ok... i know my wife has been involved in an affair & i also know that she is still text msging this jerk even though i have asked her 2 stop. i have come up with a plan of action and wanted opinions. i get paid 2 days fm 2day & when i do i am packing some things and moving bk 2 my mothers home which is about 2 hrs fm here. i cant take it anymore. when i ask her about the texting she just tries 2 lie and tell me its not happening or that it is old. i want 2 send her a clear msg that i will leave and not come bk. what does anybody think?
2007-11-06 01:29:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A friend of mine had the same thing happen to her. She waited for her husband to go to work and rented a moving truck and left while he was at work. She sent him a messege and it was LOUD and CLEAR.
2007-11-06 01:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by just me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is cheating and you can prove it you should file for divorce (your marriage will never recover anyway -she has already cheated on you).
If you own the house you are in and you move out as you plan you will find it extremely difficult to get your fair share when the divorce comes through.
Be rational - its not about love any more - it's about getting your fair share of £££££.
If you don't have any financial ties (eg renting) then just get out - but I would suggest moving out to your mothers would be a bad idea - just move out of there and rent somewhere and stop ALL financial commitments to the old place.
2007-11-06 01:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back you up on this action. Without action, there will be no change. Your wife has taken full advantage of your feelings and lacked respect for her marital vows by having this affair with someone else. By you staying there and asking her to stop has not given her any reason to listen to you. So I say, if you have a chance to leave, then do so. And if she decided she wants you back you must not make it easy for her to get you back. She needs to get a wake up call. Best wishes to you and I do hope all works out for you!
2007-11-06 01:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm amazed that you have stuck it through all this time...I know this must be hard for you and I'm sure because you love her if she would have totally cut the ties between this affair you would have stayed...You need to remember that you didn't do anything wrong...You have been faithful and loyal to both her and your marriage...It's time you think about you and focus on yourself....Its sad to see that she might have lost the best thing that has happened to her...I hope you find someone deserving of you and your love...Best wishes...
2007-11-06 01:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe threaten it but dont do it yet? Its obvious you have trust issues, and for good reason, but where does it end? When does the doubting stop? Did she apologize? Did you two talk about it? Where is your relationship now?
You need counseling if you ever plan to stay together.
2007-11-06 01:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by noones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves, and if leaving and moving back home to your mom's is a good solution, then do it....
You don't have to give her an explanation or excuse, i think she will figure out why you are gone.
2007-11-06 01:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not pack her things and put them outside the door. When she asks whats going on, tell her she can go live with the person she's having the affair with. Then change all the locks. I think then she might get the hint.
2007-11-06 01:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by cooter726 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wood leeve her 2 today and find me 2 better women 2 get 2 know , then 2 , I wood go to my mothers house 2 , cause she wood tell maybe 2 more lies 2 me , i can not trust a 2 timing woman 2 tell the truth ... thats my 2 pesos worth advise
2007-11-06 09:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not just show her that you will leave and not come back! You should actually LEAVE AND DON'T GO BACK!!!
Why would you want to endure a cheating wife???
2007-11-06 01:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good idea. You should make her take you seriously and it seems that she isn't and just playing games with you.
2007-11-06 01:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋