Abortion..?

Question

My heart is being torn and seems to be making it's own opinion on this stituation. Does Abortion hurt you emotional? if so, how bad? I have the support of a wonderful boyfriend and his love but will it be enough for the pain?

Answer 1

Abortion is not something to do unless you are 100% sure...even then, you will carry around some guilt. Make sure you think of the big picture and how a baby is going to change the rest of your life. Eventually, you will know exactly what is right for you to do. Most importantly...make sure that NOBODY makes you feel bad about whatever decision you make. Only you are going to have to live with this decision for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

Honestly, statistics show that sometimes it is not enough. But i believe that with perseverence and dedication, you can make it through. Time heals all wounds and you need to get back to a normal routine. Forgive yourself, and don't let it be your focus. You must realize that you chose to do what was best for you and your family. and Kudos to you for having so much love for your baby that you knew the right choice to make. I know the pain and suffering first hand, but i also know that it gets better. I had an abortion in february and though i think about it every day, i know that i am forgiven, and i don't let it consume me. Try seeing a counselor, sometimes that helps. and if you need anything, please feel free to e-mail me. [e-mail]

Answer 3

I have had 4 children, and 1 abortion.
The pain of child birth is greater than any abortion.
If you bring a child into this world you and only you are 100% responsible for it. NOT your parents, NOT your boyfriend, and NOT your friends. If you want to go out, have a job, or go on a vacation, you must find day care.
Are you ready for that?
Is your boyfriend going to help you with raising this child. Yes everything seems good right now because he is supporting you emotionally. Can he support you financially throughout your pregnancy, child birth. Is he willing to do that?
The abortion lasts 10 minutes, and a child lasts, forever.
Are you willing to give the rest of your life for a child?
Are you emotionally able to deal with crying, screaming and endless nights without sleep throughout your pregnancy and for up to 3 years after? Is your boyfriend?
Do you have the money to raise a child?
Some help from your parents?
Before you get pregnant is the time to think about these things,because being pregnant you are an emotional. Hormones play havoc on your mind. Don't worry after you have an abortion all of your emotions will return to normal eventually. And if not you can see someone who can help you. Everybody makes mistakes, and thinks they may want something, yet sometimes we are not prepared. There is nothing to be ashamed or sad about an abortion. A child is NOT something you should have any doubts about.
There are so many children in this world who are born because their parents feel guilty. These children are often abused and neglected because the parents went with their feelings about having a child, instead of thinking about the realness of having a child.
Yes children are a lot of pain and misery, but they can give you happiness to. If you want to be a parent, you need to be stable person and think with your head. You have to be able to put your emotions 100% aside when dealing with children on a daily basis.
Put your emotions aside and ask yourself these questions.
But, please don't use abortion as a method of birth control. It is extremely hard on your body and mind
If you are not ready to bring a child into this world, and you want an abortion, do it. Then use birth control until you are absolutely certain you want a baby.
There is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about when you make the right choice for you, because in doing so, you will be making the world a better place.
Good Luck

Answer 4

Women who were not 100% sure or who felt pressured into having an abortion tend to be the ones who have problems later on.
I'm laying my neck on the line here by saying I have had one and I feel no remorse or regret at all as I felt it was the 100% right choice for me.

Answer 5

You should probably seek the advice of a professional. Do you realize the questions you'll be asking yourself for the rest of your life? Would it have been a boy or a girl? Wonder what he/she'd look like? Would he/she have had my eyes, hair color? Would he/she be a doctor, a lawyer? What would my baby have been?

Every year you'll pass the day you decided to do it and that day will be forever in your mind and heart. You'll pass your baby's due date every year and say to yourself...My baby'd be a year old, two years, 16 years. 18 years...

Don't you think that constitutes emotional pain? I didn't have an abortion, but found out that two people I care deeply for [one had an abortion; the other was the boyfriend of a girl that had an abortion]. They broke down to me one day and told me that these are only part of the questions and thoughts that cross their minds all the time.

Consider adoption. I'm not a counselor or a therapist. psychologist... Your baby would go to a good home, even one of your choosing--as a lot of adoptions are "open" now. The questions you live with when you give your child up are a lot easier to deal with than the ones you [or anyone] could never know if your baby isn't born.

Answer 6

Nobody I have encountered has had any hurt emotions. Statistically speaking, about 20% of people show signs of depression after an abortion and only a small amount of these have any lasting emotional problems. Usually, these are people who were predisposed towards depression to begin with.

The caveat, of course, is that the major factor in determining whether or not you would have any emotional hurt is how YOU feel about it.

Answer 7

Yes Abortion hurts . My girlfriend and i just went through this and for a short period it broke us up . Although we both talk about it and the pain of it still hurts we are now trying to take a positive approach to it . We talked long and hard about the baby and options that were open to us and the one and only decision we could make at the time was to go ahead with the abortion . We found it a great help to make a list of pros and cons and found that at this time in our lives the cons far out weighed the pros . If you're Boyfriend truly loves you then you can both deal with the pain by getting strength from each other .It never really goes away but it does soften with time . I would say though that always bear in mind it hurts you both and it is hard to remember that your partner will need your support as much as you need his .

Answer 8

right has you can see everyone has a opinion on abortions well this is mine, at the end off the day it is your dicision and no one Else's if you are 100% sure this is what you want to do and you have good reasons to then you are probably doing the right thing. its not a easy thing to do and i know it is upsetting for you to do it, what is your mind telling you? and it is a emotional thing to go through some women feel relief, sadness, guilt, a faliure, sad and ashamed but these are all normal things to feel and once your hormones get back to normal after the abortion you should start to feel better. do what you think is right for you and no one else. and if need be use contraceptive so you dont have to experience this trauma again good luck in making the right decision x

Answer 9

Yes it will be very emotional.
The worse is when you actually have a wanted child and think about the one that was not born.
I dont know your situation but I hope that birth control is used from this point on until your ready for a child.
You do have the choice of adoption.

Answer 10

yes, it hurts, however, as long as it is an unwanted baby, no matter what you do hurts.

adoption? you know your baby is out there, but you can't see, hear, nor touch it, that will hurt too!

abortion sometime is the best way to go, if you feel you can't handle the pain(emotion), go see a professional. they will help you go through.

Answer 11

YES, it definitely hurts emotionally. Your boyfriend may not be able to help. If you have had one, my advice is to get some counseling as post abortion stress syndrome is real. You can also go to silentnomore.org and they have some resources.