First of all I dont wanna come off as being a mean or jealous person but. My high school boyfriend who is now my husband cheated on me in high school and got some tramp pregnant. Well he is very much in the childs life but says he wants nothing to do with her. Me being young and naive believed this and married him. We now have a child. I recently talked to his "babymama" and she said that they had sex last december. The same month I had our son. Well he says he hates the "*****" and doesnt want to be with her but anytime we argue or i put him out he goes to her. I know hes wrong and I should leave him but I cant stand the thought of him being with her. HELP PLEASE!!!
2007-11-06 06:06:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ew...yuck. Okay, sweetie, let me tell you that males who cheat on their wives, girlfriends, whatever, despite everything, including having children with these females, seldom change their ways.
Now, you may not want him to be with her, but it looks like marriage and a child didn't stop him from being with her, so, while it may be of little comfort now, he WILL, unless he has a total lobotomy, cheat on her too.
The best revenge? Finding someone who will treat you the way you deserve and leave this loser behind where he belongs. Yes, I realize he's the father of your child too, but that relationship with his child/children is on him, not you.
You don't have to be sloppy seconds.
2007-11-06 06:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright now, lets take another look at the big picture. Which on of you are the OTHER woman? You need to wake up and smell the coffee. You are the other woman. You are the one that is left so your man can go get some from his one he has his first child with. You need to leave him. Sounds like your just hanging out for competition reasons and not true love. he does not love you or the other woman. You can find the man of your dreams that will be true to you and your baby. Forget him! He is making a fool of you and loving every minute of it. he tells her these same things too. You may get something you can't wash off too. Leave him alone. If he goes to her then more power to him. You concentrate on being a good mother and save your child from this sort of environment.
2007-11-06 14:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He 's playing both of you and you guys ae letting him so why the hell not. I know extactly how you feel though, you don't want to let her win so you're staying there and putting up with his crap more just for that reason. Either way you look at it, she' s going to feel like the winner anyway because he cheated on you with her so she's always going to feel like she won over your man. You should be careful about sleeping with him if he's still sleepin around with her. You never know who she's been with and you don't want him bringing home something to you, that's an important part. Let her have him, let her deal with his drama so you can move on with your life. He isn't going to treat her any better and you deserve better. Good Luck..
2007-11-06 14:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingme_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so childish for you to hold on to a man just because you don't want him with a certain woman. If you want him out of your life then just exclude him from your life. Why play games and string along a bad relationship when you know it's not working out? That's makes absolutely no sense and I hate it when women act that way. It's pointless. He is a grown man so let him do what he wants to do. You noted above that you didn't want him so what is your problem? Get over it, get a life of your own, and just let that sh!t go!
2007-11-06 14:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by dencur02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to keep being mistreated just for the sake a keeping your husband from being with another woman. You should have more love and respect for yourself than that. There are many other things you can use your time and energy for (your child and your own happiness). You don't need HELP, you need to STOP BEING PETTY AND GROW UP.
2007-11-06 14:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Test 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's silly, no offense. That means you are not staying with him out of love but only in the interest of winning some absurd competition. If he is still going to her when ya'll fight, he is playing both of you. Don't be a fool.
The question really is this: do you really want to leave him but don't because of her? Or are you just using that as an excuse because you don't want to admit you really DON'T want to leave him? In other words, are you just saying you want to leave him because you think that's how you should feel, even though it really isn't? You need to answer these questions for yourself and there will be your answer.
2007-11-06 14:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with him (fair enough really if he cheated on you! Especially with her...) get yourself a divorce.
Obviously you don't want him with her (natural jealousy) but really, this is neither here nor there, people do what they want anyway - you wont be able to stop this (just like he made a choice to be with her last december).
Just do what is best for you and leave him. Then move on with your life - don't dwell on what he is doing or with who - all that is important is what you are doing and with whom!
You need to let go, unfortunately since you have a baby together you will need to see him again, but if you let what he does control what you do - he "wins" - and really, he's not worth it! Good luck!
2007-11-06 14:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... what drama.
At least you're honest in telling us that you don't want him, but you don't want her with him...
Sounds like this "you putting him out" deal is a re-occuring event. This isn't healthy for you or your child, and is just a circle that you seem trapped in. Honestly, if you don't want him, part from him, get him signed up thru the courts for child support and move on. Even if you do all this, he's going to be in your life because of your kid(s). Sounds like he needs to grow up and decide WHO he wants to be with, and help take care of all these babies he's going around making. I wish you all the luck!!!
2007-11-06 14:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you just leave him there is a good chance that he will eventually be cheating on her. She is going to end up hating him as well so do not feel bad about her getting anything good out of this.Sooner or later she is going to want for you to take him back.
2007-11-06 14:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bug 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You keep losing this "man" every time he doesn't get what he wants. I say you can't get what you want from him since he can always play between the fence with the other woman who's just as eager to have him as you were.
Time for you to start over and let him suffer with the other woman.
2007-11-06 14:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋