my bf and i have lived together going on 10 months now...he has a really bad habit of just letting stuff lay around
if i didn't put his drinking glasses in the sink and wash them they would just sit there til we were out of glasses
i have worked the last 4 nights in a row and there is 5 drinking glasses on my coffee table along w/ 3 plates and 3 forks his boxxers socks and work clothes from the last 4 days are in the bathroom after his shower
besides talking to him how do i break him of this ( tried talking he gives me that either blank look or yea i will do it and doesn't) its driving me crazy i gotta spend my whole day off cleanin up his mess ( i work 4 or 5 in a row one off to do it all over again)
some times he cleans but it seems like he wants a metal of honor for doing it
2007-11-06
02:29:33
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its so hard not clean im a NEAT FREAK this apartment is small enough but im going nutts i can only sit in this room because its spotless right now i don't even want to step into the next room
2007-11-06
02:38:39 ·
update #1
we have been together for going on 4 years now and when he still lived w/ his parents his parents house was the same way his sisters are/were PIGGGSS!!! so his mom just didn't clean up after them...he said it was cuz of them and cuz his room was so small i believed him i should have known better im kicking myself now!
2007-11-06
02:43:33 ·
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Guys do that... hell, people do that. Why do today what can be put off until tomorrow? I say what is today but yesterdays tomorrow. Tell him you work hard and dont deserve to come home and work hard some more. But be nice, you ARE pointing out a "flaw" of his and nobody likes to hear that. Tell him if he spent the 5 minutes it takes to clean up after himself then you two would have time to do much more interesting things. Oh, and if he wants a metal of honor, give him one! What-ever motivates him to make this change for the better.
2007-11-06 02:36:28
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answered by cecil0986 2
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Hey girl
I know it`s so freakin annoying. I live with my man from almost a year now. Been dating for two years.
And the whole time he`s been a slob.
I work nights- He works days.
Every night I come home. I could follow the path where he`s been.
Clothes every where. His work boots in the door way. Dishes by the computer.
Here I thought my dog would be a handful.
I told him what do you think you have a maid living here? He always says he`s too tired after work to clean up.
I love him and all. But if I don`t clean up. My house will always be dirty...
Good Luck to you.
And if you do find a way to break him of being a PIG!!!
Let me know.
cause nothing I`ve tried seemed to work..
2007-11-06 02:38:59
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answered by candy 3
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yes, most guys are like that, you have to spell it out for him. If this is the way he was use to living he sees nothing wrong with the house, and thinks you are just gripeing.
Sit him down, get rid of the distractions or he won't listen. Tell him, if you have to work to help pay the bills, then he needs to share in the housework, explain, you were not raised that way, and after working all night you do not want to come home to a mess! Tell him, to just clean up after himself, and you expect the house to look the same way you left it before you went to work.
Men can be trained, but if you don't push, he won't do anything, because the cleanliness of the house is not important to him, let him know it is to you!
If this doesn't work, and you come home to a messy place, say I thought I talked to you about this? I thought you understood how important this was to me, obviously my concerns don't matter to you, I am going to my friends, could you do me a favor and call me when you have this s h i t cleaned up?
2007-11-06 03:27:26
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answered by charm1936 4
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honey, sad to say but Ive never met a man that was any different. Unless you make a man do something around the house they are not going to do it. I think that they think we are their moms. Ive been married for 17 years and I have to tell him all the time, how about putting your dishes in the sink, or when leaving for work, Ill tell him how about cleaning up a little while I'm gone. It seem to work some. But raising H--- about it wont do any good. One day he told me all you have to do is ask, why should I have to ask? He should know what has to be done, I guess men just don't worry about how things look. But I just ask anymore or suggest and things are a little better. I guess that's all I can expect. Good Luck~!
2007-11-06 02:37:51
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answered by sunshine 4
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Most guys are like that. You can try leaving it there one time and let him run out of glasses (hide some for yourself). Then when he runs out tell him if he wants any cleaned do it himself. As for the clothes try putting them on his drivers seat of his car. That should get a point to him. If these items bother you that much let him know that these items are deal breakers and you are thinking of leaving because you cannot handle it all working and cleaning all the time. You never know what you have till it is gone! Start off nice though and when nice gets you nowhere then get going. Good luck.
2007-11-06 02:36:21
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answered by Matthew S 2
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nicely Laura...i think I pose the question: How long have you ever been around weapons and how long have you ever been shooting. i'm 17, so not too lots older and no you at the instant are not loopy by potential of anymeans. You curiuos, diligent, and look to have a sturdy head on your shoulders. i don't be responsive to weapons interior and out. i be responsive to the basics. once you're finding to make this a profession, or a pastime, or do basically it for exciting, or perhaps to help human beings then initiate small and artwork your way up. study the basics of the firearms you will study then start to get greater in intensity, like grainage, bullet upward push and fall, barrel twist and how it impacts velocity, set off pulls, and so on. i'm not by potential of anymeans an authority yet have a generic knowlege. i think of you being youthful and wanting to get a greater in intensity knowlege of weapons. you have a procedures yet you will accompish lots. you at the instant are not loopy. might your photographs be many and your misses be few.
2016-09-28 11:03:30
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answered by mcelwaine 4
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Oh honey...
for the most part- yes all guys do this, some are just much worse than others. Just kindly remind him that you are not his mother and now that he is an adult, he should clean up after himself. I'm not guarenteing that it will work, but at least he will know how you feel.
Hey it could be worse. My friends husband never remembers to flush to toilet, ever. And he leaves starbucks cups with small amounts of coffee and creamer all over his rehersal space. One time the dogs knocked a bunch of them over and drank the rotten coffee w/creamer and got really sick all over the studio. They had to pay to get it cleaned, lol. He is much cleaner now, but still doesn't flush!
Good luck!
2007-11-06 02:34:54
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answered by Anonymous
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YES! In some form or another all men do that....whether they choose to admit it or not. I agree its very irritating but, if you dont say anything, nothing will change. My step daughter is married to a LAZY man. They have a baby together and he doesnt help at all. He comes home and sits down and plays video games. The man is 30! See what I mean..... :) I learned my lesson early on and married a man who had been trained by another woman :) Because he is so willing to help me clean or cook I am more willing to overlook this stuff.
2007-11-06 02:36:29
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answered by Anonymous
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Communication is key. Tell him you are not living in filth and refuse to clean up after him now is the time to set the presidence for the future of your relationship be willing to stand up for yourself and to accept that when you rock the boat it will either make him do the clean up or leave its like a show down stick to your guns if he leaves he will be back on your terms. Or in front of him bring the trash can in and put all his dirty dishes in the trash...Make an impression he won't soon forget!
2007-11-06 02:39:17
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answered by rjm 4
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Yes all men are like this..I have been married for 15 years and I am still picking up after him..As to any help for the problem, just keep talking to him and if that does not work stop doing things around the house.
2007-11-06 02:34:39
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answered by Anonymous
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