I am mother to a 5 year old daughter and I am pregnant with twins (due 3/08). My ex-husband just came back from Kosovo after 1 1/2 years and expects for me to let my daughter live with him for a year. Our custody agreement gives him every other weekend and 2 weeks out of the summer as far as visitation. I have never had a problem with his picking her up more often but, I have raised my daughter single handed since she was 3 months old. He just expects me to let her stay with him because I have 2 kids on the way. I told him, I am engaged and have a stable home with my fiancee. I explained that I dont need a "break" from my daughter just because I have 2 on the way. I pride myself on being a good mom. How can I get him to understand that he can see her whenever he wants but my letting her live with him for an entire year would not be in her best interest. He admitted that he is suffering from severe depression right now. I have no problem with him keeping her overnight but a year???!!!!
2007-11-06 08:28:33 · 9 answers · asked by vivian M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My daughter has an excellent relationship with her father and has talked to him via phone alot since he has been gone. I think he is trying to get a break from having to pay child support.
2007-11-06 08:51:18 · update #1
Just because he was able to just take a "break" from his daughter for 1 1/2 years and not see her for a normal parent they don't want to be away from their kids...you need to talk to your lawyer and make sure this never happens and hopefully he doesn't kidnap her or something horrible when he does have her if he is so depressed right now...a little scary actually, please contact your lawyer ASAP
2007-11-06 08:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him in no uncertain terms that no is the answer and that it would be disruptive to her and not even good for him while he's dealing with his depression. If you think child support is the issue and you can live without the money, make an agreement that he only has to pay half the amount or something like that until he gets back on his feet. Make sure your lawyers draw up paperwork to document the change in agreement and set a limit on how long it'll be in effect (like a year or 6 months or something).
2007-11-06 12:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it would be a good idea for you to have your daughter spend a YEAR with her father, especially if he is already depressed. Don't you have orders to follow that the courts have approved? Why would you even consider changing court orders under these circumstances? I just does not seem the right thing to do for the child as she will just be more confused and may even think you do not want her any more because of the new babies coming. Be careful about doing anything like this to your daughter. How very sad this is.
2007-11-06 08:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
feels like he's making an attempt to discover something against you so he would not could pay infant help. tell him which you're arranged to circulate to the government if the harassment would not supply up. If this gets you nowhere, you have 2 possibilities. you will possibly be able to make the call your self. in the journey that your ex has a topic, you have documentation which you tried to realize a joint decision and ought to not. in the journey that your ex desires to take you to courtroom for failing to artwork collectively, he would not have quite some an excuse, quite if the call necessary to be made immediately. Your different option is to get entangled with the legal device. you may circulate to a mediator who might additionally help artwork during the subject, or you may call your legal professional. Calling your legal professional would not inevitably recommend you're heading back to courtroom. Your legal professional can call his legal professional. regularly it is adequate rigidity to go issues forward to a determination. If that would not artwork, you will could circulate to courtroom, the place greater tries at contract will ensue, ensuing in a courtroom decision in case you may not agree. no person desires to circulate back to courtroom, yet regularly this is in basic terms easier than going back and forth on something you will by no potential agree approximately.
2016-10-01 23:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple. Say no way and move on. If he continues to be persistent then you must get a lawyer involved. He certainly still has feelings for you.
2007-11-06 08:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by cdaniels3106 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him have her more often but stick to your guns. You explained it well here. I don't think he is unreasonable in asking, considering how long he has been away and separated from family, but if it does not work for you then it doesn't.
2007-11-06 08:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt even know his daughter so why would he take her now? i would just say let him have her for what hes supose to and nothing more, and if doesnt like it oh well
2007-11-06 08:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that he would have to see you in court for that. That would cool his horses.
2007-11-06 08:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go with your feeling, don't do it if it doesn't feel right.
2007-11-06 08:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋