WIVES: Do you try to look your absolute best for your husband as possible?

Question

I mean as physical appearance. Do you feel this is important, or do you feel that "I'm married, I got what I want. If he don't like it, he can leave and I'll take half?"

Just curious.

Answer 1

I personally take my physical appearance very serious, I try my best to keep my body in shape for myself #1 and then for my hubby, I dont allow myself to get fat and out of shape, believe me, Ive been their before and I hated myself, but never again! I see women all the time with the attitude of Im big and I love it, or Im a full figured woman, reality is, their obese, and in denial, and they only say these things to justify being obese. And they claim their hubbys love them just the way they are! Now you cant tell me that any red blooded man in America today can honestly lay down next to a 300 plus woman and say shes attractive? I find that hard to believe! Looking good is all about respecting yourself and loving who you are as a woman, and you dont have to be thin as a rail but do be healthy, the same goes for men, because this goes both ways.

Answer 2

Honesty sometimes maybe a few times a month I can care less how I look but thats mostly because I work 9-6 have a 7month old daughter whos filled with energy and have to go home cook,clean,get my hubby lunch and clothes ready for the next day sometimes I just dont have the energy to put that extra effort ...but after 6years I still try to look my best most of the time..plus I have to make time to go to the gym and keep in shape..so I guess physically I always work out everyday so i stay in shape but sometime i like to dressed relaxed..

Answer 3

I don't jog 20 miles a day in order to make myself look my best. I'll admit that I can look raggedy in front of him...but only as much as he looks slobbish around me. When we go out I strive to look my best because I know that he's going to be seen with me...even if we're just running out to grab a burger somewhere. We work in the same city that he works in, so we'll usually run into someone he knows.

But around the house I'm not all that concerned. However, I do draw the line at wearing the same clothes for days in a row. That's just a preference of not being stinky around him.

I think a guy would get tired if his wife were to be dressed up and made up every single day around the house, yet I agree that there should be some sort of happy medium between slob and Prom Date. You're right--I need to get my act more together!!!

Answer 4

Anecdotal unscientific survey taken at 3 major southern california malls (Fashion Island, South Coast Plaza, Brea Mall) in the past 4 months with that exact idea in mind:

married women (ring, accompanied by husband) observed: approximately 900-1,000. sorry no age breakdown available.

of that number, women "looking their best": 130 or so, which translates to about 1 in 7. 6 of 7 didn't. And i mean everything from crocs and dirty pajama bottoms to dirty bedroom slippers and plaid shorts with a big tee shirt to jeans 2 sizes too small with a big fugly sweatshirt to low rise jeans making that hideous g*ddamned muffin top gunt to Chicken McNugget all beige velour "warm up" suits, size 24, to a skin-tight lime green top that shows your flabby navel is 3 inches deep and holds a cup of water to contrived ways to show off your new shoulder/a$s/belly/boob prison tatt to... shudder.

Which translates very closely to what % of men complain they don't get enough sex in thier marriage. 6 out of 7. Hmmmm.

It's no fun rating guys so some woman will have to step up and do that.

Answer 5

I care about how I look to my husband. Before he comes home I fix my makeup and hair, freshen my perfume and make sure the house looks clean. I greet him at the door for kisses too because once he's in, the kids are ALL OVER HIM. Then I have to wait my turn again. And it's always worth the wait!

Answer 6

I do because it gives me confidence in myself and that helps me to treat my husband better. It's all works like a network (marraige). I do this, you do this and then together it works out great. People get all messed up by letting themself slack in some areas. I think that to truly care for someone- you have to care for yourself first. Letting yourself go is one way to show you don't care. Then on another hand, it's sometimes hard to escape. I know because have let myself go once. I lost over 100 pounds 8 years ago and have kept it off. I still understand how it all could catch up with you. So.. that's what may be going on with your wife. The best way to correct it is to just show you love her even when she looks like crap. You could mention how you feel, but by no meens to do you be meen and demanding.

Answer 7

Nothing is perfect. In other words, I am sure I could look better. He likes the way I look and dress. If it is good enough for him, it's good enough for me.

I am by no means an ugly gal, but I am not going to go out of my way to look like the queen of New Gloukenshire (an inside joke he and I have occasionally) for anyone at anytime.

Answer 8

I think you always wonder what your husband thinks of you...I always try to look my best for him but, also for me...Even when I think I'm just running around in anything he gets more turned on that I can bring out whatever it is I'm wearing...I think if you feel good then it doesn't really matter what you have on, you will look GOOD.....

Answer 9

There is a reason you asked this questions besides just curious. Some people do and some don't and some base their relationship on looks. Which are you?

Answer 10

I don't wear make-up all the time but I do make sure my hair is done, to be honest that's more for me than anything, he loves me whatever I look like (and I know for a fact as I have been ill recently and unable to look good and he still loves me)