He left her and he and I met about 9 months later. We have been and lived together for over a year.
He calls to speak to the kids, if someone else is there she says loudly " I can't speak to you while you are drunk. There is no need to be abusive with me." Then she hangs up.She lied in the divorce papers, saying he has not seen the kids and he is a violent alcoholic who attacked her while she was pregnant. (The children have been to stay with us 7 or 8 times since we were together, and more before. My friend's tell me that she used to harrass and beat him, sometimes calling him 60 or 70 times whenever he went out). She uses the children, (6,5 and 2)getting them to ask their dad where his wedding ring is, and bribing them with new toys not to go and see him on his access visits (she has stopped residential access). I witness enough to know my partner is telling the truth, and see the damage she is causing the kids. Divorce and custody hearings are pending, but how can we weather this?
2007-11-06 10:26:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a form of PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome. It is very bad. I was in this same type of situation for over three years with my husband before I decided to research just what was going on with this woman......it was and still is nuts. At least my husband and I understand it a bit now. I will give you a link to a great site that can explain it to you...it is www.fact.on.ca/Info/pas/major98.htm. Also I am a member of the yahoo group called The Real Mrs. It is a great bunch of women and we offer each other support, humor and wisdom. Come join us if you like.
2007-11-06 10:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. This sounds like an awful situation that no one should have to face. Unfortunately, she is angry and will be angry until she decides not to be. In the mean time, keep a record of what has been going on and make sure that when you talk about this with your partner, that the kids don't hear. I know this is difficult, but hang in there. Once she finds something else to distract her, she will let go a bit. Your lawyer should also have some advice. Good luck to you- you will get through this!
2007-11-06 10:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to a mediator or counseling with his ex. They need to stop playing head games.
Keep in mind that in the long run, everyone will see the truth for what it is. Don't get egos involved and accept that she's just like that. Always think of the kids and it will help you see the light end of the tunnel.
2007-11-06 10:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is keep an attorney on retainer and do your best to get custody of the kids. They are the ones who are suffering the most living with this unfit nutcase. Dont back down or those kids will be facing a bleak future. Document everything she does with dates, times, witnesses.
I feel for you both but I feel for those kids more.
2007-11-06 10:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the court is the only person that can decide this and I think that everytime you talk to her record what she sayd on a phone or a tape player and when hearing tell them how this is affect your relationship and the kids that it is not good put a retraining order on her and have her only call you if it is about the kids and if she calls you about something else get her put in jail get an affidavit form your husbands job and letters saying that he is a great guy and people have not seen him drunk.
2007-11-06 10:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert but it may be a good idea for you both to speak to his solicitor and see what he/she says, in fact it may be better if your partners solicitor is a woman as she will know how to take on another woman and hit her where it hurts, she's obviously a nut job.
2007-11-06 10:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg don't u just hate baby's momma's Im going through the same ****. my fiancee had to have a 2 hr drug screening to be put in rehab last week and he's never touched drugs. the lady screening him thought it was a joke..
if you ever get the answer for this let me know i;ve been dealing with this **** for 3 years.
2007-11-06 10:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by jcandbeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I can say is PRAY. I am in a similar situation. That's all I do.
2007-11-06 10:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by jaeda_dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tree chipper!
2007-11-06 10:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best let the courts deal with this..keep your nose clean that way..
2007-11-06 10:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋