my soon to be husband wnat his 3 friends and their feinces to move in with us as well as one of his friends who is going through some leagle thing with her soon to be ex and she has 2 kids and i have 4 kids. is that too many people? should i tell him he cant have all of them in our home? you tell me what you think should i be suppoetive or should i put my foot down about so many people in one home (apartment)?
2007-11-06 06:06:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is no limit on roomates i share a house with 22 guys and 3 girls with kids under the age 2
2007-11-06 06:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by TOAST 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you have to go with how your heart and gut feel on this one. I personally think that is WAY too many people. Your home will become very crowded and cluttered with people, and that's not a good way for you and your soon to be husband to start off on a new journey together...
If I were you, I'd put my foot down and tell him exactly how I feel and what I want to have happen in the situation. But that's only if I were you. In your own heart you have to decide what is right for your lifestyle.
2007-11-06 06:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to remember it's your home too so you should have a say!!! If you aren't comfortable with the idea of so many people in your house, you need to tell your hubby.
Although my situation isn't quite the same, I was thinking of renting out my basement to a university student. I asked my common-law partner what he thought of the idea since he lives here with me (I bought the house before we started to date but he does help with the mortgage). Turns out he wasn't up for it (and he gave very valid reasons), which is fine with me.. I figure it's our home and we need to focus on 'us' rather than 'us and them' so we don't have any roomies. I actually prefer it without.
Although technically your husband should support your desire to have fewer roomies without question, people like to have reasons why they can't do something so in that case make sure you have some valid reasons in your pocket. The most important is that since you guys are forming a new family with kids involved, there should be as few distractions as possible to make those bonds tight!
Cheers and good luck!
2007-11-06 06:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by elementoflife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is WAY too many people in an apartment. You, your fiance, and your kids are more than enough. Where does he expect people to sleep, keep their stuff...and what about privacy? Besides, there's laws regarding tenancy limits.
2007-11-06 06:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that is too many people in one dwelling. My wife and I have a 5 bedroom house and that would be too many for me even in there.
2007-11-06 06:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Pat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 people in a house is the wrong number. always a third wheel somehow, someones always left out.
2007-11-06 06:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by Blue bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are going to be pushed to your limit and snap. that is way to many people. Friendship will probably get ruined to!!! Good luck
2007-11-06 06:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont want all those people in the house then tell him that that is to many
2007-11-06 06:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldn't have more people then you have bedrooms. one couple per room and no more than 2 kids per room.
2007-11-06 06:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think u have more then enough there as it is trust ur gut and do what it says good luck
2007-11-06 06:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋