I just had a baby 5 days ago and my husband has been acting less of a new father and husband. He doesn't participate in anything, i have to pratically do everything even though i'm in so much pain. He's either on the internet or watching tv, and today, during lunch a drink spilled in the car coz' i put the drink on top of the compartment and he knocked it over and he blamed me for it, the baby was crying, and i didn't have a cup holder in the back of the car to put the drink inn, so when i told him to watch for the drink he yelled at me and called me stupid and yelled at me. I feel so depress, i feel like i made a huge mistake having this baby with him. He's so impatient with me and he just doesn't realize how painful it is to have a baby, he asked me "does it really hurt"? its like he's thinking i'm faking the pain, i don't know how to deal with the physical and the mental pain he's causing me. I just want to cry... i feel so bad for my baby that he sees me crying all the time.
2007-11-06 10:15:12 · 15 answers · asked by Valerie K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm pretty sure he was like that before. now that you have a baby, and he is abusive, you need to leave for your child. go to your parents, or a friend, but you can't stay there. emotional abuse can turn quickly into physical abuse.
PS: no more kids with this asshole.
2007-11-06 10:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was like this before the baby then you need to really think about leaving now before things get worse. If this is something that just started, then I would sit down and talk to him calmly and see if he will tell you what is going on. He may be just as stressed and if this is the first child you had, he is probably feeling alot of emotions all at once and isn't sure how to handle them. No matter what though calling anyone stupid is never acceptable in my book.
2007-11-06 10:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell your husband that he is abusing you and that you would like for him to stop. Some people are just that way and will not stop. If he continues to abuse you and refuses to listen to your request of stopping the verbal abuse, then I would suggest to leave him or kick him out. I don't understand how a "new dad" or any dad or husband could do that sort of thing to their wife. I was so happy and excited when my boy was born, that I worshiped him and her and treated his mom very good but I treated her very good from the day I met her. I wish I knew what to say to you. I would like to tell you that there is hope. I guess there really is hope for him but it's very unlikely. I am sorry to say this. But you have to try to get everything fixed with him before you just leave or throw him out just in case he can change for the better. (smile)
2007-11-06 10:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, I am so sorry that you are going through that. I think you need to sit him down and have a long chat, tell him what you are feeling, ask him what hes feeling. If nothing changes you should leave. I left w/babies and its not easy but in the long run its healthier emotionally for the kid(s). Even babies can pick up on emotional turmoil in their home. I hope everything turns out okay for you, nobody should be subjected to verbal abuse, especially in your condition.
2007-11-06 10:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just to say no you didn't make a mistake having your previous baby
your husband is the one who is not adjusting to the new situation rather than you
if your husband cant help you then perhaps stop helping him? he will learn how to launder his own clothes and do his own cooking if he really HAS to
and if he continues then one day he will come home from work and find you and the baby gone (a refuge or some such?)
he needs a wake-up call - and he is probably feline jealous of the baby taking up more of your time as he had you all to himself previously (some guys do wake up to the fact that IF they help more then it frees YOU up more to be able to have more focus on one another
2007-11-06 10:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you do not apprecitate him treating you like that and that he has changed since the baby was born. You do not want to show this type of behavior to your child!
If he doesn't change then you shouldn't be together! Don't stay in a relationship with abuse- if he is not willing to change, then you cannot change him and end it!
Try everything first, find out what is bothering him!
2007-11-06 11:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do nto need this you need to get out go to your moms house or something or go to the heath and social ser5vices department and they can help you find a place to stay you do not need him he is a slug he deserves to be alone and he does not have the right to treat you like he is treating you and in the end get child support on him and then he will no. You are not alone you do not deserve this get help.
2007-11-06 10:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal is the initiating of exact abuse. do not enable it get to a procedures devoid of a few real help. seek for counseling or finding the reason for violence. final motel could be divorce.
2016-09-28 11:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact Womans Refuge. You are in an abusive marriage. They will support you and give you advice, councelling etc. You don't have to be physically hit to get their help.
2007-11-06 13:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would leave him you sound so unhappy tell him how would he like to carry a baby round for 9 months and a size of a water melon to comeout of his a*se put it like that maybe he will understand a bit more.
2007-11-06 10:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋