My sister is unorganized and unwilling to listen. Help?

Question

My little sister is a very moody, 'you cant make me if i don't want to' kind of person.

And she has good grades, but they are slipping. This is due to her poor organization of her planner and her binders. She also reads wayy below her level in books and doodles constantly in class. She doesn't want to challenge herself if she doesn't think it'll be fun for her.

With such a negative personality, I'm having a hard time helping her because she doesn't listen. So is there a fun way that I can instill better habits? Any ideas?

Answer 1

Read with her at night - do the funny voices :-)

Play games - sing songs - recite poems

Encourage the doodling in the form of artistic expression - buy an art set. Brushes and acrylic paints are quite cheap these days and wash out in water.

Make it fun - make it engaging - make it exciting, and she'll love it. However, this is very time consuming.

Answer 2

Remember that your sister isnt you. It may be difficult for her to listen for long periods of time and she doesnt know how else to express her frustration. She might not understand what you are trying to teach, or she could be low on confidence and does not believe she can do it. Offer to help her, but if she doesnt want it, then leave her. Try building her confidence up and praise her when you think she has done well. Make a big deal out of it when she does do some work.

Answer 3

Leave her alone for awhile. Don't bug her about it. She's already heard what you have to say and she knows the consequences. You can't force someone to do or not to do something - you can only warn them. The rest is up to them. Lay off for a few weeks and see if there is some change in her behavior. You care about your sister and this is a good thing. It speaks highly of you and your intentions. However, sometimes silence speaks loudest.

Answer 4

Have your parents ruled out any medical problems? There's a chance she has ADD or dyslexia, or even hearing or vision trouble but she's afraid to speak up.

Reading below grade level is not due to poor organization skills - it's more likely dyslexia.

Answer 5

Get her to laugh at herself. Sometimes humor helps and keeps down the stress. Do not over react to the point of it becoming your problem. Thanks for being such a caring person and for knowing your sister so well. Let her know you appreciate who she is...take some chill time with her.

Answer 6

Try to teach her things but in a fun way. Tell her your serious when you need her to do something. Ask her if somethings wrong but if she says no then tell her you really want to help if somethings up. Ask if there is a problem at school. Let your mom know about.

Answer 7

I was a younger sister like that. My sister is 3 years older and we used to fight like cats and dogs. Because she wanted to push me while I wanted to lag my feet. After a certain age, we stopped, and I honestly think shes amazing. Shes the slower one between us two, I love to learn and for her it was always a chore. I think your sister is just going to have to grow out of it, I know I did. Don't tell her you're helping her, it sounds condescending. Tell her shes smart, remind her. Tell her you're proud of her because of who she is. She'll appreciate it and listen to you, even if she doesn't show it.

Answer 8

Realize that sisters have a tendency to not get along. Be nice and try, the time will present its self.

Answer 9

Yes. You might try leaving her alone. It's really none of your business. It's your parents business, but if they don't/can't get involved, let it alone. As long as you pick at her, she's not going to listen or have any respect for what you say.

Answer 10

Well i had the same problem.
sometimes i still do, but im organized.
but i think u need to sit her down AND make her read.
if not tell ur parents and they might know a soultion! =]