my friend has been really annoying me lately just by the things she does and shes always kicking me and stuff just for fun so i kick her back but don't know if im going overboard, plus i cant really say anything to her. am i just being jealous or is something wrong?
2007-11-06 09:44:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Jealous of what? The fact that you're getting kicked by her? I don't understand, you didn't give enough detail.
2007-11-06 09:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you annoyed at her for something she has done, or are you just finding yourself annoyed for no reason. It might be something that she did in the past that you have resented or it might be you just need a little space and to leave each other alone to think things through. If she is kicking you and you don't like it, don't kick her back, talk to her about it and let her know that it's not funny and you don't like it. If she persists you might want to rethink your friendship and if it's really worth all the hassle. What would you be jealous of? Is she dating someone you don't like or spending more time with someone else. Take her out and talk to her and get it all out in the open. If she is your best friend then she should understand and talk to you about it.
2007-11-06 17:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by mistress_elizabeth69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, see if she's really annoying you on purpose or if you've just been losing your patience lately. Maybe she's always acted like this and it just never bothered you before? Maybe you need to spend some time away from her? Everything about a person can get annoying if you spend too much time with them.
If she's genuinely bothering you, of course you can say something about it! Always remember, communication is KEY in any relationship, and if you can't tell her something calmly and politely without her getting upset, she must not be as good of a friend as you thought. Just say something like, "Listen, please stop doing that. It kind of annoys me." And if she keeps on, tell her you're serious.
AND/OR, tell her to stop and don't kick her back. By doing to her what she does to you, it makes her think you don't mind, or that it's a cute little game. But if you stop, she'll know you really mean it.
2007-11-06 17:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by blank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa, that doesnt sound like a great relationship at all. first you need to stop retaliating and giving it back. its just going to keep it going. then spend some time away from her. when she asks why or it continues you need to have a serious talk with her. i had a friend that did the same thing, kindof pushy and annoying and i just stopped spending so much time with her and made new friends and even now if she starts being annoying when i do see her i let her know its not ok. dont let people treat you that way and definitely dont do it back. hope this helps.
2007-11-06 17:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one person who can answer this question: YOUR FRIEND.
And there is only one person who can ask her: YOU.
And there is only one way to ask a question: JUST DO IT. Wait for the right moment, a time when you both are getting along very well, then say something like this:
"I like you as a friend and enjoy being with you, but sometimes you do things I don't understand. For example, why do you kick me? Sometimes it hurts, and I don't think you know that."
Try it. You'll probably find out a lot of stuff you both should undersand about your friendship. Good friends are very valuable. But not every person you know is capable of being a good friend.
2007-11-06 17:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by BC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest you have to talk to her. You say you dont know how to tell her. Say I dont want you to kick me and do this stuff for fun. Its not funny and I dont like it. Dont kick her back. If she does it again, say Im not going to be your friend. If you cant say it to her, then shes not your friend. You are not being jealous. No one has the right to put their hands on you. You have to stop her. If she doesnt stop, dont hang out with her.
2007-11-06 17:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she does certain things that annoy you, just gently let her know. If she kicks you, don't kick back, just let her know that it hurts and not to do it again. If her simply being around annoys you, then you're the one being immature by not bothering to let her know that there's been a change in the friendship.
2007-11-06 17:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are jealous, but you certainly are annoyed with the way she is behaving. Tell her that you really like her, but you are starting to hate some of the things she is doing to you. Tell her what it is that is bothering you, and ask her to not do it any more. If she continues to treat you this way, then you will have to decide if you want to still be friends with her.
2007-11-06 17:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend??? Maybe she feels the same way about you...otherwise she wouldn't be kicking you would she? Seems to me you need a new friend. Friends don't kick each other. Friends can talk to each other if they're annoying each other. Show her this.
2007-11-06 17:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by flopsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reason she might be kicking you is because she's playing around. You should ask her to stop and tell her that's it annoying you. If she doesn't then, you don't need her.
2007-11-06 17:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋