OK so me & my partner and I have been together for 4 months now. I love them to death and dont want to be with anyone else. I found out that they had slpet with like 20 people before me 12 guys and the rest women . She claims to be gay but now Im a bit confused since she slept with 12 men. Im gay and I experimented with 4 guys. Should I stay with her. Im confused
2007-11-06 06:39:49 · 7 answers · asked by LMFAO 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
all of that is in the past... they aren't who they were... I would say don't worry about it... if it bothers you that much then it would be time for you to make a decision if you can handle being with her... but I don't think it should matter.
Just love her for who she is now
2007-11-06 07:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by u_fas_n8me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most of us have had several partners, some more than others. But it wouldn't be fair to be upset if your partner had a lot. It sounds like she could be bi-sexual but really leaning towards women is what her sexual preference is, which is fine . If you're still experimenting, then you're trying out things that she's already done =). If you both have experiemented, then that's all it is. If you guys get along well and care about one another, then I would stay with her =)
2007-11-06 12:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember there is a reason the past did not make it to the future. Being with many men may mean she was confused. If she loves you and is faithful, then why worrier. She with you and not a man. Just tell her to be open, my best friend is with a girl which first lesbian experience is with her. She just told her if you feel you need the intimacy of a man let me know and I Will try my best to make if feel as so.
2007-11-06 11:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by dazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a decision you need to make for yourself. How do you feel about your lover having been with so many people before you? Is this going to cause a problem later? If you break up with her are you going to be "Chasing Amy"? (If you don't get eh refrence go pick up the Movie it's a Kevin Smith movie with Jay and silent Bob in it (For like a second) about gay relationships.
2007-11-06 06:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confused.
2007-11-06 06:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know from personal experience that people can change immensely from one relationship to another. i really wouldn't worry too much over it because hey you said yourself that you experimented with four guys, but if it is really bothering you that much then you need to seriously consider talking to her about it. don't make a judgmental decision make one that's backed with reason. get all the information and explanation you can before making any drastic moves that you may regret later if you'd known more.
2007-11-06 11:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the the past in anyone's life including your own to determine your future. the past does not exist----you can't change it. what does exist is now and the future. ----and of course how you feel in your heart.
2007-11-06 06:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by angelgirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋