Is there a childhood punishment you will always remember as a traumatic experience?

Question

And believe that you will never do the same to your own children..

I want to embrace the child you once were.
That child beaten, hurt so badly.
It is never late to say we love the child you once were. We kiss , embrace and soothe the child they once punished so .

Announcement

I strongly support our Dellarovere's suggestion. Let us all be a big embrace, let us consist a group where we can offer love and help to people who have been hurt through such brutal actions by their parents. Those of you who are interested in participating in our group, please contact Dellarovere at his account mail. Angelo (Dellarovere) friends and me, strongly believe that we can help each other so that those sad childhood memories will somehow be erased and that we can somehow forgive.... We all love you and we are waiting for you to contact us so that we make this group of love. Thank you.

This question will not get a Best Answer.
How could it be?,,,

Not a Best Answer by me I mean.

Answer 1

Alice, I'm feeling a pounch on my stomach because of what I read above. Belts, cigaret filters, pounches and every kind of abuse and violance to children? And where? IN THE SO CALLED CIVILISED WESTERN WORLD?

For heaven's sake, let's make a group with the answers of this question. I WANT TO HELP AND SUPPORT, under my double capacity...

Alice, please announce an invitation to the people who have been so bruttaly abused....

AND LET'S BE WITH THEM ....

Answer 2

When my wife was a school teacher, she observed evidence of this kind of thing, but she was very limited in what she could do, other than report it, which she always did. Like with all domestic violence, the authorities have to be careful about intruding. They need TOO much evidence to be effective. At least it's that way int he US.

As a parent, I have used corporal punishment (never capital punishment - that means killing, just for the record) on each of my children until they reached the verbal capacity to understand some reason. The problem is when it's done to the extreme, which is usually out of anger.

My wife and I both had child psychology classes in college, so we understood the use of various means of punishment to find what works, and what works has been different for each child. Most parents aren't so ready for the challenge of discipline as the stories show.

My sympathy and my heart is with people like those who have been abused. There's really no excuse for it. My parents never punished me so much that I remember it in a traumatic way, and I want my children to be able to say the same. I wish I knew how to stop this in other households as well. There seems to be a cycle that is hard to identify, confront and stop.

Answer 3

I had nothing as harsh as some of the above. My parents where moderately strict and I was smacked a few times, but looking back I could say I deserved it . I wasn't always the model child. My headmaster dished out more punishment to me, I found it quite humiliating to be caned in front of the entire school for forgetting to do my maths homework, but I was a serial offender. funny thing was after that I was top of my class on maths and science, ( I was already top in Art, mischief and slacking )

I never really liked going to school, the best bit for me was walking home.

I am certainly against any harsh punishment like those mentioned above but in my view the the western world has become too soft. Its evident in the UK that the lack of discipline has turned most of our younger generation into swarms of disrespectful hooded thugs.

Answer 4

I don't have any bad or traumatic experience. I was lucky as for my parents behavior, and I am trying to do at least the same with my children. But I know that the problem exists even in modern societies.
I strongly support Angelo's suggestion.

Answer 5

Yeah, my parents had 8 kids. Their thing was, if one person acts up, you all get a whippin. So, I was like 4 and my brother who was like 17 stole something from Kmart when we were all out. I was the last in line. I ran upstairs to my sisters bedroom. I locked the door in protest and would not come out! My mom tried to talk me out but I wouldnt believe her. (5 hours passed) they said I wouldn't be in trouble if I just came out and ate dinner. So my mom finnaly talked me out, we walk down the first set of steps, turn the corner, and there is my dad with a belt just waiting to tear my butt up. Yeah, pretty messed up and I didn't even steal anything.

Answer 6

Yes I hated to be told 'go to bed and we will talk about this in the morning' as I would not be able to sleep and worry and be unhappy till morning, the night is very long in a child eye.

Answer 7

One time when I was in 5th or 6th grade, my mom came to school to have lunch w/ me in the cafeteria (this was allowed once or twice a year). While we were standing in line, I was making a smacking noise that, apparently, annoyed my mom. She turned around and slapped me in the face. I had never been so mad or humiliated. I'll NEVER do that to my child, not even in private.

Answer 8

No since I was fortunate in my parents....
PS I read the other answers and what I red is pretty horrible! People who behave in this way (forcing others to eat cigarettes or thrashing someone) for other's fault must be prohibiting for raising children.It' s disgrace for the so-called Western Civilization.I agree with Delavorere and the others

Answer 9

Don't have children but I do remember my dad slapping me with a belt and my mom with whatever she could grab at the time. Also a principle whacked me with a paddle that had air holes in it and that hurt like the bloody dickens! ♥

Answer 10

At one time (many years ago), a lot of parents applied capital punishment to their children to some extent. This was mainly due to the traditions. That was what they saw and learned from their own parents. It was also because they were not so well educated, in many cases, they had no education what so ever. It was also very commont to hit children at schools.
However, things began to change after the second half of the 20th Century. With mass media bringing cultures closer to each other, people came to realise that corporal punishment is an inhumane behavior, not just for children, but for adults as well. We have learned and came to the understanding that 'hitting' someone is a disgrace, against human dignity.
Unfortunately we still hear of some parents punishing their children in that old fashioned manner. This is also against law in almost all civilized countries. It is a great crime against defenseless children and against humanity. It should be prevented and wiped off the face of this planet.