think i've been gay for a while, though not sure?

Question

i've been thinking that i've been gay for three years now, and i can remember a little before that of liking girls, but the thought that i could be a lesbian never crossed my mind. i know its really common for people to go throught a stage where they think they're gay, in fact i've heard most people question their sexuality at some time or another, and end up being straight. is it possible that even thought ive been feeling this way for a few years now, thats it's just a stage and that i'll end up being straight?

Answer 1

The symptom you are having don't sound like gayness. Besides to catch gayness you have to hold handss or kiss a gay person. You can catch it froma toilet seat used by a gay too, but it is rare. Sounds to me what you are mistaking as gayness is just plain old simple gas. Try an antacid.

Answer 2

Depends. If you stare at girls and your heart starts beating, you cant look them straight in the eyes, you have a want to smack or touch a girl's butt, stare constantly at a girls' boobs, then you may be gay.
If you just think someone is pretty or the likes, then you just may be jealous. I mean, most girls think little of themselves and always think they do not look that pretty in their own eyes, and may think that someone else is. So, girls may think about the other girl and how pretty and nice they look and not be gay.
It also depends on how you feel about the opposite sex. If you think someone of the opposite sex is "sexy" and you cant get them out of your mind, then you cant be gay.
Another contribution to whether or not you are gay is age. People around puberty tend to have mixed feelings and not sure of true loves. Meanwhile, ages of around starting adult hood could grasp their true feeling more-so than others of young adults, or teenagers, to be more specific.
There is also the possibility of being Bi, as in, having feelings for both genders.
Well, hope this helps, and if not, I am sure there are plenty above and below me that can help -^.^-

Answer 3

well only you can answer this question as hard as it may be to answer it. Are you physically attracted to girls? Who do you see your self with when your older, a man or a woman.

Im not sure but Im guessing that people who are gay pretty much know that right away and if not right away they probably would know in three years.

If you are seriously confused maybe talking to a councelor or someone trained to deal with that kind of thing could help you.

To just think that a girl is pretty or even hot or whatever is completly normal. I am not gay and I think girls are very attractive.

Answer 4

It's possible you could be straight, bi, or gay.
You could be like me a female who had never been attracted to a woman before, was actually married (to a man) for 5 years and while married found the most wonderful woman ever who I have been with now for 2 years and I am happier than I have ever been before. I'd say try dating both and see who you feel more attracted too or more comfortable with that may help you figure it out.

Answer 5

Well, I was straight for 35 years until I had my first lesbian relationship. I never dreamed of being attracted to a woman. Now I can't see myself being with a man. It's possible that you may be straight but if you are having these thoughts, I think you are a lesbian. Or maybe you are bisexual.

Answer 6

I've had lots of gay friends and relatives (large, extended family). And, when I ask them at what point in their life they realized they were gay, they unanimously said that they always knew it.

A lot of people who are confused sexually experiment and find out one way or the other. I've known women who were in intimate relationships with other women for years, only to realize that there is something missing in their lives. And, it's that they are actually straight (or bi).

The opposite is true for a lot more people, who live a straight family life for years and eventually realize that they're gay, especially with the stigma that being gay can be put on people by society.

I imagine you're fairly young (teens or twenties). If so, you have plenty of time to figure out who you are sexually. Go with what you find attractive - men, women, or both - and be yourself. You'll eventually figure it out.

Answer 7

you may be wanting to call yourself gay because it's popular with the world today...straight people don't feel the need to broadcast their likes...they just live life as we all should...somethings should remain private, but the gay people think everyone should know their business...i only know what the Bible says about homosexuals, and i for one want to spend eternity in the New Jerusalem, not burning forever in the hellfire...questioning my being straight is not an option...i've never had any curiosity of women and never will...God didn't create 2 men and He didn't create 2 women...He made one of each to be able to populate the earth...so if being gay is so correct, why didn't God just stop with man and forget giving him a mate???

Answer 8

What you say is true, people do often question their own sexuality at times in their life. No one can tell you if you are straight, bi, or gay...that is something inside of you. I, personally, think that you shouldn't worry about it too much, if you like someone (regardless if they are boy or girl) just make sure they are a good match for you emotionally...worry less on the sex of the person...more on the personality.

Answer 9

Take your time. This is a decision that will affect you the rest of your life. And when you make your decision don't let anyone else persuade you. All that matters is that your comfortable with what you decide. Don't let what other people think get you down. It doesn't matter what sex you prefer because all that really matters is that inside you stay the same kind person you've always been!

Answer 10

I think our sexuality can change just about as often as our favorite color. Some people stick it out with one color for life, me personally I have liked black, red, right now I'm very partial to blue.

It really depends on where you feel you can get the kind of emotional relationship you are looking for from right now. And those needs may change over time. The sex typically has very little to do with it.

Answer 11

Most likely just curiosity. 90% of people who deny ever being curious are liars. We are all different and we should all be happy for ourselves and of eachother. I went through a period of being curious. Sure I didnt tell anybody and it didnt go anywere as It was just imagination, I have turned out normal with a pregnant girl friend.

Even if it is not curiosity, so what if you are homosexual. It is nothing to be annoyed at.

remember- 1 in 10 are gay, you are not alone.