When I hear people say that, it kind of sounds like an oxymoron to me. Isn't that exactly what makes the relationship, the amount of love in it? NOT that generic relationship high. But the genuine thing.
People say that "love isn't enough," because relationship take work. But doesn't the amount work put into the relationship have to do with the amount of love you have? If "love" is real. . .
So isn't "love is not enough" a false statment?
Hell, first you gotta find out how much love was there to being with. . .if any. . .
2007-11-06 01:09:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LIKE I SAID FOLKS, I WASN'T TALKING ABOUT THAT GENERIC FAKE LOVE. I WASN'T TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE JUST RUNNING OFF OF EMOTIONS.
2007-11-06 01:58:15 · update #1
I spent 20 years in a marriage that was very unhealthy for me and my children. To this day, I still love my ex-husband. I just am not "in love" with him anymore. But, I care about him, and I hope he's ok. If you truly love someone, I believe you'll probably love them forever.
However, even though I love him, I can't live with him. I have no doubt that he'll go to his grave still loving me too. The heart is capable of loving people despite the fact that they can do some pretty horrible things and/or despite the fact that they just might not be right for you.
You'll probably experience this at least once in your life. I truly do believe LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH.
Good luck...
2007-11-06 01:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You bring up a very valid point when you say that the amount of love you have for someone is supposed to help you work through things...but that in and of itself is not enough. It will make it easier to deal with troubled times, it will allow you to be more tolerant of the other person if it is true love, but it will not be able to do all the work for you. Because after you get married there are so many things to work through. I noticed a lot of people mentioned money and paying bills--that's a biggie. And then there's housework. No matter how much love people have for each other, it won't get the housework done, it won't get the kids cleaned up and raised properly...etc.
So maybe the saying should be "Love isn't enough...but it's a great start!"
2007-11-06 02:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Trust me a strong relationship must be built on more than emotion.Just like a building you need a firm foundation.A couple must work together at being a couple because you are trying to get two different people to share a life together .Each must learn to give and take, realize they aren't the boss and that they are not always right .They must realize each other has a voice ,each other has needs,expectations and dreams. Love will see you through the good times but you really need to like each other to get through the daily ups and downs of being a couple. ( finances, chilldren, jobs, work schedules,health both good and bad, different interests etc).Love is accepting the person you are with warts and all.
2007-11-06 01:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a romantic notion to think that by loving someone we can make the relationship work. But as others can testify, we all have loved and still were unable hold on to the relationship due to lack of skills to resolve conflict, not being mature enough to understand the concepts of a lasting relationship. Broken hearts are cause due to being left by someone who no longer loves us. The love gets lost due to disappointments, letdowns, misunderstandings, hateful words, etc etc. Love by itself cannot sustain itself. Two people in love need to bring forth into the relationship skills and knowledge on how to maintain that love so that it grows throughout the years.
2007-11-06 01:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is many stuff. genuine love is unconditional, forgiving, compromising, dedication without compromise, teamwork, friendship, believe, greater forgiveness--lol, putting anothers needs previously your very own--works the two approaches--tolerance, self forgiveness, finished honesty and transparency, no expectancies without acknowledgment of expectancies, being waiting to place your changes aside for a time to talk at a non emotional time, it is somebody who makes you sense sturdy and sense sturdy approximately your self, laughter, excitement, unhappiness, so chuffed you sense you will burst, so mad u ought to spit lol, forgiveness, balanced--and whilst a man or woman is so significant to you, you opt to pass by way of all of the heartaches and joys of life with that man or woman. there's a susceptible area to it---once you have all this with somebody, you would be able to desire to treasure it and manage it applicable---it can not be a present day you may shop. it isn't any longer unavoidably an undemanding component to believe somebody and not be on their *** all of the time approximately what they are doing whilst they are no longer with you. guy, that's like chasing your tail. you would be able to desire to be waiting to believe somebody you profess to love or it's going to be an undesirable one. I even have it, each so often it scares me--(afraid he gets in an twist of fate or something) yet, i does not have neglected it for something in the international.
2016-11-10 10:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by joerling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't pay the bills, doesn't put food on the table, doesn't pick up the household, fold laundry, wash dishes.
Love doesn't get the practical things done. It's not that hard.
2007-11-06 01:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love wont pay the bills, In other words.
2007-11-06 01:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by BB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love don't give me money when I'm hungry
2007-11-06 01:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means they have given up
2007-11-06 01:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by dawn l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋