How do I forgive myself for making stupid mistakes and move on with confidence?

Answer 1

Keep trying.
Never ever give up. [Winston Churchill]

Answer 2

you don't say what the mistake was but if it was in a relationship you have to realize that often trusting the wrong person is a mistake and something that happens and you should not beat yourself up about. Try to build up your self esteem by doing things that make you feel better about yourself and let what happened yesterday be a part of your past and not your future. You can read books that help as well, like as a man thinketh. If the mistake has to do with a relationship, you can put understanding body language in your search engine or handwriting wizard, and learn how to tell whether a person is someone you should trust or not and it may make it easier to move into the future with confidence that you won't make that mistake again. Remember that every great think ever acheived was because there was a lot of trials and mistakes before the end result. Good luck to you!!

Answer 3

Take comfort that while you may have made bad decisions in the past, you've learned what not to do in the future.

Some people, sadly, have to learn by doing things the hard way (I'm unfortunately one of those people). Actually, I believe there's something that everyone will one day have to learn the hard way, even if they learn everything else by following precautions, advice and warning.

There are some things you just can't warn against.

As for the moving on with confidence, you know enough now to be able to give good advice to other people as to what to do if they get themselves in a situation similar to any of the situations you've been in that didn't go well.

While it's never good to continuously dwell on the past, we all do the whole "shoulda, coulda, woulda" thing, and likely after thinking them through a while, you'll someday have a good answer for how to best remedy situations (assuming your mistakes were situational), or how to best avoid some of the mistakes you've made.

Who knows, you may even be able to help someone else here on Yahoo! Answers ;) < /lame tagline >

Answer 4

The ONLY stupid mistakes .... are the ones that you don't
LEARN and GROW from.

We are ALL human .... and we ALL make mistakes.

The goal, however, should be ... to LEARN from your mistakes and ... to NOT repeat the SAME mistakes over and
over!

Make a deliberate CHOICE that you WILL NOT "define yourself" by your past mistakes. Do NOT be ashamed of
YOUR mistakes ... Everyone has done or said things that
they regret.

The best way to MOVE ON is to look at the future as an
"opportunity" to triumph over the PAST! (Again) this is
a DELIBERATE CHOICE! Nobody gets to decide on "how you proceed after a mistake" .... BUT YOU!

Making a mistake is NOT the worst thing in life ... Letting
a mistake stifle you ... or define you inaccurately .... IS A
TERRIBLE thing! (Part of maturing is understanding this!)

P.S. Since your question is in the "Marriage & Divorce" category .... I must ask ... Have YOU made a "mistake" in
regards to YOUR marriage??? The (above) still applies,
however, you HAVE to understand that "some" mistakes
have GREATER consequences! Harder to "move on" BUT
DEFINITELY possible!

Answer 5

I'm very hard on myself, so I know of what you speak. However, when I flub something up and I think, "I'm so stupid. I shouldn't have done that!' too much, then something ELSE stupid will inevitably happen. Therefore, it is vital for you to move on...or at the very least make yourself think that you're moving on. Because the last thing you want to do is make another mistake, right?

You have to be kind to yourself and at the same time try to avoid these mistakes again.

Answer 6

First of all you apologise to people you have hurt by your mistakes without making excuses for yourself and by accepting full responsibility for the wrong you have done. Then you take it one day at a time doing good things for yourself and for others. Learn by your mistakes by not repeating them. To make amends, take on some type of charitable project that allows you to give of your time to others. Slowly you will begin to feel better and this will help you to forgive yourself. You will know that you are human, and you are allowed to make mistakes as long as you are truly sorry for them. If your self respect was damaged from this, then from here on behave as a person others can respect. Be proud to be the wonderful person you are, you are because you have a conscience, and that conscience is what is making you want to move on with confidence. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

It's a conscious decision of the will...
Accept that you are human.
Accept that it's OK for you to make mistakes.
Accept that you made some of the mistakes in the marriage.
Understand that we all make mistakes in our marriages.

Learn what you contributed to the breakdown in the marriage so you don't repeat it in a future relationship.

Once you accept yourself as human and that it's ok for you to have made mistakes, even really big or stupid ones, you will find it much easier to move on. Once you learn what you contributed to the problems in the marriage, and have grown stronger because you know how to avoid the same mistakes, you will move on with confidence.

We all suffer traumas in our lives. That's not important. It's what we do with it... what we learn from it that is important.... and we need to learn and grow from each trauma.

Answer 8

Confidence has to be earned. I'm not trying to be mean here, just honest.

You gain confidence as you experience success in your life. If you've made some mistakes and you're trying to recover from them, give yourself some time. Pain is a signal to grow, not to suffer. You don't have to forget your mistakes, you need to learn from them. I read a quote once, I actually have it taped to my computer. "Positive change in your life will not be finished today but it can start today".

There's no reason you can't be the kind of person you'd be proud of. Little by little, your confidence will grow along with your pride. Start just by acting the way you want to be until eventually, you'll be the way you want to be.

Guess you can tell I've had to do a lot of growing myself. We all do. It's a life-long process....if you're trying, you'll get there. Good luck...

Answer 9

Everyone makes mistakes and you need to give yourself some slack. I know sometimes it is hard to forget something you have done wrong but you need to look to the future and forget about the past. You cant change the past and what you have done but hopefully you learned from your mistakes and will not make them again. So hold your head high and be proud of what you are and forget what happened in the past. If you forget others will too

Answer 10

u have to forgive and forget and move on!cant change the mistakes u made.and in some point of life the mistakes u make is what u choose!just put one foot in front of the other and move on!life is to short !

Answer 11

You have to realize that God forgives us and remembers it no more against us. If we are truly sorry, we should not allow satan to continually torture us with it. We should move on, learn from our mistake and realize that this is how we grow.