This B*&!# my fiance has kids with is so crazy & jelous of our family we have, she is alwats trying to start stuff. Well I normally dont care but she is 25 yrs old and went to the extreme of calling my little boys names. They are only 6 yrs & 20 months. they are so innocent and dont know anything. She was calling them mutherf's and saying they are ugly (which I KNOW is out of jelousy0 b/c my boys are sweet & so adorable. But as a mom I just want to really flip out on this heffer or something. I dont care what she says but I dont know what to do b/c she has crossed the line but I dont want to get arrested for going to her home but I feel I need to stand up for my boys. How do I handle this in a mature way as a mother should?
2007-11-06 01:09:37 · 8 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one has any right to bully, abuse, or berate your children. That is simply mean.
Momma bear time. A mother bear will do ANYTHING to protect her cubs. Get in her face -- don't demean her children, that accomplishes nothing, but make it clear she backs off. YOU might be fair game for her petty, insane jealousy, but you're an adult and should be able to take it. Dumping on the kids -- no way.
And your fiance should man up and also get in her face about this. If the adults wanna have a shitstorm, well, go ahead. But don't involve the kids -- NEVER involve the kids. They don't deserve that sort of toxic environment.
2007-11-06 01:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even bother...As a mother, I'm sure you are livid but, it's not worth getting yourself in trouble with the law over it...She's just trying to get to you and you will be feeding in her antics if you give her the time of day...That's exactly what she wants...Never let her know that she's getting to you because she will continue using your children in the middle until someone eventally gets hurts...Let your fiance know about the situation and allow him to deal with her in a mature manner without putting his kids on the line neither...She might just use their kids to get to him as well...Be the bigger person and try to let this go...You will feel less stress when you just focus on something more important..
2007-11-06 01:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a good father. When are you getting married? If you get married, the courts will give such a great father custody.
Then you won't have to see the "heifer" any more. Except maybe for visitation.
2007-11-06 01:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by tribuck76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is stay away it will keep you out of trouble and it will show your children that you are the better person dont give in and let evil take a hold of you or else it will consume you and you will end up acting like her
2007-11-06 01:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL!! I would call her and TRY to have an adult conversation with her, with your fiance there and explain to her that you love and respect her children and would never dare treat them badly and she must not call your children names b/c they have nothing to do with this....it's sad that she is that immature and has to stoop so low....
2007-11-06 01:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her show her that whatever she says doesnt faze you. Remember Jelousy is another form of respect. Shes mad cause you have what she cant have.
2007-11-06 01:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. & have a mature conversation with her.
She needs to grow up.
2007-11-06 01:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by BB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's immature don't pay her any attention
2007-11-06 01:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋