we've been writing for about a year. i'm homeschooled, in great family, and Christian, she's a private university student, adopted into a Jewish family, and has a history of abuse. she's been through so much in life, and i don't want her to think i'm dropping her because of her past. i enjoyed writing to her and learning about her life and religion, but i don't have time to keep up with letters anymore. help!!!!
2007-11-06 10:19:38 · 24 answers · asked by :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be honest. Tell her you have learned so much from her, but you dont have time anymore for a pen pal. Tell her she can email you if she wants, but the pen pal thing is over. Nothing to do with her, but you are getting older. life is changing and you dont want her to feel bad if you dont write back. Tell her you just cant keep up and you hope she understands what a major impact she has made in your life.
2007-11-06 10:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of blowing her off as others suggested, why don't you tell her exactly what you told us. Let her know you respect her very much for all that she's been through and that you've enjoyed learning about her culture but you are entering a very busy time in your life and won't be able to keep up with the letters anymore. Another thing you could do is find another friend who is just as interested in learning something new about someone else and give your pen pal her address so she feels as if you're not simply rejecting her.
2007-11-06 10:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by justsinginrain87 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard for you, but you're amazing for thinking about this first and not just ending it. I would write her a letter saying that you've really enjoyed her friendship and her letters over the past few months, but that you are having trouble finding the time for everything and that you will be unable to continue the letters. Invite her to exchange a letter once next year, just for old times sake. She should understand this- You don't want to insult her. Just be honest and wish her the best of luck with life and everything else that comes her way.
2007-11-06 10:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice, be honest. I lost a friend who I thought was very close to me last year around the holidays and to this day I don't know why. Let her know that your schedule is overwhelming and that you will try to keep in touch when you can. Make sure to tell her how much you've enjoyed writing to and learning about her.
I think honesty is the best policy, even if it's hard because you think you might be hurting her feelings. Believe me, she'll be better off knowing you CAN'T write, as opposed to thinking you just don't want to.
Good luck!
2007-11-06 10:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by mamarat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just e-mail her and tell her your life is so busy right now that you would prefer to limit the e-mails to once a month or so.. Tell her that when she e-mails you and you can't respond right away it makes you feel bad. Evenutally she'll realize that it's just not working out--you don't have the time to put into the pen-pal thing. She'll get it eventually. Just let her down slowly. Nobody want's to be dissed that quickly. Would you? Good luck!
2007-11-06 10:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by kadkadkad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 11:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you just don't have time to write as much because of "activities". Maybe you two can catch up with a letter every few months. I think you will feel guilty if you just cut her off. Hope this helps
2007-11-06 10:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Frogleena 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with AK. Just tell her you have enjoyed writing to her, but need to stop the regular letters because you just don't have the time. If I were she, I would understand. Just keep in contact once in awhile when you do have time, like AK said.
2007-11-06 10:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I think it's kinda rude that you would drop someone just because you feel like it. Isn't this person your friend?? It seems you know all her personal business and you guys have had at least somewhat intimate conversations.
At the most, I would tell her 'sorry my letters have been so sporadic, I have just been soooo busy' or something like that so at least she knows that's why you don't communicate as often. But just dropping off the face of the earth and not talking at all is wrong.
2007-11-06 10:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by qnbee1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
try telling her that you cant write to her because your school is assigning you new pen pals and you cant write to her anymore. she'll understand but let her down easy and make your last letter something special. maybe a poem, drawing, or maybe even send her candy. be really sorry about it
2007-11-06 10:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by iTHINK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋