We've been married almost 10 years and I want to spice up our life.?

Question

My husband and I have been married almost 10 years. Everything is great but I'm ready to spice up our love life. I know he would go for it also but I have a hard time bringing it up. Sex is still great and we occasionally try new positions but I want to have an experience that I will never forget and want to give him the same thing. I'm wondering if anyone has some advice for me. We don't do "toys" so no suggestions on those please.

Answer 1

You could always go to a resort like hedonism and check it out. You could see what it is like without having to cross any lines that might make you feel uncomfortable. Also my wife and I like to see if we can sneak off at semi public places and fool around i.e. dept store dressing rooms or even in the car in a parking garage. Whatever you do just be sure both of you are comfortable with it and make it fun.

Answer 2

Maybe try some (light) S&M or bondage? Ask him to tie you up with silk scarves and blindfold you, or do it to him! Maybe get a sexy costume or outfit that he's never seen before, or fantasized about, and be dressed in that waiting for him when he comes home. You could always meet him at the door when he comes home from work and jump him - do him against the doorjamb.

Another idea is to explore all of your senses - start off with hot oil massages for the both of you, and experiment with all sort of different sensations with each other - hot, cold, silk, fur, leather, etc. - just play with each other's nerve endings - it'll get you both hot and bothered.

Another idea is a tantric sex retreat. What most people don't know is that the Kama Sutra is not just about positions - you are supposed to first enter a tantric state with your partner, which can produce absolute euphoria - but the process takes more time than most people are willing to devote - go away to a cabin retreat for the weekend, and have the BEST SEX OF YOUR LIFE. Buy The Perfumed Garden or the Kama Sutra - tantric sex rocks.

Answer 3

All right you don't "do" toys, but how about some sensation play? You can use ice, warming lotions, hot lotions, feathers with or without powder which you can get edible and flavoured! You don't have to have "toys" in order to play just imagination!

Oh yeah, this works great if the "recieving partner" is tied down and blindfolded, that way it is all about feeling the sensations.

Answer 4

well you got to open up and talk to him. I dont know any husband who would not want a wife willing to get a little spicy :-) Does he go shopping with you when you buy clothes?? How about finding a place where you could well say INVITE him in to see if he like what your wearing. If you can try taking in something sexy like a short skirt and when he comes in when you ask him make sure your not wearing any panties.Then you can take down his pants give him a BJ and then make sure you whisper to him your not wearing panties and have him sit down so you can make love to him right there.

Answer 5

Purchase the book 101 Romantic Nights. Nothing to crazy but lots of NEW ideas of adding that spice back to your love life. It worked for my husband and I :)

Answer 6

I assume you have some ideas in mind but are just shy about voicing them? If so try finding a story online about it and read it with your hubby. If he is into the story you have not fear of asking to try it since he is excited by it. If he doesn't like, try another story. :)
Enjoy.
storiesonline.net is a good site to search

Answer 7

Sorry, but toys are a good way to go...
ok let's see, roleplay, have him pick you up as a hooker in a bar. Set up elaborate scenes that take you out of the house.

Answer 8

Buy a wig, go to a bar, and ask him to come "pick" you up and take you back to a hotel. Preferably one with a jacuzzi.

Answer 9

Dress up, fishnet stockings, high heels, sexy nightie, light perfume