your marriage. His Word never returns void. However, you have work to do. You need to stand for your marriage and for your wife.

Please check out Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp. They have a restored marriage after being divorced for about two years. They have a website and send devotionals everyday encouraging men and women to stand for their marriage and their spouse's salvation. Check out their archives.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php

I highly recommend that you sign up for Doreen's Devotionals called Doreen's Daily Delights.. These are awesome. http://marriagerestorationministries.org/

Here's another website for people standing for their marriages. They have a men's forum where you can talk to other men standing for their marriages. There is chat every Friday night. http://www.faithandmarriage.com/

Check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/

Also check out this link concerning divorce and remarriage. I think you will be surprised. Many churches are blinded to the truth and even encourage people to divorce. Satan is tearing the church and marriages apart.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce

Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 8

Well, if she is still married and living with someone else I would say that is a sin. Depends on your religion I guess. This woman obviously does not care about you. Get on with your life and file for divorce.

Answer 9

If you wish to get back together with your wife, you are first going to have to come to terms with her having been unfaithful and realize she may just do it again! Then you are going to have to find out if SHE wants to get back together. I would say the chances are slim at best of you being able to tackle either of these obstacles!
I would suggest the sooner you move on the better!

Answer 10

My friend I think you should have decided to move on the day she left. Granted, the new relationship that she's in may not work out but why would you give her a chance to come back?

Not to sound rude or anything but she was clearly unhappy with you. Although you love her, its best that you move on.