I have a male friend of many years who I just got back in contact with after some time. He is married and I recently met his wife. While over at their place having drinks she and I were chatting and she confessed to me that she has been sleeping around. During this conversation her husband walked in the room with a look on his face that can only be described as pure pain and hurt. I confronted him about the situation and he has known about his wife's acts for quite some time. It also turns out that he is very attracted to me and I to him. There has been talk of he and I having something on the side.... I just don't know what to do.
2007-11-06 10:22:23 · 29 answers · asked by Davina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is NEVER right to get involved with a married man. If you want to get involved, then you should do it the right way, and let him divorce her first. If he's willing to cheat on her, what makes you think he won't cheat on you?
2007-11-06 10:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as you can - away from that... Nothing good can come from it!
If he's known of her cheating on him for a long time and now he wants to cheat - probably to get back at her - where do you think that could possibly lead...
Plus - why would you want to start something "on the side" doesn't seem like that is a good thing in the long run, right?
Also - he is married - I would think that he is not a trustworthy, stand-up kinda guy if he is willing to break his vows (even if his wife has already done it...)
2007-11-06 18:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be a fool, there is a name for people like that. Dont get involved in this ugly situation, cause you could turn out to be the bad one, they could possibily turn on you, so be very careful.. Two wrongs dont make a right so let it be. He would probably only cheat with you to get his wife back, so you'd only end up getting hurt and used..Go and find yourself a nice single guy there are plenty of cute ones still out there..
2007-11-06 18:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by sue_cp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait it out until they divorce. The wife may be sleeping around, but they are still together for whatever reason. It seems like a shady situation to me and I would avoid it.
2007-11-06 18:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by morbidlybeautiful 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing...leave them alone and let them work through it. It was none of his wife's business telling you that anyway. They need to work through it on their own terms. You will only make it more confusing for all of you. Do yourself the favor of not putting yourself in a situation that is bound to end up badly.
2007-11-06 19:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once they separate (if) then hes fair game but until then he is HERS and not YOURS for the taking....WHY is it that people can't respect others and their relationships and always want to get in the middle of it and cause problems!!??!! I understand that he knows about the sleeping around but if he doesn't want to leave he then he has to live with it. Leave them alone and go find another friend.
2007-11-06 18:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy drama, go for it cause there will be plenty of it.
Why would you even want a married guy? You get his wife's leftovers.
Their marriage sounds miserable. Wait until they break up before you get involved with this guy.
2007-11-06 18:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking yourself, why is he still married? And how OK are you with sleeping with a guy who married and doesn't want a divorce? And, why aren't you attractive to single men? It's EASY to attract a married man---not as easy to attract a single man.
2007-11-06 23:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consent...if everyone involved will allow, i think it's alright. if ur gonna have some drinking again in his place, open a conversation about consenting adults and maybe everyone will come to an agreement about sleeping who with whom. the matter should not be about doing something to hurt someone but to enjoy one's preference. who knows all involved might enjoy it and all will end up in group sex.
2007-11-06 18:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by dani l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know it's wrong. Give me a break, you said you saw for yourself the hurt on his face about his wife's affair! I know it's a cliche, but two wrongs don't make a right.
2007-11-06 18:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by WordNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋