I have been with my guy for 2 years and now I am 5 months pregnant and he used to be really sweet to me, but now all he wants to do is just chill and have fun and yeah he works but, he makes me stress because he says things are so hard and there is no money for us anymore since we are saving for our aopartment and he just wants to give up and he makes me want to give up!! I try to support him as much as I can but he doesn't listen to me, i have noticed when others tell him he is more liekly to listen, why is he like that? I just don't want to be with him any more...
2007-11-06 08:55:45 · 3 answers · asked by Lilmamasita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am flabberghasted! You're trying to tell us that he NEVER showed ANY of these traits before you got pregnant? I feel sorry for you but I feel sorrier for the child. It's hard to believe you didn't notice anything before. Maybe you were so smitten, you didn't care. I don't think you asked a question here but my advice is to stop whimpering and get your life together. If you don't think he will change, either leave him or stay and accept it.
2007-11-06 09:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Wet Doggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he (just like you are) is probably stressed about the baby and all the responsibility that comes along with being a parent. I'm not sure what you're complaining about, it seems as though he's working to support you and your expected child.
I'll tell you this much - my husband will ignore my advice but if one of his friends tells him the exact same thing he thinks its a great idea. it's not just your guy, this is something everyone does cause they see outside advice as better than coming from someone they're so close to so I wouldn't worry about it.
if you really don't want to be with him anymore then you're better off ending the relationship now before the baby is born because you don't want to drag your child through that kind of mess. think about it long and hard, you obviously loved this guy enough to stay with him for a couple years. maybe its the hormones talking. I know its hard to be with someone for so long to be questioning whether its best to stay together or not.
but your comments don't give me reason to say to leave him. give him a chance. you both need to have a discussion about your future together. if he also would like to end the relationship then at least you could do it amicably and have him involved with your baby as much as possible.
2007-11-06 18:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have a understanding mother whom will help you with this new baby, then i would say do not marry this guy even though you have known him for two years,because the relationship probably wont last. and no one can stay together because of the baby, because it wont work. welfare can help you till you get on your feet too!! he probably listens to other people because he isn't close to them as he is with you!!!!!!! good luck
2007-11-06 17:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by hppy2b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋