My husband and I split and were dating seperate people. Iwas in a relationship for 1 year he knew a girl for 2 weeks and got her pregnant. We have 1 child. Well he recently contacted me telling me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and she found out and now he wont talk to me to answer my emails. He is in Iraq and is comming home in January and shes due anyday. He filed for divorce bec/ she made him or thats waht he told me. I Love him and want to be back with him. What should I do?
2007-11-06 09:09:23 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you want him back after he got another woman pregnant? You need to respect you and your child.
2007-11-06 09:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by why ask 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately all the love in the world you have for this man doesn't change the fact that another woman is carrying his child. Even if you took him back, you'd have to deal with her and this other baby and eventually I think all that stress and drama would take a toll on you emotionally. And it would breakdown your relationship again. Obviously it was lacking if there was a separation in the first place. And lastly and probably most importantly, what about your child? Is it fair to that child? How do you explain this other baby? Honey, this is your half sister/brother from your dad's affair? It's not good. Take some time for yourself and your child and find a decent, good man.
2007-11-06 09:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone suggested not signing the divorce papers and instead requesting marital counseling. That's a good idea. If it turns out that he really is just a pure scumbucket then be as difficult as you possibly can. Make his life hell. Hit him up for an increase in child support every chance you get, don't let him come to your home to see your son, be a hellbeast.
It's all or nothing, honey.
2007-11-06 09:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by A.R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think with your head and not your heart. Read over what you wrote. Your husband is telling you how much he loves you and of how much he wants to be with you, yet when she found out about this, he does not talk or email you. Now, what does this tell you? This is not a way to re-start an already broken down marriage. Your husband has not fully committed to you beyond anything or anyone else. And for you to believe he actually bothered to divorce you just because he claims she made him is ridiculous! He sounds to be lying to the both of you.
2007-11-06 09:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one makes anybody do anything; just another excuse. He wanted the divorce at the time; now the grass isn't greener and he realizes what he lost by throwing your love aside.
Before you can consider letting him into your life again, he needs to be completely honest with you and you must also realize that the baby will be a part of your life.
Also, you say she won't let him contact you anymore; nope - he choses not to contact you anymore; more lies on his part. He better stop with the excuses, realize he is now responsible as a father to their child and grow up. By no means allow him back in your life under these circumstances; he'll just break your heart again.
2007-11-06 09:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
how did she "make him" file for divorce, did she put a gun to his head? I assume she also "made him" have sex without protection, and "made him" get her pregnant.
Your husband has some responsibility issues, and I am not talking about child support, I don't know what his stance is on this baby. I am talking about him recognizing he is an a**hole and screwed up and bad.
Your relationship didn't work before this, how are you planning on making it work now that there are more obstacles on the way? And this is a big obstacle indeed, a girl that tells him what to do and "makes" him file for divorce and stop talking to you. Is he a puppet or what?
2007-11-06 09:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If he's not answering his emails, he's already let you know what his choice is....he's known her very little time and she has that kind of power over him? He's where he wants to be but probably wants you on the side for a booty call. Unless he completely leaves the other girl and THEN tries to get you back, leave him alone...don't talk to him while he's still with the other girl. It's hard, be tough.
2007-11-06 09:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by D C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE!!!! She did not make him do any thing that he did not already want to. He choose to file for a divorce because he do not want to be married to you. NOT because she made him and if you believe that then maybe you should be with someone like that so the next time he leave you, you can blame the other new women.
2007-11-06 09:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Art 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a married woman, i can only say that no one can truly answer this question unless they have been in the situation. i have not been in that situation but what i can say is that it is ultimately your decision. if you want to be with your husband (and it seems that you do) and feel that you can honestly be comfortable with the outside child then fight for what you want. NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS. nevertheless, if he wants a divorce then you cant make him stay with you. i would honestly say pray about it and do what your heart tells you.
2007-11-06 09:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Cokoa Chanel 80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so stupid. I swear is there only like ONE guy in the whole world or what? He obviously is just going along with whatever is most convenient. Stop blaming the other woman, it's not her fault, and you could look at it this way, he is her problem now. I can assure you that once you get out of this dumb mess you will realize that there are better men to be had.
2007-11-06 09:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by Gena 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless you want to raise & support there child and have her around all the time think twice> As she will be part of your life forever>>Both of them>>She told him divorce you>Give her her wish as he has issues you have not seen yet>
2007-11-06 09:52:48 · answer #11 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋