How Do I rectify this friendship?

Question

This girl who I am close to was talking about this other girl whom I am not as close to behind her back, and they are best friends. I told the one girl what the other one was saying, and now they're not friends. I don't know how to handle this situation.

Answer 1

Time.

And, FYI, don't talk in the future. If they tell you, they are probably assuming that you know not to tell others, especially the girl in question. It may seem harmless to you, and you may think that you would want to know if it was you, so you need to tell her, but believe me, we all say things about other people and none of us want it to get back to them. If it really was a huge problem that the first girl had with the second, she would have told her herself.

Answer 2

I think you were up to mischief and deep down knew you would cause a huge problem between the two of them.
Maybe you were jealous of their good friendship and now thank you very much you have wrecked it. It is a shame as girls like to gossip and do talk about each other and their friends and know all the faults to discuss and complain about but they do not expect to be "sprung". I hope they can be friends again and then maybe you might find yourself on the outer. The only way you can possibly help now is have a quick word with the girl you told and you both agree to tell the one you are close to that it was all lies - that you were a tiny bit jealous of their good friendship so you just lied about what the other one said (but you have to talk to this other one first).

Answer 3

Well, it probably would have been best to *not* have said anything at all..but that's not what you were asking. *grin*

The best way to rectify the situation is to not do anything at all. (because, right? you've already involved yourself)

This is a matter for the those two women to deal with. I know it might be difficult, because you want to help, but this is a situation that might get you in more than you'd care to be.

Here's why: the woman who was talking behind the other's back...if they're already "best friends", their relationship might be one of those where they're always in competition with each other (those get ugly) and frankly, the best thing to do is just be a friend to both of them (only if you want to be, though), but avoid casting aspersions and avoid getting caught in any catfighting crossfire.

Answer 4

I would have talked to the friend about talking behind the other girl's back, but I would not have gone and told the other girl what was said.

I do not think you can fix this, just learn from this and don't do it again if a situation like that arises.

Gossip almost always hurts people and NEVER helps them.

Answer 5

wow... first things first....you should't have got in the middle of it. I think you knew that there was gonna be conflict when you told the other girl. But...now do not blame yourself. Im suspecting one of the girls is not on good terms with you either so what you can do is talk to the one that was doing the talkin and have her apologize. Thats about all you can do now....only time will tell. But getting involved was a bad idea....girls usually hold this kind of grudge longer than guys do

Answer 6

Oops. Gossip does cause rifts and great divides, doesn't it?
If you care more about the girl who was doing the talking, I would go to her and simply tell her you're sorry, and that you should have simply kept your mouth closed and not repeated what she said about another. Did it occur to you, that she was telling you this in private and its wasn't meant to be repeated?

This is very much how friendships can be lost forever, unless you, at the very least, care enough to right it. Do you? Only you know the answer to this question...

Grace

Answer 7

women have this "hate on hate" thing - no matter how much we say we're not fake - we are - FREAKIN PLASTIC - was, is, and always will be. Next time (FYI), NEVER get involved in girl problems...its' sad but it's normal for women to talk **** about each other behind their backs - guys are more upfront - if they hate you they hate you and they'll know it - women are alot more catty and "sneaky" which makes it ten times worse...next time, talk to both your girl friends individually and say, 'i'm sorry i ruined everything, i'm a stupid boy who doesn't know what actually was going, i started drama" - they'll leave you alone after that :)

Answer 8

You should have stayed out of it in the first place. Especially since you were not that close to the other girl.....

It will work itself out if they want it to. Best you can do is apologize for saying something and ask not to be put in the middle anymore.

Answer 9

,learn to keep secrets is one way ,the other is to be straightforward and tactless but as you've found out can come with problems.
either way in future try and think about the repercussions of what you do before you speak
the only thing you can do now is say sorry to both of them and hope that they are still willing to both be your friend. this will take time to take away the hurt and you will just have to accept that

Answer 10

YOU don't haven't you learned your lesson yet!!! Stay out of other peoples business. Be a real friend and tell your "friend" the real meaning of friendship if you know it. Maybe if you stay out of it they'll work it out and hopefully they'll dump you.