How do transgendered people feel?

Question

i'm writing through theur perspective for a poem

Answer 1

As a transsexual...

Before Hormone therapy and transition... I was scared, unhappy, depressed, lonely and a slew of other negative emotions.

On hormones but not transitioned: Scared, excited, sad, happy, anxious, depressed and a slew of every emotion that can be felt.

10 years later... fully transitioned, surgery... marriage. I still feel scared, confused, anxious, happy, sad. excited and a slew of other emotions depending upon what is happening.


SO.. in other words.. We feel what everyone else feels.. just at different times and for different reasons.

Answer 2

Well, I'm transsexual, but I hope I can be of some help.

It's a strange feeling to not belong in the "right" gender box. A lot of people think that there are only two choices, masculine and feminine, but that's not the case. TG takes in people who have no gender, both genders, are third/fourth/fifth gendered, are genderqueer, or genderfluid. So people often feel like they have to force themselves into a box that isn't them, and it can make them really uncomfortable.

For me, I feel confused sometimes, because while I know that I do not identify as a woman, I can't really explain why. It just is... like, can you explain what red is? No, you just say "This is red. It just is." So while I love women and have no problem with them whatsoever, I do know that I am not a woman and that I find it painful to force myself into that role.

There is trepidation, too, because it's still pretty taboo to be trans-anything. There's fear of someone finding out before you want them to, or fear that people will tease you or look at you funny, or worse. I know I find it awkward to go into bathrooms... while I have to use the women's room, I always get weird looks like "Wait, am I in the wrong room? A man just came in!" or "You shouldn't be in here."

There's a sense of hope, too. I know that even though I was born female and I really am male, I someday will be a man in physical form too. I don't like discrimination at all, but I am proud that I have a chance to stand up and speak out for gender equality. I look forward to, eventually, being a husband and a father.

Answer 3

I don't think you can really generalize how a group of people "feels". That's like asking how boys feel, or how lesbians feel, or how married people feel, or how disabled people feel. Feel about *what*?

If you're looking for transgender perspectives on specific topics or issues then you'd probably be best off to talk to a few real individuals. Generalizations are rarely accurate and they are rarely humanizing in a way that individual perspectives are.

Answer 4

I am very gender confused so I will try to answer what my perspective is:

How I see myself seems right -- until society chips in. Simple things such as choosing what color MP3 player I want make me more masculine or more feminine. If I cut my hair short, from a distance, people yell, "Excuse me, Sir? Oh -- You're a Girl." If I grow it long, I am suddenly ultra feminine, despite what I wear. Gay men will hit on me, confusing themselves -- straight girls will be drawn to me, also confusing themselves.

Why can't people like me for what is inside? I have a whole world of knowledge that I am willing to share, from the time my father insisted he take me hunting, until the time my mother decided I needed to perm my hair.

I am me. I am not a girl, I am not a boy -- not by society. I am simply me.

Answer 5

Writers do their best work by writing about what they know. That's the excuse the Jeffrey Archer used just before he go put in prison anyway.

There are plenty of trans poets who know what they are experiencing.

As to emotions alone: 1st your hormones pull you one way, which you do not like, then they pull you the other, which sends you wild with excitement as things start to change. You shed buckets of tears, get very moody & angry. PMT lasts all b***y month! You never know where you are at times.

Answer 6

I can't speak for all transfolk, but I'm a FTM transman. Here are my feelings:

I feel rejected by my family, by society, by people I would have been friends with if I weren't trans.

I feel frustration with "the system", because I look weird to them, but they won't let me do the things I need to do to make myself look more like a normal guy.

I feel angry when people treat me like a woman even though I've told them how much it hurts me.

I feel elation and triumph when someone who knew me before my transition meets me again and calls me "Michael" or "he/him".

I feel I have won a minor victory with each step of my legal transition. (Name change, letter from therapist, sex changed on driver's license, etc.)

I feel scared when I hear people talk about transsexuals as bad people.

I feel worried that someone might find out what I am and not like it. Maybe someone I care about won't be my friend anymore.

I feel manly, brave, strong, and important when the woman I love says I look good.

I feel defeated, self-conscious, terrible every time some stranger calls me "ma'am".

I feel like I'm one of the guys. I don't really understand women, but I am attracted to them nonetheless.

I feel like a person. My moods change just as yours do. I can be hurt or made to feel happier just as easily as any other human.

Answer 7

anxious frightened worried hopeless messed-up defensive defenceless vulnerable lost cheated falling fading confused scared self-loathing low torn empty suicidal despairing alone self-conscious angry dizzy everythingithoughtiknewiswrong don'tknowwhichwaytoturn...pick one, those are just a few and not everyone feels the same way, it's different for everyone.

it can also be a discovery, new and exciting, optimistic, emancipating, and there is always hope to look forwards to if nothing else. when that fails, you have to be careful

Answer 8

This tranny feels lucky to live in a time and place where i can actually take the steps to be the me that i am inside.

Answer 9

Maybe like they have to prove something to everyone that they are differemt. I dont kno how someone goes about turning out like that, but eh its life

Answer 10

I would guess the same as us straight people, until they have to use a public restroom.