i need everyone's honest opinion about pregnancy???

Question

I am 19 years old. i had a false pregnancy 2 months ago... now i'm on birth control. my boyfriend wants to wait until i get out of college. do u think this is a good idea. how long do u think i should wait to get pregnant.. what age??? he said when we are stable enough but i kinda want one now.. and i do want your honest opinion mean or not!!! PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Truthfully you are never financially stable unless you have tons of money. I think you should finish school or atleast if you get pregnant that the baby comes after you finish. It will be alot easier to be out of school and to spend more time and attention towards your baby. Age..I say as long as you are an adult it doesn't matter. I always said that I wouldn't have my first kid until after the age of 21 so I could get my drinking and partying days done. Well I got pregnant right before my 22nd birthday so I did good. I became a single mom and it was hard at times but would not change it for anything but I realized doing it on my own that babies are not as hard as you think they are. Ya the crying every so many hours at the beg. can get tiring but really they eat, sleep and dirty diapers and all you have to do is love them and play with them. If you are really wanting a child then talk to your boyfriend and try to compromise on a time to try.

Answer 2

Depends on what you want for your life. Going to school with a newborn in the home is VERY difficult. When you plan on how you are going to work it out, do NOT plan for your boyfriend to help, as he already voiced his opinion. Part of your reason for wanting one now is because you prepared yourself with the false pregnancy. I would recommend waiting, unless you are prepared to put your schooling on the back burner for a while.

If you wait until you can afford it, you will never have one. Try waiting until after he has made a commitment to you (marriage, soul bond, commitment ceremony.) whatever your religion/ beliefs are.... Also, wait until you are at least 1 year into your CAREER. There are a lot of people that get into a field and then hate it. Wait until you know that you would be content working in that field for an income if needed. That would be the stability that you should have before having a baby.

Answer 3

I am 19 and 22 weeks pregnant. Although I love my little girl more than anything already we should have waited! First of all pregnancy isn't glamourous despite how amazing people make it sound. Yes it is incredible to feel your baby kick and hear that heart beat, but when you can't go out and do things with your age group anymore, when you feel as though you always want to vomit and your bladder become a trampoline for your precious little one in the middle of the night you start to go insane.

I wouldn't trade her now for anything, but I know that it would have been so much better if we would have waited, right now we can't afford to get her everything we want to be able to, and I wish when she comes I could bring her home to a house not an apartment building....waiting would be in the best intrest of a lot of people. But then again, miracles happen when you aren't expecting them....I just got a suprise!

Answer 4

well i cant say much because i had my first child at 19 and we were trying....BUT i also was married. So that has something to do with it. The fact that you guys arent married should be enough reason to wait. Because if you guys arent ready to commit to each other through marriage you guys arent ready to commit to a baby. I think you should wait until you get out of college especially since you are already there, then after college do the whole marriage and have a kid. Trust me you will be glad that you did. I think if i was already in college when i met my husband i would have definitely have waited until i was done so i didnt waste money or time before i got married and had kids. But i met him in hghschool and was determined to get married. I was one of those that think if you have a good thing why wait>? most people go there whole lives trying to find that one person and i found him now! Im gld that i didnt wait though because we have been married going on 6 years now. And people ask us all the time if we are newlyweds just because of how we act. But honestly finish college and marry and have a bunch of kids. You can always have that degree to fall on!

Answer 5

I was 20 when I got pregnant with my first. But, I got married at 19 and my husband had finished college and had a great job. I finished my degree while I was pregnant and am able to stay home with my son now.

I know what it feels like to want a baby, but I think you need to be in a extremely commited relationship (marriage or at least living together) and be financially secure. My hubby was 3 years older than me so it made things easier for us. If we were both in college it would have been a bad idea (at least for us).

I also wanted to share with you that there are still times that I wish I could just go out with friends whenever I wanted and didn't have to worry about an 8pm bedtime. Being a parent is really hard, and I would wait until you are both ready and commited 100% to raising and providing for your child.

Good luck!

Answer 6

During pregnancy most people just don't feel very good. If you could plan to get pregnant do it at a time where your not going to school in the beginning months etc.
Age is just a number. You can have one when you feel ready, that is your choice in life. But its best to remember this is a living being that requires 100% of you, not 90- so its best to wait until things in your life are a little simpler and maybe even a little more prepared. I knew I didnt want to have a baby until I owned my own home. Once I had that, 5 months later I was pregnant! good luck...just don't rush, you probably have 50 good more years on this earth. (on average probably a little moreeven!! ) .

Answer 7

Please wait on having kids. I was 22 when I had my daughter, and I thought I was ready, I had a decent job, and was married. Now I'm 37 and my daughter is almost 15 and I still struggle at times.

It won't hurt you any to wait a few years. If you are in school, seriously wait 2 years until after you graduate, and make sure you still feel the same.

Children are not like toys that you can just stop playing with when you get tired of them. They require time and a lot of patience, both of which you will lack as the child gets older.

Answer 8

Listen to your boyfriend, go out enjoy yourself, it needs to be a two way decision. Also children grow up and a home needs two incomes to have a good life, so go to college get good qualifications so you can fall back on a good career. There is plenty of time for a family your only 19 and this really is too young. There is no set age to have a child but only when you have a stable home.

Answer 9

I'm not trying to be like the pot calling the kettle black, but you should wait. I am currently 23 weeks pregnant at the age of 21, and not finished with school. But, my situation is a tad different because I am married, own my own house, and we both have good jobs. The reason I say my situation is a tad different is because my husband is in the Army, and fixing to deploy very soon...which is why we decided to conceive now instead of later. I believe that in your situation that you described that you should wait.

Answer 10

First off, I have no idea what a false pregnancy is. Secondly, yes I urge you to wait until you are finished with college. You will only regret it if you don't. You still have like 15 years to have a baby. Go out and do all the fun and exciting things you can while you are young.