guys what would u do? How would u react if a girl said this to u?

Question

k first off let me tell u that im black and i like this guy who happens to be white, race isnt an issue for me but i think it should be something that u guys are BOTH ok with. secondly I dont know this guy personally at all i saw him and i liked him immediatly.. im planning on approching him by introducing myself. Im new to the school so i guess it wont be all weird to him.. anyways heres what im going to say.

Hi whats your name?
my name is kesha
im new to the school
k, u are chilling with me at lunch today (im telling him instead of asking him because it doesnt give him the option of saying no, usually works)
have u ever dated a black girl?
do you want to? (date a black girl)
can i be ur first?

im answering according to how i think he would respond, im like 99% certain hes never dated a black girl even though his friends are mostly black, im also pretty sure that he would be willing to date a black girl, but im not so sure if he would want to just jump into a relationship

how would u react if a girl said this to? would u be flatterd , what would u think?
im planning on telling him this on thursday.. but i dont know if its the best way to tell him im interested.. what do u think? what would u say in response?
and what would u say if u were in my position?

this is my first time asking a guy out I always am the one to be asked out so its kinda hard for me.. especially since hes a different race... just because its not what hes use to so i dunno?

Answer 1

That, to ME sounds just a wee bit agressive.
You should surely introduce yourself and invite him to sit a lunch, then take it slow and not be quite so blunt.
You're basically saying you don't know him, so jumping in with both feet MIGHT scare him off. Relax, slow down just a little, let him get comfortable with you before showing him much more than simple affection.

Answer 2

If i were a guy, i have to say i'd be a little weirded out by your being so forward. Just jumping into like that and asking out of the blue (before he doesn't even know you) if he'd like to date you is strange. I'd get to know him first. Who knows, you may find out some things about him that you're not down with. Or maybe you'll like him all the more. Who knows. Taking it slow will allow you to develop a more friendly relationship before jumping into anything serious. Oh, and i'd also wonder why you were putting so much emphasis on your race. That would weird me out. Race shouldn't deal the cards in a relationship.

Answer 3

Since you are meeting him for the first time, you may want to say "we are chilling today at lunch" he may have something planned you do not know about and you may just be hanging with a group not just him.
Stop there, make sure you really like him before you hammer him with the dating thing. He may not be into dating yet or has a girl outside of school.
As you get to know him the answers to your other question will come more easily.

Answer 4

I would suggest this:

Hi, my name's Kesha. I'm new to the school. would you mind showing me around? (unless you already know ur way around, in that case, say this instead):
Hi, my name's kesha. I'm new to the school and was wondering if you could sit with me at lunch and tell me about the people around here? (don't ask him out until ur at lunch, u may find out he's a real jerk)

At lunch:
Hi! i'm glad you showed up.

then use questions about how the different races mix in schools, and if white boys go out with black girls and vice versa.
THEN you can ask him if he has had a black GF before (or already has one). if he says no, ask if you can be his first. if he says yes, ask him if he would consider having another. if he's taken, befriend him. if they break up, take your chance! I really hope I helped,

Answer 5

Try not bringing race into this. Let him decide on his own if he wants to date a black girl. I would in a second because color means nothing to me but maybe it does to him so don't shock him and appear to be slightly racist right off the bat. That is the impression i get out of your questioning.


The only "race" i recognize is the human race.

Answer 6

Yes, I'd be flattered (and intrigued). I think you have a good idea, just remember to be yourself, not what you think he wants U to be - be natural. And during lunch engage in small talk to find out a little about each other. If U want to get to know him, U will have to allow him to get to know U. Take your time, show him & tell him U like him with eye contact. Be truthful and most of all -- have fun! Good luck to U!!!

Answer 7

Why do you even have to bring up your ethnic differences?
2 people of different ethnic backgrounds is accepted by society, and should never even be brought into the picture.

Go for it! Ask him out. If he likes you, it's because he's attracted to you, and/or he likes your personality. Your ethnic background has nothing to do with that, does it? And how do you know if he's ever dated black women before? Maybe he has. Maybe he's never dated anybody seriously before, of any ethnic background. Don't worry about that stuff.

Answer 8

Well, you are only focusing on the race part of the question. If you are basing his decision on your skin color, then you are assuming race is an issue to him. If your skin color has any part of his decision to go out with you then move on.

There are key elements you didnt include in your question. Are you attractive? Do you have things in common? These are the things that will matter, not your skin color. Again, if your race comes into play, move on.

Answer 9

Don't tell him....it's just rude. Ask him to have lunch with you. I am sure if he finds you attractive, he will join you. And he may have never dated a black girl because the opportunity wasn't there. You may be the perfect opportunity.

Answer 10

First, I would look for the hidden camera, because I'd be thinking it was a setup for a "Candid Camera" type show. Then, I'd just be confused that you were asking me. But in the end, it wouldn't bother me, unless I was already dating someone. (Don't want to be asked to cheat on someone. Not implying that you would do that, either.)